Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 19 - tests, treatment, trying again.

[bythesea82]

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

I've just had a large gush of dark, thick red blood that soaked the pad (panty liner) and my pyjama bottoms. If is been wearing a large pad I imagine it would have soaked it totally. I'm sitting in a bath now trying to clean up. No pain or cramping whatsoever. Is this ok still as a recovery or should I be concerned?

New thread already?!

Me: 43, DH: 45
1 DS, born 2011, completely uncomplicated pregnancy.
3 MCs in 2012, all around 8-10, weeks, had ERPC, natural and medical management. MC 2014 at 17 weeks. The two mcs that were tested both had chromosomal abnormalities, one was trisomy 2, the other one trisomy 18.
I had progesterone and heparin for the last pregnancy, which I will get again, should I become pg again.
I had an MRI scan yesterday for a big fibroid I have in my uterus, the consultant wanted to look at it.

Sebs I had a massive uncontrollable gush too. But it slowed down really quickly after that. That for me was last of bleeding.

But i found the clean up process whenever I bled really distressing. As in, can it really sink any lower and be anymore undignified?

I would give someone a call Seb I had something very similar and had retained 'products'. It made me quite ill and I ended up in hospital haemorrhaging. Although when I first went in the consultant didn't seem worried and sent me home so it may be quite usual. I definitely reckon it's worth getting checked out though xx

Correction: I had 3 mcs in 2013, not 2012. Stupid mn app, can't see what I'm typing.

Sebs, I had some erratic bleeding after my ERPC. But if it continues for longer, I'd give the EPU a call for reassurance.

jady yes, also handing my notice in to take a year out. I'm going to see out the school year, so don't have to do it til May. Work already know and despite the initial 'oh-my-god-what-have-I-done' feeling, I'm already looking forward to some time out.

minnie as I mentioned to freckle earlier, I've been under the care of Leeds since last summer. They took me on even though at that point my miscarriages weren't consecutive.

Minnie sorry for your losses and that you find yourself here but you are more than welcome. Your dr sounds like a nasty piece of work, really shouldn't be one that line of work, surely a dr is meant to help people?! Must have been really cutting for your boy to say that, but we all know kids say the worst things and you are his world. He just doesn't want you to be sad and doesn't yet know how to tell you this.

brummie the chances are you will see your childrens wedding and have grandchildren. But no matter what age we have children, we have no control over this, we could have them in our 20s and get knocked over by a bus and miss out anyway. All we can do is do our best by trying to be mentally and physically healthy for our children (and ourselves).

diddly I think you may have me mixed up with floweroct maybe? I've only had basic blood tests done and am waiting for the results. Had positive opk yesterday but need to wait for another af before can book Coventry, but hopefully should be on track to go in April. Thanks for the advice, feel less scared about the procedure now!

sebs has your bleeding settled now? I'd say if it was a one off gush probably ok, but if it carries on call EPU. I had a gush a few weeks after mc1 (I bled for 6 weeks in total and it was up and down between spotting and heavy). With the last mc, I stopped bleeding the same time as my hcg level became negative (hospital followed it down) but started spotting only a week after which turned heavier and was my period. But after mc1 I got my period a month after I stopped bleeding.

cloud hoped the MRI scan went ok yesterday. When do you get your results?

jady glad you're feeling a weight lifted.

After having a crappy few weeks, I woke up yesterday feeling much more positive. (Thought I'd feel crap knowing i was ovulating but not being able ttc, but i actually feel ok) I actually feel like the next pregnancy, whenever it may be, might actually be ok and not destined to be mc3. I know this positivity won't last and the next low will hit me just as hard it usually does, but I'm enjoying feeling good whilst it lasts!

Sorry to those I've missed! X

OK no more false alarms! In established labour, contractions currently 3-4 mins apart. Heading over to the birthing suit as soon as my mum gets here. I can safely say that I love you all so much for getting me here. See you on the other side xxx

Woohoo!!!!!!! Wishing you all the luck in the world tanny!!!!

Wow, I'm tearing up at the thought of you holding your baby with a big grin on your face .

Good luck Tanny! See you on the other side! xx

Hi all, I'm new around here so here's my stats:

Me 35, DH 34, no DC, ttc since December 2013
Surgical abortion @ 13 wks 1998 (I was young and stupid and off to uni, and whilst v glad I don't have a lifelong connection to the father I do worry that I'm somehow broken as a result).
Suspected natural mc 2001, had a month long period but didn't know if pregnant to begin with (sought medical advice at the time and dr told me that nature was probably taking it's course)
MC1 Sept 2014 @ 11 wks
MC2 March 2015 @ 5 wks, both natural mc's.

