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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bakingtins · 20/02/2015 18:57

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

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bootles · 05/03/2015 07:42

Hope things get going soon Tanny, you"re so close now..

twilightstruggle · 05/03/2015 07:43

Although in brighter news I'm due a follow-up call from occupational health today...

OH: how've you been since we last spoke?

TS: Well I've miscarried and resigned. Thanks for all your support though.

Flower29 · 05/03/2015 07:45

Glad you managed some sleep tanny. Hopefully you will get another sweep today if needed and baby Tan will get the idea, must be far too snug in there!

Thinking of you sunx

twilight congratulations on resigning and I'm glad you feel much better for it. Here's to things looking up from now on Wine

I have also left my job after my mcs (well I say left, I was lucky that my job became redundant and I got paid off, but when this was uncertain I was ready to leave it anyway) and I have set up on my own, something I don't think I'd have had the balls to do before losing my babies but it makes you realise life is short and you've got to take chances sometimes.

I believe in 'regret the things you do, not the things you don't do'

bootles · 05/03/2015 07:46

twilight resignations always give me a bit of a thrill, hope this one leads onwards and upwards for you.

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 08:03

I'm very impressed/ envious of the ladies resigning from jobs.
Unfortunately it's not an option for me as I'm the breadwinner. Decided the lottery is the way forward for me! ????

Flower29 · 05/03/2015 08:04

Good luck with your resignation jady, I'm sure you'll feel loads better once you're 'free' Smile

Sunandrainbow · 05/03/2015 08:31

jady - well done u for taking charge and making a positive change x

TinyTear · 05/03/2015 08:31

Good luck to the ones changing jobs, changing lives, may it all work out very soon!

I have been thinking and I will take my baby loss awareness badge to the hospital with me and leave it by my bed... I want to have something reminding me of the 5 that never got a chance...

Flower29 · 05/03/2015 08:48

Tiny hugs
Not long to go now! (31st March is it?)

Feeling very emotional today. Maybe it's the imminent arrival of baby tan...

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 08:50

Tiny, that's such a lovely idea. Enjoy the next few weeks until d-day x

Brummiegirl15 · 05/03/2015 09:08

Happy birthday Twilight aah to be. 33 again... You might share same birthday as Baby Tan
Thinking of you Tanny and Tiny

Pop I am so so sorry. There are no words.

AF still hasn't arrived. Couldn't tell you now that day of cycle I'm on. 33 maybe?
Am currently on my way overseas to a swanky dinner at a British Embassy tonight so am hoping to invoke law of sod and it will arrive whilst meeting important guests....

I'm really crampy though and it's making me quite uncomfortable. Still knocking back the vit c and hoping AF will stop messing about!

Frecklefire · 05/03/2015 09:08

Interesting to read how many women have miscarried under a stressfull job and where miscarrige has forced resignations. Treefrog - i am also a teacher, secondary. There is NOWHERE to curl up and cry in the classroom, is there?! I'm currently taking some days off (term time). Miscarrige 2 and 3 both happened in school hols, the first i worked through (one day i had to wash my skirt and dry it under the hand-dryer twice). I've only had 2 days absence so far, so after a 9 day post-miscarrige stonking headache i am taking some time. If i had an office job i would have been able to just sit and stare at a screen, but you can't miss a beat in the classroom. Unfortunately like girliesaints i am the breadwinner, but i wish i could leave my job. The workload with a toddler was cruxifying, without the headf### of miscarrige. Ive asked for part-time three times already and been turned down. Its just a nightmare!

tannyLoo · 05/03/2015 09:34

They won't do another sweep before tomorrow, so I'm stuck today. I've had a complete meltdown and all that suppressed fear that my body will kill this baby has jumped up. I can't shake the feeling that my body is going to rob me of this one too. I know it's totally irrational but I can't shake it. I'm going to have a bath and try and sort out my head a bit. I might not post for a bit, but will let you know when anything changes x

Marchgirl · 05/03/2015 09:37

Happy birthday twilight and well done on quitting. Sorry you've got such a crap day ahead of you on your birthday Sad

Hope af arrives soon brummie. I'm on for a 33 day cycle this month too (normal for me), frustrating that they are so long! I showed the acupuncturist some of my temp charts and she said my baseline temp is too high,which apparently could explain my long follicular phase. She put some needles in to bring my temp down and therefore reduce cycle length. Hope it works!

