Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

Sounds like it will be a weight off your mind jady, and if you don't get paid for sick leave then i guess you're not losing anything.
Sorry flower, i know nothing about any other type of cyst. You don't think they could have meant it was a clc?

Good luck for the work meeting cloud. Hopefully it's just a formality

Jady if you feel that is the right thing to do, that's fair enough. Glad you have a month off though.

Maverick will absolutely share the outcome of meeting. We are all in this together!! I feel for you. Had my 1st EDD in Jan and my 2nd is end of March. Aim is to be pg by 3rd EDD in August

Loopy you must live near me then as I'm not far from Warwickshire county line. I live in Redditch. I could've gone to the the Alexandra but they aren't the best hospital so opted for Worcester which is further for me but better!!!!!!

Hugs Cloud - don't worry about your meeting (easy to say I know) but if all sickness is mc related then you are right, it will indeed be a short meeting.

I could test again but I don't feel pg if that makes sense? I knew on all 3 occasions that I was. I'm still a bit crampy though so hoping AF is debating an appearance.

I'm only stressing because I want to then ovulate and book Cov

Good luck for your meeting cloud

Hope this lifts a whole weight off your shoulders jady and helps you focus on yourself recovering.

Not sure march, they definately used the phrase 'dominant folicle' but also 'cyst'. It's probably nothing but just bothering me that they are the only 2 times I've had bad ovulation/burning type pain. I just can't help all the thoughts going through my head at the minute of what's caused them.

Also due to ovulate any day now and purposely missing an opportunity to be pg (so we can do Coventry) just feels wrong!

I feel you there flower. Due to ovulate today and my body is screaming 'do it!', but going to hold off for Coventry. Hoping once ov has passed it will get easier as it'll feel like I'm on the home straight.

As mentioned in last message, if it was just a clc then as far as I've been told and have read, it doesn't have any effect on future pgs. I know a few people on here have reported ov pain after mc when they had none before

tanny x x x

I've just arrived at my first acupuncture treatment post MC. Can't believe I am back here again when 2 weeks ago we were hugging on the doorstep wishing me a fantastic pregnancy and vowing to see each other at 37 weeks to start getting me ready for labour. It's so shocking that one day after that conversation I found out the baby had died a few days earlier.

Anyway, one day I'm sure I'll get over it and worse things happen. I know I'm going to cry which is boring but hopefully the acupuncture will get my body back on track quicker.

Still thinking of you Tanny xxx

Thanks all. As expected, the meeting lasted all of 5 minutes . They said themselves that it really just was a formality because they now have introduced this new procedure where they monitor people's sickness-related absences and check if they can help them. No problems whatsoever.

jady That ust be a weight off your chest, and hopefully, it will help you with the recovery. Nothing worse than having to go back to a job you hate after a mc! These things can make a huge difference, unfortunately, it's mostly discovered in hindsight.

brummie Good list of questions! But I agree with others regarding the cat litter box/toxo issue - this is only something to be careful with when you are pg. But def get your DP to take over the cleaning duty, if helps with peace of mind.

I'm starting to really look forward to my holiday next week... Time for a break!

Glad your meeting went well cloud

Mine did too, they've agreed I can move my start date to July at the moment and we'll review it monthly if things change with Faith. That should get her through 3 months off steroids and hopefully make nursery a possibility. My mat cover is keen to stay on longer so will keep doing my hours. It was really nice to see everyone too.

brummie forget the toxo thing for lots of reasons, firstly that most cats shed only when they first start hunting as youngsters then become immune, so if you test them the majority of adult cats will gave low positive titres but are not shedding. Secondly because a high proportion of people are immune, it's only a new infection in pregnancy that can cause problems so it can't possibly be a factor in more than one miscarriage. Thirdly because fresh cat faeces are not infective, they have to be >2 days old, so regularly cleaned litter trays are less of an issue than contaminated soil (good excuse to make DH clean the trays though) I've worked as a vet for 15 yrs and I'm still not immune

I'm hoping I'll feel better after this ovulation has passed too march.

Glad your meeting was fine cloud. Hope you enjoy your holiday! I'm off next week too and can't wait.

Wonder how tannys getting on....

Glad your meeting went well baking. Hope this means it's one less thing for you to worry about at the moment. I hope Faith is continuing to improve and the weaning goes as well as it can do. X

Sebs I found the acupuncture helped me emotionally as well as physically. I'm sure it'll do you some good (and the cry won't do any harm)

Cloud glad they had a common sense approach to it all.

Jady I applaud your decision!

Brummie, good questions, but I agree about the toxoplasmosis, probably a red herring.

I'm contracting at a nice steady pace and actually enjoying the fact that I can slow them down or speed them up at the moment, which makes me feel nicely in control. I've had a big show, so things are progressing. Loving all the encouragement x

Baking that's really good to hear. You can now concentrate on Faith and your family x

Glad the meetings went ok baking and cloud. Thank goodness for understanding work places.

