Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

I was expecting it, but thought it would just be a letter I could have not opened. I didn't realise they texted. I'm ok, was just a bit of a shock.

I can imagine it was, a text is so much more intrusive, and I wouldn't have expected it either.

Hello all, had my EPRC yesterday and all went fine. Hospital were lovely (cept the weird anaesthetist who kept calling me by someone else's name ). Anyway I was happily first on list and home by 4. Had a rest in bed but had dinner with DH and then a normal sleep. Not bleeding too much thankfully so all in all ok (as it can be I guess).

Any ideas about when periods come back, ovulation etc? This was an IVF cycle so my last period was January. I pointed out to DH (who has been a star) that app you are more fertile after a MC so maybe it'd work for us naturally right now even with sperm issues so we should at least try (oh the romance ).

Sorry about the text message AT&T, sometimes technology is great and others it's definitely not

Mini - I had my ERPC yesterday too. Although I was seen first as well I wasn't let out of hospital until 8pm as my blood pressure kept dipping.

Apart from feeling a bit groggy I was fine afterwards, no need for any painkillers.

DH has bought me a load of goodies so I'm going to have a nice relaxing day on the sofa.

I've also heard that you're incredibly fertile after birth and a miscarriage.

It took 5 years for me to get pregnant with DS (with exception of a couple of MCs in between).
This pregnany wasn't planned as such and was a complete shock which is a first for us! So it seems that sometimes your body just remembers what to do - although not very well in this instance

So it's worth a shot!

hi ladies

just regarding some of ur most recent updates you definitely are more fertile after mc but if u dont fall straight away dont panic. sometimes the stress of trying too hard can put a spanner in the works.

i think they expect your period to return about 6 weeks after could be longer, mine came exactly 28 days after erpc. i had one period after erpc then fell pregnant again so there is a little bit of good news for you all if that helps? currently 9+5

glad you are all feeling ok after your surgery.

mini glad it went ok - we are also definitely hoping it doesn't take as long to get pregnant again - we have been trying since Jan 2012! We were supposed to be having IVF/ICSI next month - issues on both sides - but are going to put it off for a few months to see if we can do it naturally again. Fingers crossed!

if glad your surgery went ok too - i hope we are all successful again soon x

AFM my bleeding seems to have mostly stopped, so hoping i'm all done. Not back for bloods until Thursday but hpts are getting pretty faint now, so I hope it won't take too much longer.

Had a delivery of hpts, opks and vits for both of us.... Just got to convince dh that I'm ok....

Hello all. I hope you are having a restful weekend. mini and if, glad it went OK. kep, glad to hear bleeding has stopped... good luck for the TTC. I am also hoping it happens quickly. We were lucky last time - 2nd month TTC - so I really hope that wasn't a 'blip' and it now takes ages...

I had my epu appointment thursday where they confirmed the sac had grown but the foetus shrunk. I was told medical management wasn't an option due to the size/intactness of the sac and encouraged to have SMM (surgical management of miscarriage: they don't call it erpc at my hospital). They said there was a bit of a waiting list so I was a bit down but then when I got home they called and told me I'm booked in for Monday. I feel quite relieved the 'end' is on sight although a bit nervous as I've never had a GA. I was really impressed by the staff at the epu; they spent so long going through everything including disposal of the foetus I really felt they were in tune to how this feels. I have also been asked to be part of a clinical research study into early miscarriage, which I've agreed to as it means I'll get the blood and hormone tests that are only routinely done after 3 MCs. Apparently there is new evidence about a particular hormone produced by the thyroid and MC...

I like that some of you are doing memorials. I bought a rose the weekend after my BFP so that is already 'my bean's' rose. It is doubly fitting that it is the same kind of rose my parents planted after my sister died at 4 months (SIDS) so in my mind my babba and Lettie are both in that plant. I was also thinking of knitting a baby blanket...

Sorry for the extra long post.

stoat, I've just read your post. I'm really sorry you're feeling low. I recommend going to your GP; you clearly have a good grasp of the difference between grief at your loss and feelings of depression. I don't know where you live, or how long NHS waiting lists for MH services are near you, but also maybe worth looking into privately provided counselling. Mind and other charities offer this at income-related pricing. I was diagnosed with depression 3 1/2 years ago. I started seeing a counsellor through a local charity shortly after as the NHS wait was 8 months and he has been invaluable recently.

ibeka so sorry . Dh and I have been talking about what to do in memory of baby, not decided yet, but may get a loose diamond, only a little one, but seems appropriate.

Got a question about hcg levels - i presume i need a negative hpt before i can start using opks? Does hcg drop at the same kind of rate as it rises in early pregnancy - halving every couple of days? Just trying to work out when i'll be near zero if my hcg was just over 200 on Thursday - I presume it will be less than 25 by the next blood test on Thursday.

I hope everyone is ok.