Sorry you've not progressed much tanny. Sad Hope they give you another sweep and it moves things along

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 09:47

Brummie- ooh your job sounds glamorous/ exciting. Hoping Sod's law waits at least until after the party x

Freckle, although I'm not a teacher, I do have the small person pressure to juggle/ as well as being a senior manager. Today I'm on annual leave to try and sort out home life but still dialling in for two "urgent" meetings!

Please can I have permission to vent? Aaah blooming hospital!! ?????? The saga of my hospital appointments continues. Just checked letter for next week's rearranged consultant appointment to find they have managed to book it for the 12th Feb, despite the letter being dated 18th Feb! How can you book an appointment in the past? Rang the outpatients and they told me they didn't even have a referral for me so couldn't change it! Spoken to consultant's PA (who I'm now on first name terms with) and she's off to sort it for me. Really don't need this stress.

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 09:50

That's officially rubbish Tanny. Hope bath/ laying down calms you & gets baby Tanny moving. As you know we're here for you x

Marchgirl · 05/03/2015 09:53

How frustrating girlie! Hope the pa can sort it for you. Things are never easy are they

Frecklefire · 05/03/2015 09:56

Tanny, you will get there and if you cant trust your body put your trust in the doctors and midwifes whi wont be takibg any risks on you. Four words to use if necessary - "induction with epidural please!" So long as you are actually in active labour they can do it at about the same time. I had a five day early labour with ds, back to back, progressed only 3cm in the five days. I was knackard. They could time the drip to give me 5 hours sleep, ds turned, i woke up, three pushes, and out! It was a stress free birth. God bless epidurals and all who sail through her!!! I wish i'd done it earlier insted of being sniffy about medical intervention. X

TinyTear · 05/03/2015 10:25

freckle i loved my epidural last time as well... all i had to do was tell the midwife "i am starting to feel my toes" and she would top it up Grin

handy when i was stuck at 9cm for 6 hours...

Brummiegirl15 · 05/03/2015 10:35

Aaahhh Girlie that is pants!!!!!! :-(

I'm pretty lucky, my job is not bad, plus with how understanding they've been and with 6 months full pay. They've been very good to me and know not everyone else is that lucky.

Already bought Jo Malone perfume and a scarf at St Pancras. I'm rubbish but when life is bit shit, I shop. Perfume and scarf are nice though Grin

Tanny I know you must be terrified but you've come this far. Baby Tan will be here soon. With Baby Tiny not far behind

Frecklefire · 05/03/2015 10:55

Ooo jo malone - love!

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 11:21

Ditto Jo Malone. Must stop shopping. One of the jobs I'm doing today is sorting out our finances as we went a bit crazy last year following the MCs.

Appointment sorted and back on for next Thursday. At this rate I won't believe it will ever happen (only 6 months and counting)

Also a fan of epidurals. Not for everyone but it certainly helped me after three days and madam being back to back and coming elbow first- ouch!

girliesaints · 05/03/2015 11:42

Ditto Jo Malone. Must stop shopping. One of the jobs I'm doing today is sorting out our finances as we went a bit crazy last year following the MCs.

Appointment sorted and back on for next Thursday. At this rate I won't believe it will ever happen (only 6 months and counting)

Also a fan of epidurals. Not for everyone but it certainly helped me after three days and madam being back to back and coming elbow first- ouch!

sebsmummy1 · 05/03/2015 12:48

Tanny fingers crossed for you darling, totally understand your anxiety.

Bad day for me today. Was up a lot of the night with DS who is ill. At one point I was on the brink of calling 999 as he was so hysterical and having coughing fits. Think it's triggered all those negative thoughts again. Just wish I really did have a crystal ball and could see if I was ever going to hold another child in my arms. If it's never going to happen I wish I knew and could just stop trying and get some electric shock therapy or something.

cloudjumper · 05/03/2015 13:29

tanny Try and get some rest. We are all cheering you on. Could you get some relaxation treatment, massage, reflexology etc? Might have the welcome side effect of getting labour going, too!

sebs I can completely relate to how you feel. After my last mc, I had some really bad spells when I kept imagining DS (or DH, or both) dying - it only lasted for a few weeks, but it was grim, made me feel awful. Not sure if you have already looked into this, but have you thought about getting some counselling? I can really recommend it, it helped me a lot. Even better if you can find someone who specialises in mc/pg loss.

brummie Cramps are a good sign, I'm sure AF will turn up soon when it's most inconvenient

pop I can only echo what the others have said. Hope you will get some closure from all this.

My hospital is holding a baby loss memorial service in their chapel on Saturday. I'm wondering about going... Has anyone been to one of those?