Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

[mrsb0710]

Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Hope it goes ok and you can start your recovery.
I'm ok today. Just getting on with things as normal. The actual pregnancy feels like a brief dream already.
I really just want to try again.

Thanks. When will you start ttc again do you think?

Mama one day at a time is all you can do and know that we will support you in that.

Fromwesttoeast. Is your Dp on board with trying again? Mine isn't so i am waiting a little bit before approaching the subject again.

I think I should wait for a period first. My history is of MMC and they said they would offer me an earlier scan next time. If I don't know my dates it will all be uncertain. And uncertainty is the worst thing.
So, although I will be so impatient waiting, it's better in the long run to have a period first.

Yes, he is halestone. The only thing that puts him off is seeing me in pain or upset. So I didn't tell him much about the physical stuff, went to scans on my own etc.

I think your doing the best thing waiting for your period first. And yay to him being onboard its so much easier when they agree. for going to scans alone though. My DP wasn't with me at my scan either and it was horrible i just wanted to get home and cuddle him.

Wow you ladies are so strong and amazing going to scans alone! I am too weak to do that, I just needed my DH as I was a mess for all 4 scans, even the one that was good news!

We have had a small discussion about ttc again, and it's something we both want but without the pressure so we aren't going to count days or anything. We have basically agreed to not try but not prevent. What will be will be. The d&c getting over with is obvs the first priority. We also haven't dtd for a very long time due to all the spotting/scare of mc- so after this is all over I'm looking forward to getting close with eachother again. It's been 8 long weeks!!!

Mama, if your not bleeding now i suggest, getting dtd tonight. Your not meant to have sex for at least 2 weeks following a D&C.

Oh really I didn't know that. I don't think I could tonight, too much emotion going on. 2 weeks isn't so bad, but I was not aware of that. Is that due to risk of infection?

I think so, and no swimming either. The no swimming is upsetting my Dd more than anything though.

I don't swim so that's ok for me. But are baths to be avoided for a while as well?

i just wanted to say be prepared for a drought when you get your future bfp as i didnt dare dtd from finding out until the dating scan

i didnt know you couldnt dtd after d&c altho u probably wont want to until the bleeding (which might be loght) stops anyway.

hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow mama and u get a good nights sleep tonite knowing the physical side will be over this time tomo. thinking of u

Thanks ginger. There was a drought with this bfp anyway, DH was terrified it would cause a problem as I had spotting from 5 weeks. So I don't think we would dtd until we were well past 12 wks!!! (that's long).

I think I will be relieved to have this over me tomorrow and I'm hoping I don't feel too grim afterwards. It's amazing how many emotions you go through in one day, this morning I was feeling very sad and sorry for myself and tonight I'm feeling hopeful about the future. It's so changeable! I just hope I can move forward once the d&c has been completed and I can start to put this all behind me. It has been such a testing experience, but I am beginning to feel that we will come out the other side soon.

Hi ladies, thanks for your replies. My doc said reasons for the 5 month suggestion is because, if you ttc sooner, you run a higher risk of mc again (in his opinion) but my epu simply said to wait for next period for dating reasons. Done a pg test today and got bfn! Kinda a relief, but at same time sad....i think next time we fall pg, we not going to tell anyone other than mum/dad etc until we over the 12 week mark. Its just so draining to have all the excitement from friends, and then have to explain in detail everything that happens when and if it goes wrong, over and over again.... Thank you to all of you who have posted and replied to me, I will post with what is hopefully happy news in the months to come. Stay strong everyone x

P.s, ladies, there are other ways of having fun other than dtd

Ginger, forgot to say, it was definitely the sack which came out with clots, but was clearly distinguishable from the clots I passed as (tmi) they fell out in the toilet and separated from the sack itself. I had to put gloves on and take it out to make sure of what it was, could see yolk sac,fluid,everything...all intact in one piece. I'm positive it all came out, but they were completely wrong about sack size... X

Yes ginger, first mc, and scan on Friday is to confirm everything is gone...even though was meant to be my 12week scan x

Congratulations on new pg ginger! Forgot to add xxx

oh wow weird how they got i so wrong! paws id give the hospital a ring, if you have got a bfn you probably wont need a scan. might help u on ur course to recovery.

mama thunking of u today. hopefully u wont feel too bad ater op, i did for about 40mins well just out of it then i felt much better. i was physically exhausted for about 5 days after tho which i think is side affect of GA. hope it goes ok

When I had my follow up scan after ERPC and BFN it was actually very reassuring. It was an internal scan and when he said everything has healed perfectly I had a huge sigh of relief. He looked at ovaries as well and told me all looked good. Gave me confidence to get my head round trying again.

I feel surprisingly positive today - DP got home yesterday from latest trip and the work started on our house so it's all about designing the new kitchen at the moment.

Gosh paws that sounds very emotional that you actually held the sac after it had passed - I've not heard/read anywhere that you should wait 5 months before ttc to avoid another MC ? Is your Dr old fashioned perhaps ? In fact I read yesterday that conceiving in the first 6 months after an mc can actually help prevent another one ? Let me see if I can fine the link - it was from the actual Miscarriage Association.........

Quote : "You may have received all sorts of advice about how long you should wait before trying again. Many doctors advise waiting until you have had at least one period after your miscarriage before trying again, as this makes it easier to calculate the dates in the next pregnancy.
This doesn’t mean that you are more likely to miscarry if you do conceive before then. There is even some evidence that conceiving in the first six months after a miscarriage actually lowers your risk of miscarriage next time.In most cases, you and your partner are the best judges of when to try again."

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/trying-again/

Hi, am joining this thread a week after finding out about our MMC.

I was wondering how long people's pg symptoms lasted after ERPC?

I feel pretty back to normal - tiredness etc gone - except boobs which are still way bigger.

I want to fit into my bras again (was making do with some crappy cheap ones that don't really fit until going into maternity bras). I think it will help me feel "normal" again.

Ginger & Adventure, thanks for the advice....perhaps I don't 'need' the scan, but it would put my mind at rest to know there is nothing left and that I have a blank canvas so-to-speak. Yes it was very emotional actually holding what had grown inside me for 2 months, but I knew there was no baby inside so it made it bearable....i just needed to know that it was all out, contractions ceased as soon as had passed it. Perhaps that doc I saw was a bit old fashioned, you never get to see the same doc at my surgery

I think perhaps he meant emotionally ready, but he was talking about body healing etc.... Any hoo's thanks for the link, I'll have a gander. And to you ladies who have just had or are going to have erpc x

Workaduka - glad you found thid thread !

I didn't really have any pg symptoms apart from sore bigger boobs and 2 weeks after ERPC they are definitely back to normal ! Have you done a pg test to see if it's negative yet ?

Mama, thinking of you today x

Paws, I also have read the same thing that you have less chance of mc in the first 6 months after and my doctor also told me that if we wanted to try again then there was no reason not to.

And to ginger, thank you for staying on this thread! Your words always help and congratulations on your pregnancy :) x