Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

goneswimming so sorry you're going through this. My DP was flying home as I found out at my scan too. Did they say if everything has passed yet or have you got options of where to go from here ?

It doesn't feel like it now but you will get through it and if you want to you'll try again.

This thread is great for supporting you through it all.

gone swimming so sorry to hear your news. Just take each day as it comes

Hi adventure, the sac was still in but on its way out by itself, they're happy to leave it with no further intervention, I just have to go back on Monday for a second blood test to check hcg has dropped.

Goneswimming so sorry to hear your news. I know it seems like it will never get better and you could never risk experiencing such pain and heartache again, but honestly I've only just come through the worst of it and having received lots of support from close friends, family, DH and this thread I have somehow managed to get through the darkest days and think about ttc again.

Taking each day at a time is the best advice....i also tried to acknowledge any positive change I had each day to try and recognise that even though I didn't feel it was getting better, gradually each day, it was.

Take comfort in eachother. I have been so grateful of DH support and have never depended on him so much before. And I feel we are closer than ever. Lots of cuddles and be kind to yourself. The ladies on here have listened to me expressing my dark feelings each day until they were no longer dark and I came out the other side. And we will all do the same for you. Big hugs x

I've never been so proud of our relationship to be honest, I'm amazed by his sensitivity and understanding. I'm a lucky girl. Tomorrow we're going for a beach walk to say goodbye.

Sasha so very sorry for what you have been and are now going through

Goneswimming I'm glad he is being so supportive and a beach walk sounds lovely. We did that on Tues the day before the d&c, was just nice to spend quality time together and gain strength from supporting eachother.

Sasha that is so unfair what you have been through. I have only been through this once and have felt completely broken so I can only imagine how heartbroken you are feeling. It is good that some testing will now take place as getting a reason and treatment if possible may be the way forward. I know what you mean about the anaesthetic, I had some morbid thoughts initially about that but on the day I prayed that I would come through it and that I would be ok. And I was. Take support from everyone around you and comfort from those who you feel are helping you. This thread will be a good place for you to vent, rant and express whatever thoughts you are feeling as you will never be judged here among ladies who have felt the same or similar pain and heartache. I pray that your pain becomes less and that time starts to heal you and your DH. It's just so unfair x

Goneswimming and Sasha i am so sorry you've joined us. My only advice is do whatever is best for you at that minute let yourselves grieve. It is absolutely unfair what you are going through. We will be here to support you through this

Hi Sasha. Yes, I've been on this thread and it's predecessor, as well as pregnant after mc. I think we've both had our second and third mcs at about the same times.
Well, for me it's really my 4th, but the first was 13 years ago, so I'm not counting it the same.
Sorry to hear your news Gone Swimming. Don't be afraid to try again once you are ready. Most women go on to have successful, un eventful pregnancies after mc.

I went for my second blood test this afternoon, may get the result by the end of the day but more likely tomorrow morning. Have taken the rest of the afternoon off work; it's been a long week.

The doc wanted me to do the second test so I did but I can't see how on any scenario having had hcg of 44 at 5 weeks could be anything but bad news. It's probably undetectable by now. Even if it HAS doubled, 80 at 5+2 would still be obviously unviable according to everything I have read.

The annoying thing is I feel absolutely fine, no cramps, no bleeding, but of course no pregnancy symptoms either. I feel like I have come to terms with it now, it's nothing compared to what some of you have gone through. The worst was going out last night (an event couldn't duck out of) and having to drink no alcohol just in case of the tiny chance tests are wrong. If I have ever needed a drink it is now.....Just want to bleed and get on with things now.

Jessie the waiting is the hardest part I think. I found that incredibly hard. I hope you get some closure soon.

I was very emotional last night as I got tired, kind of just came over me after quite a good day. Then today I'm really jumpy and nervous, jumped when the postman posted letters this morn then jumped again when a bird flew past my car window. I'm never this nervous/jumpy, strange how this all effects you isn't it?!

Ladies so sorry you are all going through this and wish I wasn't either. Sasha my heart brakes for you - try to take care of yourself.

