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mmc...totally lost

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brickiemum2 · 29/01/2015 14:14

This is probably covered in other threads so apologies, but I don't have the strength to read them right now.
I went for an early reassurance scan this morning due to a couple of previous very early losses. On those occasions I always knew something was wrong as bfp' s were weak and symptoms non existent. This time I've had the strongest symptoms I've ever had, even compared to my two pregnancies that resulted in my children. Unfortunately I have a sac measuring 7 weeks (my days put me at 7w3d) a yolk sac but no fetal pole at all. Totally empty.
I still feel so pregnant though and my symptoms are strong.
How long can I expect to still feel like this and any idea when my body will realize there is no baby and let it go?
I'm finding this so so hard compared to my spontaneous mc' s.
Thanks.

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Stoatystoat · 28/02/2015 09:54

I got back on it after that glass

It was the cured meat I enjoyed the most tho!

Lauramum23 · 28/02/2015 18:51

Yep I'm a lil tipsy on red wine now I'm gonna have a ill baileys!

shieldbug · 28/02/2015 20:45

Last night I had parma ham and a glass of red to cheer me up! It's all kicking off today; had first stronger pains in Tesco (great timing) but luckily we were about done so could come home quickly. Since then I have passed some ENORMOUS clots (sorry tmi) and had lots of pains. So sorry to ask, but how do you know when the pregnancy sac has emerged? It all just looks like clots to me.

Stoatystoat · 28/02/2015 21:11

I was peeing in Tupperware and my sister or husband were keeping an eye on it.

I am assured the sac looks different from the normal blood, it is a definite thing covered in blood. My DH was quite taken aback.

That happened at about 10am on the Sunday; I'd had the pains at lunchtime on the Saturday.

Lots of love xx

Lauramum23 · 28/02/2015 21:52

Well I just passed one blob the size of a kiwi ( approx) then another half the size of that ,then i just had lots of blood and small bits of clots, I bled just over a week.

Lauramum23 · 28/02/2015 21:55

The pains were very intense like the start of labour pains actually they were right in my back, and I'm not sure if the blobs looked any different to very large clots tbh as I could feel it coming out so ran To toilet and they came out in there- so glad I was at home!

Stoatystoat · 28/02/2015 22:05

Yes I defo had contraction labour pains. No one warned me of it!

Wolfiefan · 28/02/2015 22:09

I saw this thread on active and just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this. My first pg was a mmc. Scan at about 13 weeks revealed it. I was completely devastated. I had an ERPC. (Shit name btw.)
I now have two gorgeous kids.
Wishing you healing, hope and happiness. xx

Stoatystoat · 28/02/2015 22:29

ERPC is a shit name defo. And the options are all shit too.

Happy to hear you got babies in the end xx

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brickiemum2 · 01/03/2015 05:29

I've to go back for repeat bloods on Tuesday so hopefully my levels will drop enough that I get a period soon Laura No idea when though.
How are you today shield ? Hope it's over for you and you're resting Flowers

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shieldbug · 01/03/2015 12:36

Just had the most horrendous time with massive bleeding, labour-type pains and loads of huge clots. I assume one of them was the sac, but just when I think I've done, I go and produce another one even more huge than the last. The pains have finally subsided though. I was within a hair's breadth of calling the out of hours doc last night due to the pain, but then it eased off enough to go to sleep. Thank you all for your support. I've got a scan on Friday to check it's all gone so fx for then.
wolfie so glad you have 2 dcs now. I already have 2ds and am so grateful for them.
brickie hoping for good news for you soon.

Lauramum23 · 01/03/2015 19:38

It sounds as tho plenty has come out so I'm sure the scan will show good news.
I was shocked by how painful it was at times actually.
How are you feeling in yourself? Did you say you were 10 weeks? That's pretty far along, was you in the September group then? My due date was 30th sep.

shieldbug · 01/03/2015 20:20

Hi Laura I was in the October thread because my previous 2 had been late so reckoned I was due late Sept/early Oct. I'm feeling much better physically now and I actually feel as though I am starting to come to terms mentally with what has happened. Obviously, I'll always wonder what might have been and remember that I was briefly pg, but I think we'll learn to be satisfied with the 2ds we've got. (Due to my age, (41), I don't think we will try again).

Lauramum23 · 01/03/2015 22:54

My sil has just had a baby she's 44 41 ain't too old!
Glad you are coming to terms with it all x

shieldbug · 02/03/2015 20:23

I suppose you're right Laura but I'm acutely aware of the increased risks, especially now I've had a mc and I don't want to put myself through more heartache. I'm so pleased for your sil though.

Sams23 · 06/03/2015 07:31

Has anyone had their period yet? I'm coming round to the idea of trying again now

shieldbug · 06/03/2015 19:54

sams Do you have to have a period after a mc to be fertile again? I had a scan today and everything has gone, so IF we decide to TTC again, do we have to wait until then?

Stoatystoat · 06/03/2015 23:16

Have I bollocks had a period...I had a scan and I have retained products as they call it Hmm

You can try again when you want it the coast is clear. They prefer you to wait for dating reasons, but it's up to you. I have heard you are hyper fertile post MC but not sure of the truth in that.

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brickiemum2 · 07/03/2015 15:21

shield I fell pregnant with my dd 14 days after a mc with no period in between. No reason to wait.

If I ever get a bfn I will try straight away again.

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Sams23 · 07/03/2015 19:10

Yeah they said to me they say to wait for period for dating reasons I'm hoping it will come soon Ive been feeling very hormonal and slight aches but nothing as of yet!

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brickiemum2 · 08/03/2015 10:46

In my opinion dating reasons aren't enough to prevent me from just going for it. The pregnancy gets dated at the 12 week scan anyway and they go by that date rather than lmp anyway.
If you feel up to it then just go for it Grin

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shieldbug · 08/03/2015 20:32

Thanks for the advice! I suppose a bfn is what I am waiting for then rather than a period. We still haven't decided what to do. My heart just wants another baby, but my head knows there's a lot of cons as well. Dh I think seems to feel in a similar way so we've got some serious thinking to do. The nurse at my last scan (which thank goodness was all clear) said I would be hyper-fertile so we need to decide soon as we may not get as good a chance as this again!
stoaty so sorry to hear it's not over yet. What are they going to do?

Sams23 · 08/03/2015 20:33

And there isn't any increased risk or anything because you haven't waited for period? I think we are going to go for it now I'm feeling so much better in myself im just wanting to be pregnant so bad again!

Sams23 · 08/03/2015 20:35

Shield bug how long after mc are you still getting a positive test?

shieldbug · 08/03/2015 20:42

sams I was told to wait for 2 weeks then test with the test they gave me at the hospital. That would take me to Friday 20th. I haven't done any tests myself yet but come to think of it, the baby died at least 4 weeks ago, possibly 6 so maybe levels have dropped already. Frankly, I think if hcg is too high there won't be any ovulation anyway, so I can't see how there'd be any risks. One of the functions of hcg is to prevent ovulation. Good luck if you go for it; your feelings could be your body telling you it's ready!