Going back to work tomorrow. I'm dreading it, think I'm going to be a mess. I'm only having to do a half day, so wish me luck

Good luck, AtAt. I've found that some days being at work is better... less time to dwell on everything. Hope it goes OK.

I'm back this week too AtAt, hope it goes well for you! I think I'll be trying to cheer myself up with nice things for lunch, fancy coffee and stuff like that. Hoping I'll be glad to feel normal. And I haven't been able to concentrate at work since we found out so think I'll be very busy indeed which should help.

Hope it goes well Suz I'm on holiday after this week, so I'll just power through.

Me too AtAt, childminder is going away for Easter. I think it's made a difference to how I feel about going in!

Can I ask those of you who have had an ERPC how long you took off work?

I had mine on Friday, felt fine on Saturday, a bit groggy first thing, a little bit of cramping but was fine enough to do some housework etc.

Today has been a different story - got up this morning feeling a bit spaced out and sickly, felt as though I needed some fresh air so took DS for a walk with my DM
Was totally exhausted, felt as though I was either going to pass out or cry in the cafe we stopped at.
Got home at about 4pm and promptly burst in to tears, and haven't really stopped since :( I think I may have over done it slightly, and my hormones have suddenly come crashing down.

I was planning to go back to work tomorrow. Am I being silly?

if take as much time as you need! i was like u, exhausted. it lasted a good 4 days after erpc. i wouldnt rush back to work if i were you. gp will happily sign you off so dont worry about that.

put your feet up tonight and relax and pleased dont rush back to work tomorrow.

oh and i think the exhaustion could be to do with the ga as i felt fine in myself afterwards other than that so think its quite normal, i know another lady on the previous thread was exactly the same too.

Hope it goes well for you back at work at and suz
I finally have my scan tomorrow which is more to confirm for the doctors it's another mc but I'm still dreading it. I think a small part of me still desperately wants a good outcome but the logical part of me knows it won't be

Hi everyone,
I'm currently going through a MMC diagnosed at 12wks 2d with no bleeds & trying to go natural rather than medi pill & d&c vacuum.. My story is I had Ivf after diagnosed with various fertility issues I got my bfp after 7dp5dt fresh 1st ivf at 7wk2d had scan showed strong H/B and measured a day ahead at my 12wk dating scan fri 13/03 the h/b had gone & my little angel stopped growing around 8.5wks after getting over the shock I rang my epu bk & rebooked me for a scan which confirmed diagnosis now 13wks 5d on I still have no bleeding or signs & am worried as my uterus is still growing as previously showed on U/S can anybody please tell me how much longer this will continue b4 I fully lose & has anybody been through this similar to mine as I have seen a couple of posts but all showed bleeding shortly after diagnois thanks and sorry for all ur losses xxx

bump the waiting is horrible, isn't it? I had my scan last week, and although I knew what had happened, I couldn't help hoping for a miracle.
bunty no advice, but for you

I was the same if, I thought I'd be ok a couple of days later but was still asking MIL to pick up the boy four days later as I still felt dizzy and didn't trust myself across roads. I had mine on a Monday and took the rest of the week off, which the surgeon agreed was about right.

Hope it goes ok today bump, I know exactly what you mean about the waiting as I had the same situation and it's impossible not to have that tiny bit of hope isn't it?

Bunty, I'm so sorry, it's horrible isn't it. Did the hospital give you a date to go back if nothing had happened? I ended up bleeding a few days after my scan, even though before that it had been a good six weeks since the heartbeat stopped with no sign. I don't know whether my body caught up once I knew. No advice for you either, but it might be worth speaking to someone about your options if nothing does happen. Sorry for your loss

Hi bunty sorry to hear what your going through. With my mmc I it took 5 weeks from the h/b stopping to the actual bleeding to start but they had warned me it could take longer.I found out at an 9 week scan the baby had stopped at 7 weeks - I requested this scan as I lost all pregnancy symptoms and just knew even without bleeding. After the scan I decided to let nature take its course but it took 3 weeks to start and another two to finish. xx

Hi Bunty, sorry about your mc. A similar thing happened to me in 2013. Everything seemed fine until the 12 week scan showed the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I opted to wait for a natural mc to start. A little bleeding did happen but four weeks after diagnosis I still hadn't passed the "products". At that point it was about 9 weeks since the baby had died and I opted for medical management, which took place in hospital and was effective and straightforward.
It seems that it does not harm you to wait it out, but after about four weeks waiting the doctor was advising me I should get it sorted out.

Well ladies I'm no closer to knowing what's going on. I had the scan this morning and there was still a sack and yolk but because of conceiving straight after the mc no one's sure on my dates.The nurse said either I'm not far enough along to see a heart beat or the pregnancy has stopped really early and I just have to wait for it to come away. Either way I'm still having spotting and low dull aching most days and now will be knicker checking until the next scan on the 8th of April (unless of course it comes away before then)