That sounds very promising and calm tanny, hope it continues progressing.

Glad you both had good meetings. Here I told my boss as soon as I got a BFP as I knew I was going to get extra appointment and scans and wanted it all logged as pregnancy things in case anyone queried...

Tanny I will ignore you as the wind from my pompoms seems to be having a counterproductive effect...

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Good questions, Brummie. Will be interested to head the answers. I agree about the toxo, though; it wouldn't be an RMC cause. (Having said that, my sister and her bf are coming over this eve to clean my cat's tray out in return for dinner! )
Jady, Cloud and Baking, glad progress is being made on the work front, one way or another.
Flower and March, cold showers, ladies!!
Tanny, you zen mother earth, you, good luck. x

Congratulations on your decision jady. Does it feel good? Glad you both had good work meetings too baking and cloud.

Quiet cheers to tanny! Keep up the zen progress.

Feeling generally much better here. New diet seems to be good for me and I am much less run down. Am really wishing i gave low gi a go before all the mcs but thinking back i didn't know I had pcos till after mc3 as the gp dismissed my concerns about my cycle.

That said, have just heaved loads of stuff around so dd can sleep in her new room and the nursery can be painted (eek) and now can't move off the sofa. Dd delighted with her room though, phew. Let's hope she sleeps tonight.

Am a bridesmaid this weekend. Feels a milestone as when we shopped for dresses I felt a fraud ordering a maternity one but here I am, whale-like and needing it.

baking it's meditation rather than hypnosis, but on the Catching Rainbows website you can get a meditation track specifically to help ttc after mc. I used it quite a lot after the first mc. If anyone is interested pm me with your email address .

That's good news about the diet longest. Sounds like you've got it under control already . Hope you have fun at the wedding. I love a good wedding!

Well i am very pleased to see a positive opk this afternoon, right on time. Sooo relieved that i seem to be having a normal cycle so hopefully I'll be ok for Coventry next month. Finally feel like things are moving forward. Next stop, af!

Hi guys, thank you for the good wishes. Scan was fine and dates appear to be back on track with what I expected, 8+5 today. Really feeling the fear now as 9-10.5 weeks is my time for all to go wrong, just hoping something is different this time

just look at those milestones fall!

jady glad you have been signed off and the weight of work has been lifted. Hope it leads to something exciting…

brummie no more thoughts to add to the questions but looking forward to hearing some of the answers.

baking I am so pleased your meeting went well and work are being understanding, you deserve something to be a little easier at the moment so good that that’s sorted and no longer hanging over you.

tanny hoping you are zen like and doing well

Tanny I hope you are enjoying cuddles before morning.

Brummie I'd completely out myself if I said where I live as it's such a small village, but I also could have had the Redditch hospital, I looked them up online and I think Worcester was 13 miles, Redditch was something like 13.5 and Warwick was 15 miles from me, so all much of a muchness, but Warwick didn't look after a family member at all well, plus all the traffic issues around Stratford and the Longbridge island, Worcester saved their life and is straightforward enough to get to from here (although my God the parking there is appalling!) and I'd heard lots of bad things about Redditch so seemed an obvious choice. I can have my routine scans at Evesham hospital if we make it to the 12 week point, which will be easier than the trek to Worcester. First hurdle is surviving the next 14 days until the scan on the 18th...

By the sea, good to hear you had a good scan, hope the next few weeks pass without problems.

Been madly busy today at work but have been sneakily checking in. Made me feel quite excited.

Tanny, hopping things are moving along quite nicely now as it's been a few hours since an update.

Baking, glad to hear work went ok.

Glad all other meetings/ etc went well today (soz brain addled so can't remember names)

Day off tomorrow to try and get home life sorted as paperwork has got out of control since the MCs started.
Determined to get some control back (if I can!)

Whoop Tanny can't wait to hear from you when baby is here!!!

Sea great news about the scan. Passing 8 weeks with a good measurement and hb is supposed to be the biggest hurdle. I'll be keeping everything crossed this is your time.

Sorry I'm doing a terrible job at keeping up with the feed. Thinking of all of you who are feeling loss, hurt and worry. I keep faith of better times ahead for you all.

brummie good questions and glad I’m not the only one who plans these things!

march glad you’re on track for Coventry. You’ll definitely be there before me so am following this carefully.

Hello to everyone else! Interested to see lots of us considering career breaks/changes – I’m also going to hand in my notice and take some time out to take stock…

Have had a really shitty day as we had to see the bereavement officer to arrange the funeral for our dd. Was one of the saddest things I’ve ever had to do and just overwhelmed by feelings of how unfair this is. Really didn't want to be there doing that. It’s like the complete opposite of what we should have been doing.

Hugs to you all. Thing have to get better, right?

pop just sending hugs . I can't even imagine how awful that must have been. xx