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Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 18 - tests, treatment, trying again.

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bakingtins · 20/02/2015 18:57

Buckle up, the threads move like lightening! Tea, sympathy, information, support and combined wisdom to guide you through the maze of testing and treatment for recurrent miscarriage. Newbies always most welcome.

Please start with the traditional recap of your stats.

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Justonemoretime · 04/03/2015 20:43

Pop, that's sad, hope you're ok. xx

Catlover2014 · 04/03/2015 20:53

Oh pop I am so desperately sorry. No one should have to do that. XxX

ThePopAndCry · 04/03/2015 20:55

Thanks ladies.

It's shite for all of us that have had to go through this. I feel I'm 'lucky' this time as at least we get some kind of formal ceremony/recognition of our loss which we didn't get with the early miscarriages. My mum said dd is a figurehead for all of the other little lives we've lost, which I think is true. It's just very, very sad.

Flen · 04/03/2015 20:56

pop what a horrible experience to have to go through, I can't imagine how sad and devastated you must be. Many hugs.

Marchgirl · 04/03/2015 21:11

Can't imagine how difficult that must have been pop. Massive hugs Flowers. It will get better xx

Flower29 · 04/03/2015 21:12

Big hug for you pop. Can't imagine how hard it must have been for you to do that. Thinking of you FlowersFlowersFlowers xxx

tannyLoo · 04/03/2015 21:13

So sorry Pop, what an awful thing to go through. x

Sunandrainbow · 04/03/2015 21:18

Oh pop how terribly sad. So sorry you have had to go through this. x

girliesaints · 04/03/2015 21:25

Pop, big hugs x

bythesea82 · 04/03/2015 21:55

pop I am so sorry you had to go through this. Wise words from your mum I think. I hope you are both ok Flowers

Purplefrogshoes · 04/03/2015 21:58

pop Flowers so sorry

bootles · 04/03/2015 22:05

Totally snowed under here with various things.

baking glad to hear you got your mat leave extended

bythesea good news about your scan - when is the next one? Wishing you calm vibes as you approach the next couple of weeksweeks

Tanny totally rooting for you...DP thinks I'm bonkers when I'm muttering away about wonder how Tanny is and when's the baby arriving...Really not long now by the sounds of it!

longest glad the diet is helping

Waving to everyone

bootles · 04/03/2015 22:09

pop I took a phone call in between starting my last post so cross posting.

I'm so so sorry you are going through this, it is so horribly unfair, that must have been such a difficult thing for you to do. My thoughts are with you xx

Sunandrainbow · 04/03/2015 22:18

Just catching up a little:

bythesea - that's great news on your scan. So pleased for you.

And tanny - really hoping there is some wonderful news ASAP!

X

Sunandrainbow · 04/03/2015 22:24

Uurgh - just stupidly looked on facebook to see if my cousins wife who was due same day as my second would have been on March 1st, has given birth yet. She has. Baby girl. Everyone is delighted. Except me - I'm just incredibly jealous and sad. Why did I look?

longestlurkerever · 04/03/2015 22:33

pop I am so sorry. I hope the funeral brings you some peace but I agree it shouldn't be what you're doing. So unfair.

Sorry for the baby bomb Sun. Met my due date twin baby today and weirdly wasn't that jealous. She is lovely, of course, but so obviously not my baby that it was ok.

Dd sleeping in her new room. All good so far, once I stopped her jumping up and down with excitement so hard the lights below were flashing on and off. Something tells me our house could be more solidly built!

ThePopAndCry · 04/03/2015 22:35

Thanks again, everybody. Am really alternating between sadness and anger this evening.
Sorry sun. You are perfectly entitled to feel that it's unfair.

Frecklefire · 04/03/2015 22:45

Pop - words fail me. Am extending a hug, from a stranger, across the miles. Xxx

Sunandrainbow · 04/03/2015 22:59

Thanks pop - is really nothing compared to what you have been / are going through. Just blind sided me a bit how sad I felt.

Really hope u r ok after today and dh is there woth you. X

Jady77 · 05/03/2015 02:08

So sorry for what you're going through Pop. My heart goes out to you.

Sorry you had Face bomb Sun. My DP had to walk out the office yesterday when our colleague announced their 2nd child due when our first was due. Glad I wasn't there.

Thanks all for your kind words. Just spent last few hours clearing down my laptop and writing resignation. Still feeling anxious, it's a lot of money to give up. But my health and a better chance of having a DC has to be my focus. Am sure the anxiety will let up, just that it means we'll have to move out of our lovely home in a month too, so lots to consider.

Tanny hope things are still progressing. Or could it be record breaker for longest labour ever! Hope it's going ok x

barkingtreefrog · 05/03/2015 06:54

Jady I gave up teaching, a job I loved, in order to give everything one last go. I now work in an office and miss the classroom like crazy, but fitting all the iui and ivf appointments around school, getting all hormonal with the injections while trying to teach, and trying to relax about the whole process while dealing with the stupid workload and working long hours was just too hard. Not to mention going through my second mc on a residential trip with 40 kids in the middle of the countryside with no reception to call DH....

I hope you find it works for you. Mental health and happiness has to come first!!

Any word from Tanny....???

tannyLoo · 05/03/2015 07:16

Still here. Sad

Will call midwives in a bit for advice and hopefully they'll OK another sweep.

At least I got more sleep last night, so that should help...

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bakingtins · 05/03/2015 07:22

aw tanny Flowers I got all excited when I saw you'd posted Blush
Baby tan is just too comfy in there! Hope you can get another sweep today.

pop I'm so sorry, that must be so tough. I hope it brings you a measure of peace being able to sat goodbye properly.

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girliesaints · 05/03/2015 07:24

Hang in there Tanny. Had a similar experience with DD. Worth it in the end x

twilightstruggle · 05/03/2015 07:27

Can't properly look and name check as have to drive to a training event 2h away on my birthday (can no longer say I'm 32??), when I should be 12 weeks today Will check in properly later.

Pop - I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine what that feels like. Another random stranger hug.

Jady - I resigned yesterday and feel 100x better already. Ok so perhaps it'll end up being a mistake but something needed to change and I'm just happy for a bit of respite from the misery that a good old resignation from a horribly stressful job brings. I hope you figure out what's best for you.

Tanny - sorry you're having a slow time of it. I know nothing but surely you deserve a bit of support and advice from midwifes at this point? Hugs and support to you too lovey.