I'm unsure whether I should push for rmc tests as I think I've had 3 mcs but only 2 are confirmed, also I'm over 35 and we have been diligently ttc for over a year now. Any advice on how to proceed?

Btw, this thread newbie here thought all you ladies talking about "Going to Coventry" were refering to some sort of stigmatistion you were experiencing, not that the top rmc specialist is actually in Coventry! I kept thinking, damn that's harsh!

Actually quite a few of us have OHs in mid to late 40s... My DH was 47 at last m/c and will be at least 49 when/if we have another DC. Suppose I'm comparing myself to my friends whose partners are all ten years younger. And it doesn't bother me, it's attitudes/ comments from other people.

Oh bless you, good luck Tanny xxxx

Well the gush is now period type bleeding. I know EPAU isn't open at the weekend as we went there when we booked an early scan and found the whole place shut. The private scan was in the main hospital in a separate area.

It's really easy to panic but I'm trying to just stay calm. I have mild cramps for which I've taken some ibuprofen. If I feel like the situation is turning into lots of pad soaking gushes I guess I'll present myself at A&E. I have absolutely no idea what they will do though.

tanny wow, it's happening! Can't wait to hear about your new baby. Tearing up just thinking about it. Feeling very emotional for you. See you on the other side. xxx

Sorry for your losses heaven and you find yourself here. I'm sure all the ladies on here will tell you to push for testing.
Yes, I have yet to go to Coventry (hopefully next month) but from reading these ladies experiences on here it is viewed as an amazing place that makes dreams come true!
I hope you manage to get started with the testing and your gp refers you without any trouble. Take care x

sebs my epu is located next to the ward (where you stay for surgery/medical etc) and when the epu closes I just had to call the ward directly. Obviously this won't be the same set up everywhere though. Do you have a number for ghe ward at all? If not then yes, I agree with a and e. Hope it calms down for you though so you don't need to go back to hospital. X

Sebsmummy, you look after yourself and definitely get yourself to A&E if you have to. FX it all calms down and you don't need to spend Saturday night in A&E with all the drunken, broken revellers.

Soo excited for you Tanny- see you on the other side.

Welcome Heaven. I was in a similar situation and although the EPU clinic didn't refer me initially, my GP did. It's taken 6 months to get my appointment because it came through the GP so it you do want to progress it and not wait, probably something to do soon.

Sebsmummy- hope everything calms down soon but if not perhaps calls 111 to get their advise rather than a&e.

Gosh, had missed that one of us has gone into labour - good luck Tanny!
Heaven, sorry you're here but welcome. Do go and see your doc now, even if they won't offer tests now you can make sure you know what to do if you are unlucky enough to have another M/C.
I went to see doc after two M/C and she said they wouldn't investigate until third but if that happened to try and keep fetus for testing etc.
On the other hand they might include your first suspected M/C and start straight away. My third was not confirmed by a doctor as it was so early but as I'd already seen them about it, it was accepted iYKWIM.

tanny so excited for you!!

flower29 sorry for confusing things with our similar usernames!

Welcome minnie and sorry for your losses. I'm liking betty's inventive punishments for insensitive doctors!

tanny so excited for you, you will be holding your baby very soon (might be already after all that prep work) sending you lots of love!

sebs I have seen lots of posters describing a big gush or clots some time after an ERPC, so I think you need to judge by how you feel in yourself. If you feel unwell ( faint, dizzy, feverish) or bleeding continues to be heavy then go to A&E or out of hours. Hope it settles down.

welcome heaven if I had my way I would send every single one of us to Coventry, since it's where so many of us have found positive action and not the endless crap about bad luck. If you consulted a doctor about your first MC it will be on your record and should 'count' for the purposes of being referred. Several ladies >35 have been referred after two losses anyway, so push for investigation. Since you are getting pregnant you don't qualify on the fertility angle so emphasise the miscarriage side of things, they will normally check hormone levels and scan uterus/ovaries/cervix as part of this investigation anyway.

Good luck Tanny!!

Whoop! Baby tanny will soon be with us. Good luck. Can't wait to hear your news xxx

Thinking of you tanny!