I miscarried last Sunday night. It was an awful weekend. Saturday night in A&E with bleeding. EPU on Sunday with a positive scan told risk of MC was low as our little bean's heart was beating and dated at 9wk+1. Got home things were going fine then bang - no mistaking what was going on. The hardest thing is that there is nothing anyone says or does really seems to help. I feel child like just saying to dh that I want my baby back. Its horrible because he is so upset to but having to be strong for me.

Its been a horrible week. I worked gently from home on Monday and literally the first email I had was from a lovely guy I work with saying he had a baby on Sunday at literally the same time I was starting to miscarry. Second email one from my boss asking me to pass on the happy news to the rest of the office. Then a few hours later one asking me to explain our maternity policy to another women that works in our office. I howled at that one. She is lovely too but her due date was close to mine and it will be a daily reminder of what is not for me. I wasn't going to tell work just say I'd spent the weekend in hospital and needed recovery time, but I couldn't cope with the barrage of baby news.

I'm trying to find a way to commemorate. I'm worried a plant won't survive and just upset me more. I like the tattoo but not sure I'm brave enough and don't have a clear idea of what I would want.

Bronzemoth so sorry you find yourself here. How awful to have been told things were ok and then to realise they weren't. I can't say anything that will make it better but I've been on this thread every day since it happened to me (addicted as DP says) and it does help and things find there way back to normal !

We have a memory plant and so far so good but to be honest there is a good chance it won't survive as we're rubbish in the garden but I've told myself not to cling to it and I can always get another reminder - it will still be special to us ?

Take care

Anyone else get anxiety after mc/d&c? I'm feeling really jumpy, nervous/anxious today. I am trying to distract myself but it's like I've prepared myself how to cope with feeling emotional, low and tearful but now unexpectedly have anxiety/nervous feelings. Every day is such a test....I just want to feel normal again.

Mama Just wanted to send you a hug. I haven't had anxiety but I'm sure it's just your body and mind trying to protect you ? You might be just subconciously expecting the worst to happen as a result and it will get easier. If it doesn't could you speak to a dr or call the miscarriage association helpline ? I seem to remember someone on here saying they were really helpful and they deal with this sort of thing all the time so will have better advice I would expect. I know we popped up on the TTC thread together so pm me if you want to chat ever.

Thanks adventure that's so kind of you x

Thanks adventuregame your name gave me a smile is it after the 80s childrens gameshow? Are you starting to pick up the pieces a little bit? It does help to talk I rhought I would want to keep it private but found that most of the time I want to tell people I had a precious little bean who we loved to bits already but who didn't make it. But I think it will just make a lot of people feel awkward.

bronze I have told quite a few people, and they were so supportive It helped me to heal a bit, as i felt a little less alone. If you feel like telling people, I recommend that you do x

Anyone who has had a ERPC, have you had trouble with your bowels since. I have IBS anyway but had no problems with that for years. But at the minute i am eating a meal and then within an hour having bad stomach cramps followed by an hour or so's worth of Diarrhoea. I just thought it was my antibiotics but i finished them yesterday.

Halestone - YES! I also had antibiotics and it was bad then, then awful when I had my first period last week, so bad my post-labour piles from when I had ds have made a painful reappearance Tummy still isn't quite right.

Suz, i think i have piles as well as theres fresh blood in it. The cramps which accompany it are awful. Must be normal if 2 of us have it.

Bronze yes it is after the 80s TV prog but I've never found anyone who's ever heard of it but me !!! The vortex, the red salamander the plant that liked ballads - or something like that and the person who only spoke backwards ?!!!! Ah the memories - I bloody loved it !!!!!!

The aspidistra and the spam sandwich- nobody ever knew what the spam sandwich was for, turns out you could throw it on to the next step on the grid to reveal the vortex

Halestone, I don't have ibs (I don't think) but I often get a bit of trouble around my period, not at all as bad as this but I think for me it's definitely hormone-related. My consolation last week, when I was really suffering and had to take a day off work, was that surely I must be losing the early pregnancy weight... but nope, apparently not! Urgh.