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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 21 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Justonemoretime · 08/04/2015 08:39

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Justonemoretime · 22/04/2015 21:50

Sun, I never confirmed that the spotting was anything to do with the progesterone irritating the cervix, but I changed anyway just in case it was a part of the problem.

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Minnie74 · 22/04/2015 22:02

mrsc hugs for the baby bomb. It is just awful. My stomach literally drops every time I'm hit by a new one. And close friends is so much worse. Not selfish to hate it all at all Wine Flowers

freckle could be possible you ovd but the stick didn't pick it up? I use a CBFM (or was) and the month I got pg with mc3 it didn't pick up ov. I had all the signs ewcm, cervix etc so we just carried on dtd for a bit. Obviously I had ovd (probably never bloody will again!) but it missed it. I test in the morning and wonder if I ov in afternoon. Maybe it's just that?

just Grin at the acupuncturist convo

Sunandrainbow · 22/04/2015 22:04

Hey just - yes I read that it can cause irritation and wondered if that's what it was for me. Have to say I'm glad in a strange way as it forced me to try the back door and would definitely just go that route in future to avoid the mess. x

Sunandrainbow · 22/04/2015 22:12

Re-reading my earlier post just and think I was a bit confusing. Didn't mean you had told me at the time that it could cause irritation, just that I thought you also mentioned it in an ealier post tonight.... sorry x

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Justonemoretime · 22/04/2015 22:16

That's OK Sun, I just wanted to make sure I'd been clear that it wasn't definitely the progesterone causing the spotting, just a possible contributory factor (or possibly nothing at all to do with it). I didn't want to claim a definitive answer/correlation. :)

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longestlurkerever · 22/04/2015 22:20

Going against the grain here i used front door and didn't find it too messy.

freckle I have never had much luck with opks. Fx you did ovulate and just missed the surge somehow.

tannyLoo · 22/04/2015 22:45

Sorry, been busy finding new ways to entertain three year olds. Great for him but I'm knackered!

I just dropped in to say wrong un for me too. I tried fanjo but it just came back out Blush . No mess but a slight bit of irritation after a while .

Brummiegirl15 · 22/04/2015 23:19

Blimey what have I started??!!!! Blush

Loving all the honest open answers though!!

Defo looks like back door is the best way. Not a sentence I ever thought I'd say.....

cloudjumper · 22/04/2015 23:38

My GP told me that the prog can be irritating, and to alternate front and back, if that happens. I had early spotting last time (which might or might not have been caused by the progesterone), so I'm not taking any chances - the back door it is. Only very little leakage, far less messy.

Sorry to hear about the nasty babybomb, MrsC, it's always worse if it's close friends.

Love your story, brummie, serves them right!

I'm feeling smug - DH really wants a birthday party for DS this year, and so he is currently trying to design the invited. Lots of swearing coming from his study Grin

Marchgirl · 23/04/2015 06:29

Sorry about the babybomb mrsc. So hard. I also had one this week when a colleague brought in her new baby who was born a couple of weeks before the lobster was due. I thought it was going to be a quick visit but she was sitting down doing a load of work stuff while other people walked the baby round, right past me. I was ok for a while and just avoided looking but then it started crying and just would not stop. That crying that makes any woman want to help it. Ended up leaving an hour early to get away from it and sat in the car crying. Just have to make the time up another day as i couldn't do it any more.

bootles · 23/04/2015 07:54

march that sounds hard, and now you have to make up the time as well? Doubly unfair. Really tough when you can't escape.

mrsc sounds like a difficult baby bomb for you too, especially when a close friend.

freckle I agree maybe the opk didn't pick it up? Have you used them successfully before?

Brummiegirl15 · 23/04/2015 07:55

March!Sad xx

tannyLoo · 23/04/2015 08:01

March, that's hard... Crying newborns are a real trigger. I really hope my baby bombs on fb are copeable with.

Jady77 · 23/04/2015 08:42

I've just had a proper meltdown after a flippant comment from DP. Found out a friend of mine is 6 months pregnant recently and just been invited to baby shower. I knew it was coming, but everything's just gotten on top of me. Confusing advice from /lack of NHS support, conflicting ovulation signals, guessing correct day to take prog and FRER test.

Sorry MrsC and March for your baby bombs too. This particular friend of mine, we used to have a joke that when things were going right for one of us it was going bad for the other. Usually with boyfriends, but can't help thinking it's the same for pregnancies now.

Marchgirl · 23/04/2015 08:52

Hugs jady, the pressure of the 2ww is huge, even without the extra pressure of baby bombs and confusion over your treatment plan. Just take it one day at a time. I'm sure once you've got your email from Coventry and your bfp it'll be easier to persuade health care people of what you need.

