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Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Justonemoretime · 29/11/2014 17:38

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

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Justonemoretime · 02/12/2014 20:16

Totally understand your apprehension for tomorrow, Cat. Everything crossed for you.

Well done on the job, Cloud. Hope it leads to professional satisfaction and also invokes the law of sod.

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Justonemoretime · 02/12/2014 20:17

Belle, right there with you, treacle wading....

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bootles · 02/12/2014 21:02

cloud well done. I hope it gives you a bit of a lift and perhaps the extra energy that's needed for TTC.

For sure my working life has been affected. For a start there's the sick time, and then when I have tried to go back early (eg a week after tfmr, or inbetween bad scan and waiting for erpc) I haven't exactly been on top of my game. I keep putting off finding a new job for all the mat leave reasons, and because I just haven't got the focus necessary to find one.

Good luck for tomorrow cat.

I wish I felt that specific pregnancy exhaustion but I don't and it's worrying. May be the pred making me more energetic, but maybe I'm clutching at straws. I have started to feel pretty nauseous, but only at certain times in the day. Oh sod it, there's nothing I can do. Have to be patient and accept things.

I was 41 yesterday...ugh..

bootles · 02/12/2014 21:10

Flen my embryo's genetic testing all took about 4-5 weeks. Previously I have chased (via epu) and results were there. Good luck in finding out.

Belleende · 02/12/2014 21:15

Cat thanks for the good wishes. I am 11 weeks scan next week - I think just is in the same boat a few days before me. I had a sympton freakout before my 8 week scan. In my last miscarriage I think I knew going into the scan all was not well - had no symptoms apart from sore boobs and a bit thirsty. This time round all started well and then at six weeks or so it all plateaued. I went to a three day conference, which is normally knackering at the best of times, but I was full of beans and everyone kept telling me how wonderful I was looking. By the end of the conference, I was convinced all was not well. Then two days before the scan I woke up feeling like crap and have done so ever since. Symptoms can be really treacherous, so as a guide they have to be treated with caution - they are just too variable to trust. That is what scans are for.

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow and hope you see a wriggly bean with a nice strong heart beat.

Happy Birthday Bootles!! It could be worse, you could have turned 41 and not be pregnant. I ran away for my 40th- was the due date for my last MC so really didn't feel like celebrating. Was gutted not to be pregnant - but unbeknownst to me I was! I hope you have a nice day or two and get spoiled a bit.

Right enough frm me, I have some more sitting on my arse being tired to do.

barkingtreefrog · 02/12/2014 21:29

Appointment with the consultant next Monday cat. Current obsession worry is the lower back pain and painful AF since the last mc. Apparently they can be symptoms of endometriosis...

girliesaints · 02/12/2014 21:44

Good luck Cat tomorrow with your scan. As the other ladies say try and not get too fixated on your symptoms as much as possible.

Flen, hope your OH had success tracking down your results. I am very impressed you got him into the case as my OH would run a mile.

Big congrats Cloud on the promotion. The discussion on here over the past few days has made me think about retaking control of my career as I took my current job as it had maternity pay (previous job didn't) and we were long term planning for number two.... Obviously that didn't go to plan and I'm now stuck in a job that's ok but not my real passion.
So I've ordered a few books to help me decide what I want to do, as I've lost my way over the past 5 years. Can't do any harm.

Marchgirl · 02/12/2014 22:06

Good luck for tomorrow cat. Hope you get to see your little bean wriggling happily in there. Smile

bakingtins · 02/12/2014 22:10

Good luck tomorrow cat

Catlover2014 · 02/12/2014 22:22

Thanks all for being so lovely. I hope to bring good news tomorrow.

Barking I've suffered with horrendous period pains for last few years but consultant said that usually does not mean endo. Periods change in time and after mc anyway. Ask your consultant on Monday and I'm sure she'll put your mind a rest on that one.

Belle whoop! 11 weeks is great! You've almost made it. We'll all be routing for you at the 12 week scan. I think that's the point when you can start to enjoy it a bit more too.

Hugs to you all. XxX

longestlurkerever · 02/12/2014 22:28

Good luck tomorrow cat. I understand the nervousness. Have honestly felt just the same re symptoms at various points. Is good you have another scan as you will hopefully get the reassurance you need and the next time you have a drop in symptoms you will know it doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong.

Good on you ladies forging ahead with your careers. I feel I have been doing a better job since I got pregnant, despite the sickness, than I have been doing for months while my head has been in a state. May even apply for promotion after mat leave or even in advance of coming back, though that is a bit keen.

