Headwreck & Hope. Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

[mrsb0710]

Original threadtotal headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today

Support for those who are/might be experiencing MMC/MC/early pregnancy loss.

Thanks for the link to acronyms - I couldn't find it on my phone - and all the supportive messages.

Sounds like I have got off lightly on the physical front then. Not really sure how I feel - one minute I'm in tears and the next I'm getting on as normal. Generally I just feel empty.

My DD is making me keep going as I have to look after her and she is very funny. DH has just taken her out for a bit so I can have a break. He's been really good despite also being upset too.

I want to try again now but not sure if that's just because I want to be pregnant again or if I am actually ready. I guess its a bit early to make decisions yet.

Lilliana my initial reaction was I want to be pregnant again but now I feel a bit more calm emotionally I just want my body to get back to normal cycle and have a rest and feel fit and healthy ready for next time.
I'm the same with feeling fine one minute and crying the next - I think that's normal.
I'm so scared of this happening again - this was my first pregnancy !

I am so lucky to have my DD and have been telling myself that several times a day.
It sounds like you are doing well Adventure I'm sure you know the research shows you are likely to go on and have a normal healthy pregnancy next time. I hope this is what happens for you.
I know from experience I got pg when I am not stressed and not trying so I think we will go back to not using protection but not charting/counting/testing either and just see what happens

That's exactly how we got pregnant - we weren't trying but we wern't being careful either and it takes all the stress out of it !!

ERPC went well and i was home quickly afterwards. I am glad i had read a tip on here to take baby wipes with me though. I slept so much yesterday and last night though. Today i feel strange abit headachey and uncomfortable in my stomach. But very calm in my mood.

Halestone glad to hear you're ok - I was thinking about you all yesterday. I know what you mean about feeling calm. I was the same but very tearful as certain thoughts popped into my head !

halestone I'm so glad it was ok for you. Take time and look after yourself.

Thank you I hope you are both ok

I know what you mean about the tearfulness though it just hits from nowhere.

Does anyone know if it is really bad if you get pregnant before you have another period? I'm not, but just wondering if I definitely need to wait?

AtAt i think the only reason they tell you to wait is so that they can date the pregnancy correctly (which may stop further heartache if there is a problem around the scans). I maybe completely wrong though.

How much pain is normal in the days following a ERPC? I have a pretty consistant stomach ache now but no bleeding.

I don't know, my surgeon told me it was better to wait and that it was partly for dating but also so the lining can properly repair itself. But my friend was told it was fine, I just didn't want to risk it so we're waiting, hopefully only another week or so to wait.

atat I didn't wait after mc in Feb and I was worried it was to soon but the doctors said there's no problems with it but dating it is difficult as it can throw you next cycle out by two weeks.

Thanks all. I just want to be pregnant again.

i waited one cycle atat my dr who spoke to me before discharging me from hospital advised waiting six weeks. i then read online about the lining thing and thought it just wasnt worth the risk. if anything had happened i would have blamed myself without a doubt.

im 13 weeks now. there were 6 weeks between me having erpc and falling pregnant again. you dont really think about it but thats not a very long break considering i had just been pregnant for 14 weeks. im not saying its a bad thing but its a lot to take in.

oh and for those worrying about feeling guilty, i dont feel guilty at all. if anything it has been a good distraction but gosh is it scary!

Argh. I got a negative pg test this morning. This afternoon I started bleeding. Can my period really be back already? (3 days after bleeding stopped and 12 from smom) or are my tests dud? I'm not doing well emotionally today and this isn't helping!

what is a smom sam?

Surgical management ginger. Sandman, i had really similar two weeks after my erpc, it started like a period but was like really old blood, lasted a few days and never really got going and got more brown. I thought it was a period when it started but then wondered if it was an infection and got antibiotics from the doctor just in case. I've written it off as a non-period in any case and am now, 4 weeks post surgery, waiting impatiently for it to come. I want to hurry up and start trying again!

hmm i dont know then. i would think it would be too soon for a period so could just be that your body is still shedding some of the lining? may be worth speaking to gp for advice incase it is an infection or anything. just to be on the safe side. hope u r ok

I've already got antibiotics since the smom didn't really work and I ended up in a&e a week after it as I was bleeding so much. Sounds like it's just my funny shaped womb playing tricks again. 4 weeks since this started, it feels never ending.

I've just spoke to the EPAU about my pains and the fact that i am passing white clots. They said that it sounds like my body is passing part of the pregnancy which was missed by the ERPC. And to just stay at home unless it gets offensive smelling or i develop flu like symptoms. I wish the Ward had just told me that this weekend when i rang them. I also just wish this whole thing was over so i can move on physically.

Oh no halestone, how horrible. Have they offered you any follow up scans or anything?

No shes confident it will all pass. I really trust the sonographer (shes a old family friend). She just said to make sure i poas again 2 weeks after the op and let her know the result.

Halestone how's it going ? Are you still in lots of pain ? Thinking of you.

We bought our memory plant for our little lost baby at the weekend. It made me feel really happy....

Sorry if that sounds wrong to say I was happy - obviously not happy about the mmc but it felt like it won't be forgotten. I keep thinking back to seeing the picture on the scan and even though there was no heartbeat it looked like a proper baby and I'll never forget that !