Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

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Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Lilliana did you get the -ve?

Nope still Bfp

Lilliana my BFN was a week after the ERPC but if I remember rightly yours was a natural mc ? That might take longer for the hormones to drop I guess ? Have you stopped bleeding ?

Yes it was natural. Stopped bleeding about 3 or 4 days ago. They want me to do a urine sample 2 weeks after my second blood test so they can test it so I'm guessing they are expecting it to take around that long for hormones to drop. Oh well it's giving me time to make sure I'm ready to try again!

I think we're going to wait at least one cycle before trying again. I want to know my body is completely healed and back to normal - which could take a while with my crazy cycle but I'm not ready fo rit yet anyway - I'd be too worried. I'm already researching the cost of early pregnancy reassurance scans !!

I'm the same adventure, and I'm glad we waited because I felt fine at first but have been so unwell the last couple of weeks I know my body isn't right yet.

MynameisSuz i am not usually an ill person either and i feel like rubbish sincr this has started.

That's good to hear halestone, not good for you obviously but good to know it's not just me - have been panicking about complications. It's silly because I've had two negative tests and have been swabbed for infection which came back clear. I just feel horrible and it's setting me back further as all I want to do is get exercising and build up my strength again. I'm getting behind at work too which isn't helping

What kind of illness have you had? I've had two lots of d&v with shivering and aching, with a head cold in between. I'm never ill!

So the Dr called me back and said it's just bad luck, possibly hormones making me more vulnerable. I feel silly for bothering them now!

Suz it's never silly to get it checked out as you don't want to find out later on that it was an infection etc so I say well done for pushing them to investigate !!

I've just had a text through saying my friend has just had her baby. Really happy for her but ...

It's just rubbish feeling like I can't be 100% excited about her baby as its tinged with my own sadness. She doesnt know about the mc and I'm not sure how I'm going to react but I have to go and see her soon.

Sorry suz I was so wrapped up in my own issues. I agree don't feel silly about pushing to get checked. I felt the same when I rang up about some slight bleeding and look where I ended up!! Glad it's nothing major and hope you are feeling better soon.

Are your feeling any better today halestone?

Oh Liliana it's hard isn't it, I've just been to see a friend's new baby too and was worried about how I'd feel but actually it was fine. If you're not sure you can handle it could you maybe drop a present over and say you can't stay long, then if you feel upset make your excuses and leave?

Hello, I'm new to Mumsnet & saw this thread. I had a MMC on Monday when we went for our dating scan. Baby was 9wk5 but sadly no heartbeat.

I decided to have medical management to help nature take its course. I'm hoping it has worked & I don't need further interventions. This is proving to be one of the most difficult times I've ever been through. I really wasn't prepared for such overwhelming feelings of grief. It's such a comfort to see other women have unfortunately been through this too. This was my first pregnancy & I feel so sad. Sending love to everyone else who has been through this xxx

Butterfly
The grief overwhelms me too.
I've chickened out of seeing my friends tonight. I'm feeling too fragile I started bleeding again today and went back to work. even though they all know and are lovely. I've also got an assessment booked in Next week for counselling. Hoping it's the start of me being less broken.

Butterfly in so sorry your in this position too but glad you found us. The ladies on this thread are knowledgeable and so supportive. Feel free to post any questions or tell us how you're feeling. It truly is a shit time but it will get better.

Am still waiting to hear what is going to happen next...I want it done. My body still thinks it's preg and still have sickness and extreme tiredness! My friends all know now and have stepped up there game. I feel very lucky to have them.
Only had one wee cry that came out of no where today...that's a good sign?! I even laughed....

Sandman glad you are getting some counselling sorted. Sorry you're missing seeing friends and feeling fragile. If you want to 'talk' (write?) I'm happy to listen (read?) Maybe try to do something nice for you this evening. Take care xx

Butterfly this thread has really helped me through an MMC. It was my first pregnancy too and I was surprised at how devastated I was/still am !

Hope the medical management helps you along - it does feel easier once it's dealt with if you know what I mean ?

adventure just noticed you mentioned an early scan for next time. ive seen so many people go for them at 6 or 7 weeks. if you do decide on one id wait until at least 8 weeks maybe even 9 just so you see a heartbeat. if you go earlier and your dates were out a little it could cause unnecessary worry. just a thought anyway

Thanks Ginger - good advice !

Perhaps the reason I've been feeling rubbish, my period is here! I'm pretty happy, it feels like a huge step forward (even though it's so far the worst period I think I've ever had). Anyone else find counting the little milestones towards recovery helps?

thats great news suz and they do say you can expect it to be bad as your body is cleaning out so to speak. the good thing is now, if you are thinking about ttc again, only a few days and you'll be there

Exactly ginger, that's how I'm smiling through the pain! Though my body feels so bad right now it's kind of putting me off wanting to do anything to it ever again... but I'm sure I'll forget that thought once it's over.