You will get there. You've got your Coventry super lining and a brand spanking new egg and it's going to work out this time x

Jady77 · 23/04/2015 09:06

Thank you March, that's exactly what I needed to hear. Big hugs to you too, don't like to think of you crying alone in your car. x

sebsmummy1 · 23/04/2015 09:58

So pleased to hear of the happy scans Grin. Having had so many bad ones now I hate the bloody things, but it's nice to know there are people on this thread getting happy news.

Feeling very weird this cycle. No idea if I'm going to Coventry or not, I change my mind about 4 times a day! I'm doing my opks with FMU starting yesterday on cd7. I know it's not ideal but I honestly can't be bothered to hold my wee for hours -it is honestly the most boring part of TTC for me Biscuit

I have this feeling we will end up having sex over the weekend as OH is gagging and I'm hardly pushing him away. I just know if we do TTC and don't catch this month I'm going to be kicking myself that we should have gone to Coventry and got it over and done with.

Re. DS and pre school. I wrote a comprehensive email yesterday morn outlining where we are with his appointments and assessments and acknowledging their concerns. Didn't receive any reply. Not sure if I will but I did feel better got just getting it down.

I'm going to ask them if they want to write something down that I can take with me to his SALT appnt as telling the specialist he threw a toy pig and tends to focus his play on three areas within the room probably won't get her reaching for the referral form. I need to be telling her more detailed stuff I think, as from my point of view, he just doesn't speak!! Otherwise I have no issues with anything he does.

bythesea82 · 23/04/2015 11:10

Morning all,
Sorry for all the baby bombs and good luck for those in the dreaded 2ww!
Just popping in to see whether anyone would like a copy of Prof Regan's book on Miscarriage. Longest kindly sent it to me and I feel it is time for it to have a new home. PM me your address if you would like it and I will send over.
Brew and Cake for all.
Oh and one of these coz I love them Dragon (yup, I am that cool) Wink

sebsmummy1 · 23/04/2015 11:27

Yes please bythesea Grin

Erica21 · 23/04/2015 11:32

Morning ladies,
I've been a bit of a serial lurker for a few months, not coming to terms with my 2 MC's very well last year.
July '14 was a MMC at 12 wk scan, baby was 9-10 wks in size but lost baby at home but needed an ERPC. Got pregnant again but MC in October '14 at 9 weeks after finding an 8cm hematoma and constant bleeding for two weeks (despite two positive hb scans.) Then another ERPC.
I was referred to see a gynae at my local hospital, who was very kind but as expected couldn't offer any tests etc, except suggest low-dose aspirin as soon as I get a bfp. Well, I've waited nearly 5 months before trying again (mainly due to getting a slipped disc pretty much straight after my 2nd MC and not being able to walk for 3 months let alone have sex!) but...
Today I have tested 4 days early and got a bfp. I am slightly sh*tting it now as it's happened quickly. Can you confirm that a low dose of aspirin is a 75mg tablet?

Brew and Cake for everyone having a crap time, or a 2ww or generally just scared to be on this rollercoaster again! Hugs x

bythesea82 · 23/04/2015 11:46

sebs will send Smile

erica congratulations for the BFP, but I feel your fear. I will wait for someone else who knows better to confirm the aspirin but I really hope that this is 3rd time lucky for you.

bakingtins · 23/04/2015 11:50

Hi erica congratulations on the BFP. Low dose aspirin is one 75mg tablet once daily. I hope this one goes well for you, you're v welcome to hang around for support, I'm sure you are super - anxious. Are they offering you an early scan?

Erica21 · 23/04/2015 11:57

Thanks ladies, I'm so grateful for this support group I can't tell you enough!

Baking when I had my 2nd MC, the EPU at my local hospital said I could just call them directly and book an early scan, but they said waiting til 7 weeks would be best... I'm not getting over excited (which is sad but true) but is 7 weeks ideal or can I go earlier?

Marchgirl · 23/04/2015 12:16

Welcome back erica and congratulations! I remember you from last time. I think you mc not long after me in October. I know that feeling of dread very well but this is a new egg, new lining, new pregnancy. Fingers crossed for you this time. I wouldn't advise going before 7 weeks if you can wait that long. At that stage they should see a heart beat, so it's much more clear cut. At 6 you may not see one which could be unnecessarily upsetting if it's just too early and you'd need to go back. My epu say 8 weeks, as there is a major developmental milestone just before that, so if you can hang on til then, would be even better,but I know it's not as simple as that!

longestlurkerever · 23/04/2015 12:42

Welcome back erica! Good luck for a sticky bean.

Sebs hope that book brings you luck. It was originally Baking's copy and Tiny passed it on to me, so it has seen 4 bfps progress past the 12 week scan now.