Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 21 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Apparently the Tesco tests are notorious for giving false positive after MC as they are SO sensitive. I knew they were sensitive as they gave me a decent line with afternoon wee on 8dpo with the pregnancy I just lost. Was madness. So I think I've obviously got the tiniest but of tissue sitting in there somewhere which will hopefully get flushed out very soon .

Counting huge hugs darling . I've been there quite a few times now and all I can say is you will feel better. I don't know when, but when I joined this thread I was hanging onto my sanity by my fingernails and yet I'm now decorating the house and having normal conversations with family again. I honestly thought I wouldn't crawl out of the hole and yet somehow I did. Much love to you xxxx

Counting am heartbroken for you, I really am.

Please don't make any decisions yet re work. Just take it one day at a time.

I remember the raw grief only too well. xx

Minnie I know that feeling. All I can think about is how I will cope with mc 4

Big hugs to everyone. I'm a bit teary this afternoon, had an argument with DP because I'm a mardy cow

Lots of love to you all xx

Oh counting I'm so very sorry. It's so hard and the heartbreak can feel unbearable, time helps so hang in there. Please don't worry about work or beat yourself up, your health comes first. Big love and hugs xxxxx

Counting, been trying to post for hours but wind is affecting internet.
Don't worry about work, do what's best for you. Work will sort itself out.
In ten years' time you could be working with different people, in a different job, for a different employer. But you'll still be you, and your health is the most important thing.

Counting** Breath. One moment at a time, then a minute, an hour, a day. God help us all for knowing the tsunami of pain that's washed over you today. I think if we could all build a break-water with our own backs for you and shelter another woman on this thread from experencing this, we would. For now i suppose you just have to know that if you do get washed away, we are here to pick up the flotsam and jetsom...sending you comradeship and love. Forget wanker work. Focus on yourself. Xxx

counting i echo the comments of others, prioritise you, nothing else matters right now, sending you big hugs x

mrsd congratulations!!

All I can add counting is big hugs and best to let the grief come out now it's started. X

Hugs counting.Xxx

Counting - one day/hour/minute at a time. Don't try and think about work, or your mum, or anyone else and what they are doing. It's your loss and your grief, and you need to deal with it in whichever way feels right for you. Sending hugs xx

AndCounting, so sorry to read that the grief has hit you hard. Thinking of you.
Waves to all xx

Thank you, lovely lovely voices.
freckle I love the way you expressed that. Thank you.
biscuits thank you for the long view.

I'm still in the thick of it. So many tears I have a headache and feel sick. But the way out is through. I let my mum come in at bedtime for chat and cuddles. Poor mum, I'm so prickly, even though I'm trying not to be. And she's leaving tomorrow. My Dad and stepmum then arrive then to take care of us. (DH is in USA this til sat). One hour at a time.

Thank you all. Xx

counting I'm so sorry, when that wave hits there really isn't anything like it and there's nothing you can do, just cling on knowing that it will get better, you just need to ride it out.

Good luck today cheesy, I'll look out for you if we're early!

Good luck today Cheesy. If AF rocks up on top I shall be there in three weeks!!

*on time

Thanks march and same to you too! We're aiming to get there super early to give us plenty of time for parking up. Got some strong ibuprofen to take beforehand too.

Saw my pg cousin (due end Jun) yesterday for the first time since Xmas day (who Ive been avoiding) and pleased to say I was ok, didn't feel upset or angry or anything bad.

brummie hope you and dp have made up.

counting glad you've got family coming to look after you. I say take advantage and ask them to cook and clean and make sure you're fed a proper meal. I hope the extreme rawness subsides soon but until then, as barking posted a while back, one foot in front of the other will get you through, and we're all walking with you Xxx

So much emotion on here.

counting I'm glad you're not alone whilst dh is away. You are being so brave. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about you and the horrible place you're in, which we all know, the dark place deep in our hearts. One moment at a time. Freckle put it so well xx

Good luck at Coventry today march and cheesymash! The parking will be fine and there's places you can get coffee, etc in the main building. Let us know how you get on.

Hugs for everyone who need needs them this Monday morning x

Ooh, March and Cheesy, enjoy Coventry, iyswim! It is a brilliant service and being listened to and understood is such a relief. I still need to send them a thank you card to add to their wall.

Freckle, beautifully put x

Good luck today cheesy!

Good luck Cheesy & March. Hope Coventry Rocks for you x

Thanks all. Sounds weird to say I'm excited but feeling very optimistic

Good luck cheesy and march

All the best at Coventry cheesy and march.

Best of luck today Cheesy and March. I hope it goes well.

And well done Cheesy for getting on ok seeing cousin. A friend of mine gave birth last Nov soon after mc1 and whilst I haven't been consciously putting it off I have made firm arrangements to meet this Thu. Bit nervous, but also can't wait to meet the little chap.

Counting glad you were able to let your Mum in for a cuddle. They're worth much more than any words sometimes. Will be thinking of you today.

DP and I seem to be jeopardising our chances as we approach ov by having silly little arguments. Need to chill out!