Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

How frustrating bump that you don't have a confirmed answer. I've got my fingers crossed for you that everything is ok

I'm sorryBump, that's rough. Fingers crossed for you x

How did it go today suz? I spent quite a lot of today in tears, but at least the first day is over.

Oh AtAt, you poor thing, I'm sorry you had a bad day. You're quite right, the first day is done with, it can only be up from here right? I hope tomorrow is better for you. Do people at your work know what happened?

I actually go back tomorrow, sorry, I do a four day week and Monday is my day off, I'm so used to it I forget it's a weekday! Not looking forward to tomorrow and am completely exhausted, think I will go to bed soon. I think I'm most not looking forward to everyone asking where I've been, I imagine I will just blurt it out if I can't think of a good vague answer. Only my boss and two pregnant friends know (who on hyper alert had already guessed, so I had to tell them). I'm having my first glass of wine, which feels like a bit of a milestone, and wallowing in my jammies in front of Jonathan Creek.

Good luck for tomorrow. I have told people, and some people actually guessed today. I don't mind people knowing, was just hard talking about it.

Thanks, good luck to you too for a better day tomorrow. I don't know how I'd feel about telling people, my immediate team are all roughly my age but single or in newish relationships, they just wouldn't relate at all, as nice as they all are. Maybe I'm overthinking it. I'm just going to keep my head down.

Stupidly, I'm worrying about what to wear now the weather is getting warmer. I thought I'd be in maternity clothes and it wouldn't be a problem.

Hi all, I was on the due in November thread but I'm joining this one now as I've been bleeding since Saturday morning and passed a fleshy walnut-sized clot on Sunday.

Still have to wait another two weeks for a follow up scan as the internal only showed a sac of about 5 weeks, which is worrying as I thought I was at least 7 weeks gone.

I sort of know already that it won't be good news when I go back, but even still this not knowing for certain limbo is torture.

I'm not sure if anyone will know much about the process of MCing, but since the bright red bleeding and some clotting of the last few days, the blood is now coming our brown (sorry if that's TMI). I have been Googling and lots of things online are saying that brown blood is old blood and therefore probably not a MC.

As I mentioned in PP, my appointment isn't for another two weeks so I won't know anything for sure until then, but has anybody had any experience of this? Am I giving myself false hope?

Hi under sorry to read your in this situation but it sounds very similar to what I'm going through at the minute and I understand just how difficult waiting for the scan is.
Everyone seems to have different bleeding so I can't really help you with that- even my mcs have all been different. Did the hospital do any blood tests for you?

No blood tests, just a urine sample. I'm sorry to hear you're going through the same thing and not for the first time

I had something similar in the autumn. I had twin sacs which probably stopped developing around 4/5 weeks, but which hung around for many weeks afterwards. In the end the sacs shrank down. I did not bleed much. By the time of my last scan my bleeding had fully stopped. There was still something left of the sacs but the doctor said it would come out with my next period, which it did. That period was heavy, clotty and lasted two weeks. It was heavier than the earlier mc bleeding.
It is possible that your body will reabsorb some of the sac and you may not bleed heavily.
I did not have any intervention with that mc. It lasted a long time because the sacs were so small I had to wait a long time before the doctor would confirm pregnancy failure.
Your experience may not end up being the same as mine, it varies so much, but hope that helps.

Thank you fromwesttoeast, it is helpful to hear others' experiences otherwise I'd end up getting my hopes up and possibly being very disappointed. I'm really sorry that it didn't end well for you.

Hi under sorry for what you are going through. Mine was different from yours, in that when they scanned me, they couldn't see anything, so it looks like I had already passed it. However, before then, I'd had a mixture of fresh and the brown coloured blood. I'm really sorry that I can't give you a more positive experience

Hi under, sorry you're going through this.

AtAt, how was today, was it better than yesterday?

Thank you AtAt. In a way, that's what I needed to hear. I had already mentally prepared myself for bad news so I was just making my emotions go back and forth.

I hope you're feeling okay today

Bump thank you so much as I have been completely feeling abnormal to no bleeding or passing for a few weeks I am now hitting the 14week mark so fingers crossed bleed should be shortly & I can get some closure may I ask did ur symptoms kick back in throughout your 5wk wait ?... & sorry for your loss too x

Suz thanks for getting back I can ring any day & book in for d&c but due to ivf treatment & endo stage 2 with also being prone to scarring & adhesions I'm hoping not to take this route unless it is essential....

Hi west to east also thank you for replying it is heartbreaking going into 12wk scan & reciving I'm sorry but... They don't prepare us for this outcome... Smiles turn to tears...

I really am hoping for my body to grasp the reality of the pregnancy needs to end but who knows when it is completely overwhelming & confusing I just really want closure now with no complications hopefully all will succeed soon...

I am so sorry all u ladies had to go through miscarriages but without you having done it I'd be lost without the advice so I'm also very thankful xxx

Hi suz today was a bit better, the more I go in, the better it should get. I told a few more people today, which upset me, but I find once they know, it's a bit easier to talk about it with them. I'm surprised at how many other people have gone through it.
bunty I'm so sorry yl hear you are still waiting. I can't even imagine what that is like. Hope you get some closure soon

Hi bunty no i had no return of symptoms I actually just woke up one day full of energy and didn't feel sick- i get anemia quickly in pregnancy so I'm constantly tired and that day I didn't need to sleep and I just knew the pregnancy had ended. It was an odd feeling but during the 5 weeks I felt so normal - like you I'm prone to scarring and infections which is why I was willing to wait so long. Hopefully it will start for you soon but have you considered the tablets to start it off??I haven't used them myself but I've read a few people have xx

That's good AtAt, I'm glad you had a better day. Mine was ok too, I had to do a form for hr but otherwise a normal day.

Weird question I know, but has anyone had their symptoms come back when it's all over? Had my erpc over a week ago and am no longer bleeding, but the last couple of days I've had an overly snotty nose and been sick once in the morning, sudden nausea and a tiny sick. Definitely not pregnant so I'm worried there's some left! I'm not supposed to test for a negative until Easter Monday. Argh!

Oh, by sick once in the morning I mean each morning, not a one off but three in a row now.

Not sick, but I have woken this morning with a really runny nose!

They asked me to test again on the 30th, but I decided to do one this morning. It was negative, which actually bought me some relief, as I feel I can properly move on now. Going to ring the unit to let them know later.
Is it worth testing early suz?

I wasn't told anything about testing again etc and my EPRC was on Friday just gone. Am I supposed to?!?

I am supposed to test three weeks after my erpc, but I was planning to do it a week early, so on Monday. I might do it even earlier, just didn't want to waste a test. Good to hear yours was negative already though, I know exactly what you mean about it being a relief. I've been feeling the same way.

Mini, I was told to do a negative test three weeks after to make sure the hormones have all gone, if they haven't it might mean they've missed some. I was told not to try again until after the test, as it could be unclear if I get a positive result whether it's a new pregnancy or something wrong.

I haven't had my follow up scan yet so I don't really know what happens next (although if I'm being honest, the amount of reading up I've done had left me in no doubt that I have miscarried). What is the erpc?