Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

This is all so shit barking. You've both been through so much. I can't even begin to comprehend how awful this must be. You are so strong and I'm sure you will build up the strength to try with the other egg, but you just need to look after yourself for now. Shout, cry and do whatever you need to feel better

So sorry barking.

Hi me2. Glad to see you back. I would leave it to 14dpo and test again before you give up hope. You might have implanted slightly late so always worth waiting a little bit to give it the benefit of the doubt.
I found that af came 2 days after stopping progesterone but think that my follicular phase was also a day longer (presumably as the prog took a little longer to fully leave my system). Also bear in mind that you may feel a bit down when you come off it. Doc never mentioned that side effect but I felt properly depressed and it really scared me, so just bear it in mind in case you get that too (hopefully not). Mine passed within a week but was easier to cope with when I realised why I felt so bad. Keeping fingers crossed for your bfp anyway xx

Oh barking I'm so so sorry. It's just the shittest thing. Huge hugs xxx

Argh, Barking, God it's just so fucking unfair! I hate that you've gone through all this - you deserve to be pregnant and have your own baby, you really do! Xxx

I'm so sorry barking

barking, I have no words only hugs, fury at the universe, and utter admiration for you. Hope today's appointment can help start to find whatever your next path might be. Do whatever you need to do, scream, shout, pound the pillows. This is so so unfair. We're all here for you x

barking. I'm so sorry. I hope this doesn't sound overly simplistic but this journey isn't over until you and your dp say it is. I can completely understand wanting to stop but just give yourselves some time to regroup. If you do decide to try again there is always a way and where there is a way there is hope. Very very big hug from me.

barking I'm so sorry I wish there was more I could say- sending you hugs xx

I'm so so sorry barking and genuinely gutted for you. I hate how life is so unfair and shit to the best of people. Be kind to yourself, you did everything right. With time I know you will find the strength to go through this again with your frozen embryo, because you are such a strong, amazing lady. Thinking of you xxx

monten I agree that woman sounds like a complete dick. We all think we'd deal with certain things in certain ways but none of us truly know unless faced with it. And when it's such a sensitive and devastating circumstance I think you should keep your mouth shut (especially not post on a public forum) if your beliefs might offend someone who has been through this trauma. And agree with bootles, at the end of the day, it's no one else's business but your own so everyone else's opinion can just f&@k off really! Very on your behalf. I hope you're not letting her (or anyone else equally ignorant) upset you. X

just glad you're back home and both you and baby are well. Must be so worrying for you. I really hope theres no more bleeding and it's plain sailing from here but good to know precautions have been taken if baby decides to make an early entrance. X

me2 I've not been on progesterone yet but I would say wait too 14dpo too just in case.

So sorry baking. Life seems so unfair...

Sorry from me too Barking

me2 you've asked the question that I probably would have in a few days time. First month on progesterone. Zero symptoms so far in 2ww but probably only 8 or 9 dpo. Was told to only take for 7 days and have been puzzling over whether that's long enough.

The progesterone is from days 21 to 28. Test on day 28.

Just spoken to the clinic. Confirmed it failed. Nurse said we'd have to wait a couple of cycles for my body to recover before doing a frozen cycle. More waiting. That'll take us over 3.5 years. I said we wanted to see the consultant first before blindly trying again. If he won't test for nk cells and do a scratch (this is what he mentioned could happen in this situation last time we saw him, on the basis of two mc's plus one failed iui and a failed ivf) I'll take myself to Coventry.
DH is not taking it well. He's usually the strong one .

Thanks or replies. mrsd I h r been v confused about when to start. Coventry said 6/7 dpo but I couldn't tell this month because my temperature and opks conflicted and I didn't even know when my period started (AF after Coventry seemed to start 2 days early but was only spotting so wasn't sure if that counted). So I decided to start progesterone pessaries on what i thought was day 21. I'm pretty sure that was earlier than I should have. When I spoke to Coventry person on phone about this they said that their research finds that progesterone from 7dpo is best. This makes sense - presume you don't want your lining too thick to implant? Hope you get your bfp.

Oh barking that seems like such a long wait.

More big hugs Barking.

Think it's sensible to wait and see consultant. My sister has each time after an IVF cycle and got more info why they think it hasn't work and what they would change for next time.

Either way doesn't take away the disappointment x

Poor dh too barking** am sending him a cyber squeeze, and a pint too. xxx

More hugs barking. That seems like a good idea to see the consultant and ask about nk/scratch. A little bit of time to recover physically and emotionally will probably be a good thing so you're back in tiptop health but I know it's the last thing you probably want to do at the moment. It just seems like the waiting never ends. Be kind to yourselves x

Really feel for you Barking, such a long time to wait. Sounds like you know what steps you want to take next, but still isn't easy. I wish there was something to help ease your pain.

Me2, I'm sure I was told to take progesterone from day 21 (which is 7dpo for the average person ovulating on day 14), test on day 28. Was going to ask actually, whether anyone had found that Coventry had brought AF on early? I went on day 23, but have been bleeding since along with dull ache.

Jady AF came on today for me today on cd 28 which is late for me, although only by a few days.

I'm not any heavier but definitely aches more. Very dull ache and I've needed so me nurofen and a glass of white wine

Barking been thinking about you all day. Am gutted for you. As March said, is worth getting yourself in a better place before making a final decision? I wish I could say something to make you feel better xx

Yes jady - my AF started 2-3 days early but as spotting. Kerri said its normal. I've missed a lot of this thread and last. How did you find your Coventry appt? My results should be ready any min

Oh and it was longer and heavier, th all relative as I've been v light of late