Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 20 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[barkingtreefrog]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

And I mean 6am, obviously

Everything crossed for you Barking.

Ha ha barking 6pm?! I did think you were planning on a surprising sleep epic given the circumstances!! Everything crossed for you to have a positive result tomorrow
Hope camping was good.

Hope all others have had a nice Easter weekend so far

Got everything crossed for you Barking we are cheering you on

I need to clarify...my post re pre natal testing says: ''The point is, even if it had been a different situation for me, with a good chance of life, it would have been my (our) decision to terminate, and no-one elses bloody business". I didn't mean our decision would necessarily have been to terminate, I meant had we been given a 'lesser' diagnosis and still chosen to terminate, that would have been our personal decision and nothing to do with anyone else. This somewhat misses the point of the other thread anyway I know and therefore makes me sound slightly dim. Hope I have clarified slightly.
monten yes, its about having some control.

Sleep well everyone

It didn't work.

bootles that's how I understood your post the first time .

Barking, do I assume you've tested? If so, massive hugs coming your way x

Yes girlie, and with two different brands, both of which gave me a bfp two/three days earlier with the iui that worked. So I don't think there's any room for hope. Off to the clinic now for a blood test, but not expecting the results this afternoon to do anything but confirm a negative. Already on the 'what if I'd fought harder for a scratch or paid privately for one?'

Oh barking my heart goes out to you. To follow your story on here and for it not to work, is just heartbreaking. You worked so hard, you changed a lot of things to give yourself the best chance, please don't give yourself a hard time for not having a scratch - you followed the advice of the clinic and they didn't think it would be of any benefit. Its still such a mystery as to why it works sometimes and not others - you did all you could. I hope you are getting plenty of support in RL, and am sending you loads of virtual hugs. I'm so sorry, it's just horribly horribly unfair xxx

Oh Barking, I am geniually upset for you, but obviously not as much as you are. X

Barking hugs to you. xxx

So sorry to hear this barking. You absolutely have done everything you could have done so please don't think there was something wrong with what you did. It's so cruel that this happens to some people. I hope you're getting lots of cuddles from your dh. I'm gutted for you

Oh barking I am so sad to hear this, I can't imagine how you might be feeling. So many hugs xxxx

Unmn hugs barking.lease don't give yourself a hard time. We're all here for you. xx

So so sorry Barking

I'm so sorry barking but as the others say, you couldn't have done more so don't think 'what if'

Oh Barking I'm so sorry. Wish I could give you a massive hug right now. Please know you've done everything 100% right, as you always do. No one deserves it more than you do and I keep faith that your time will come. Lots of love to you and your DH xxxx

Oh I'm so sorry Barking Thinking of you today.

barking I am so, so sorry. You deserved a positive test so much and I really, really wanted it for you. Why is life so shit and unfair sometimes? Huge hugs. We are here for you.

bootles I understood your post first time too.

Barking I'm devastated for you. You threw absolutely everything at it.

Massive hugs - as Longest said we are here for you xxx

Barking, this is so totally unfair on you! I am sending you a hug and i am shaking my fist at the shitty universe for you

I dont know much about ivf but maybe there is a tiny chance its not showing yet? Can you hold out any hope until you get to the clinic? Isn't there another 2 eggs frozen? - I know that's beside the point, i'm just trying to find some hope in all of this. xxx

Hi all
I was on this thread a while ago buy dropped off when we started ttc after Coventry as I was trying to forget my mcs and get into a better frame of mind. I hope you don't mind me popping in now to ask a question. Having just tested negative I have a few weeks to read back and catch up on how everyone is doing.
So the question is I'm 12dpo and tested neg on first response preg test sticks. Should I stop the progesterone pessaries Coventry put me on from 6dpo? If I'm out I'm thinking I can stop and let af come (I read the pessaries can delay af and I don't want to be waiting too long for the next cycle). But then maybe it is too early to be sure? I have been feeling sick but don't know if that is the progesterone, pregnancy or psychosomatic!
How long after you stop the pessaries does af come? And should I just keep going til 14dpo?
Thanks for any advice.

freckle I'll get the results of the blood test at 1.30, but I really don't hold out much hope given I used a frer and a superdrug, both of which have shown positive 2/3 days early previously. I don't have any of the symptoms I've had before. I'm just gutted. Feel completely exhausted.
Neither of us have taken the news well. We threw everything at it, I can't think of anything else I could possibly have done. And now I'm just pissed off that I've given so much up for so long and still got nothing for it. We do have a frozen one, which should be something to be positive about, but actually I'm just angry that it means this shit still isn't over, and I still can't make any plans as we'll have to go through that cycle as well. But there's nothing to say the embryo will even survive the unfreeze, never mind get me pregnant. It all feels a little pointless right now.

Just to add I'm in progesterone as Coventry protocol. Not actually low (so if stopping pessaries means levels fall surely there is still enough progesterone around?)