Letter from hospital asking me to go in for repeat urine test. Fingers crossed nothing bad.

bythesea82 · 02/12/2014 23:48

cat good luck tomorrow, will be thinking of you.
cloud great work on the promotion. I'm another doing nothing in the hopes that mat leave will remove me from my job. Starting to think I am going to have to bite the bullet and start looking for something else.
bootles Cake for yesterday
longest sure urine test will be fine but never nice being asked to go back.
To all others, big waves Smile

tannyLoo · 03/12/2014 00:09

Cat just wanted to say we'll all be rooting for you tomorrow x

TinyTear · 03/12/2014 07:02

Good luck today Cat!

Cloud great news.

Bootles, I am 41 too... Good 73 vintage.

And best of luck to everyone else. Can't really go back easily on the phone

Flen · 03/12/2014 07:03

Cat hope it goes well today. Will be thinking of you.

Marchgirl · 03/12/2014 07:09

Thinking of you today cat. What time is the scan?

Purplefrogshoes · 03/12/2014 09:10

Good luck cat

Congratulations cloud

Just a quick post as I'm really sick. Dr changed my sickness pills yesterday but I still can't keep water down so I fear Dr may admit me when I see him later, praying meds work before then

cloudjumper · 03/12/2014 09:24

cat Thinking of you today, good luck!

Thank you all for the good wishes on the promotion. I can completely echo all the sentiments about trying to balance career progression with ttc, it is so difficult. When I fell first pg trying for no.2, I was in a job I hated, but which had a fantastic maternity package, so I thought, I'll stick with it and then use the pregnancy/baby to get out. THat plan obviously didn't pan out, and the recovery from the mc was made so much worse by the fact that I had to go back to a job I loathed. That's when I made the decision to leave and take the plunge to change career (the only ever positive outcome from my mcs!), and I'm so glad I did. But since then, I have passed on at least two opportunities to apply for promotion because I was either pg or had just had a mc and couldn't get my head around it. Which again added to the disappointment and frustration.
Two things I have learned - one, never stay in a job that you don't enjoy because it makes life hell for yourself and everyone around you. The other thing I have decided is to no longer put things on hold, thinking about what if I am pg etc. - life has to go on, and I don't want to miss out just because of the 'What Ifs'. So I am booking holidays, throw myself into work, plan things, just as if I would do if we weren't ttc. Always secretly hoping that this will mean that I will actually have a baby and be forced to re-arrange everything (the sod's law thing).

As expected, the colleague sitting next to me has just announced that she is indeed pregnant Sad I feel like crying...

Marchgirl · 03/12/2014 09:34

Oh purple. Sorry you're having such an awful time. I tried quite a few different meds and was frustrated that nothing helped very much, so I feel your pain. Getting to that stage where you can't keep down water is really scary. I hope you find something that works for you. Not much I can say that will help but try and get some solids down if you are able to, absolutely anything that you can stomach. Eating was the only thing that made me feel any better, (even though it was short lived, it was horrible to force it down and sometimes it came back up). Sucking on ice might get a bit of water down without you having to gulp it. Have you tried the travel sickness wrist bands? They help a little for some people. Big hugs to you Flowers

Marchgirl · 03/12/2014 09:39

Cross post cloud. Sorry about your baby bomb. Sad
Very good attitude to have about getting on with things though. I keep saying if the next one doesn't work I'll just get on with life rather than putting it on hold while we try but each time then I can't help it

barkingtreefrog · 03/12/2014 11:07

cloud sorry about the bump. I've just had it today as well, first time my friend/colleague has worn something that properly shows the bump, was able to pretend it wasn't there before Sad.

cat it wasn't just the painful AF, it was the combination of that and the lower back pain (also a symptom) both starting only since last mc that has made me think.
Hope you have another lovely scan today Smile.

girliesaints · 03/12/2014 13:09

Cloud- big hugs over baby announcement. Chocolate/ wine etc tonight to look forward to/ take away the pain?

Purple- naughty little bean not behaving! My friend had it really bad in her first pregnancy and was admitted a few times in hospital. Her second pregnancy started the same way but after trying a few different drugs she got one that worked and it calmed right down. Hope you find one that works x

Catlover2014 · 03/12/2014 16:03

Hi ladies, thanks for all your kind messages. My scan went well. Baby measured 9+2 and was jumping about the screen. I can't quite believe it. DH cried!

Cloud yuk to having pregnant girl sat by you. I hope it's your turn next and that the new job helps to take your mind off it a little.

Barking hope the consultant can rule out endo when you see her on Monday. I honestly think it's unlikely to be that.

Hugs Purple so sorry you're having such a rotten time of it. How bloody well unfair! Hope they can find the right pills to help you keep a little food and water down.

XxX

Marchgirl · 03/12/2014 16:19

Brilliant news cat! Been keeping an eye out for an update. Hopefully you can breathe a bit now. When is your next scan? Just the regular 12 weeker?

Catlover2014 · 03/12/2014 16:29

Thanks March Flowers I'm paying for scan at 10 and 11 weeks too for peace of mind. My mcs were both missed so this is best for me. X