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Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Justonemoretime · 29/11/2014 17:38

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

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Justonemoretime · 03/12/2014 16:41

So pleased for you Cat!
I got my letter through for my 12 week scan today, which will be on 16th Dec. Oddly, it feels like tempting fate so I'm a bit wary of it. Scanxiety is looming for my reassurance scan on the 9th.... the best I can say is hopefully I'll feel sick later!

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longestlurkerever · 03/12/2014 16:53

Fantastic news cat! Bless your dh. You both deserve this. So happy for you.

Hugs to purple. How awful, after everything you've been through already. What has the dr said?

Hugs also to brave cloud. Really want it to be your turn. Where in your cycle are you?

Don't know much about endo barking but hope you get some answers on monday.

Doppler finally arrived. After 20 minsof panic/tears I found the heartbeat! Not sure if I can recommend them on balance but feeling much better now.

Dsis got a new job this week very close to me. She will be stsying with us 1 night per week to save on commuting, and she got engaged. V excited. After a crappy start 2014 is finally looking up. Here's hoping 2015 is a good year for us all. X

Catlover2014 · 03/12/2014 17:42

Thanks ladies!!

Not long to wait now Just. I am hopeful that's it's all going to be ok for you. Will be such a great feeling when that 12 week scan is behind you and you can enjoy Christmas.

Longest things are indeed looking up. How nice to have your sister there regularly too. My friend said the doppler gets more effective as baby gets bigger and you get the hang of it. Must be so lovely to listen to the hb Flowers

XxX

tannyLoo · 03/12/2014 19:10

Cat that is brilliant, and I hope your scanxiety is manageable over the coming weeks.

I don't want to jinx anything, but it is so lovely to have people I care about doing so well this time.

bakingtins · 03/12/2014 19:32

Great news cat so pleased it's all going well.

purple sorry to hear you are feeling so rubbish. I hope the new meds help. Flowers

Floweroct · 03/12/2014 19:53

Cat that's great news :)

girliesaints · 03/12/2014 20:13

Cat- big smiles x

Catlover2014 · 03/12/2014 20:31

Thank you all ladies Smile

Tanny you're lovely Flowers I'm so grateful for your kind support since I came on here.

Shame we all live so far apart. Would be lovely to meet you all properly!!

X

cloudjumper · 03/12/2014 20:57

Great news, cat Smile

girliesaints · 03/12/2014 21:11

Anyone else being grumpy today due to time of the month? I'm normally pretty calm however I've turned into a she devil this week. ?? Ha-ha, OH better stick out of my way!

bootles · 03/12/2014 22:14

cat am so pleased!! Your dh sounds lovely. Great idea to check in regularly with scans.

cloud hang in there..it's got to be your turn soon, am sending you strength to get past other people's bumps.

purple poor you, you are really suffering there. Very much hope you start to improve some time soon.

bythesea82 · 03/12/2014 22:51

cat great news Smile
longest thanks for the book, will get reading before consultant appointment Friday!
cloud hugs
Just seen a friend who is pregnant and had troubles before, she was really lovely and said she'd like to show me her 20 week scan picture but would understand if I didn't want to. I am so pleased for her and it was really exciting to be genuinely excited about the picture. As we've said before, isn't it weird how easy it is to be excited and pleased for some people and grumpy and jealous of others. Was happy my nice side was the one shining through tonight Wink

Belleende · 03/12/2014 23:36

Yeah fab news cat.
just I thought your scan on the 9th was the biggie. So I am up before you then? I predict I will be needing some serious hand holding.
cloud I am surrounded by pregnant 20 somethings in work, with their perfect bumps and blissful ignorance. I am practically geriatric. I have to just let it all wash over me. Oddly the sheer volume of them helps.

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Justonemoretime · 04/12/2014 06:43

Yeah Belle, you're a week ahead of me. I managed to squeeze an extra reassurance scan in at 11 weeks because my last danger point is about 10 and I didn't want to wait until the 12 week scan and get bad news again. Its a bit if paranoia, superstition and hysteria to be honest but it means I have a scan at 11 and 12 weeks. Good luck with yours. xx

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Catlover2014 · 04/12/2014 07:06

girlie let OH take the grief then. We don't ask these men to do much hehe. Hope you feel a bit brighter soon in all seriousness. We women sure can have a temper when the hormones fly lol.

Hugs belle so hard and I know just what you mean. I work in a team of 12 girls all between 28 and 42. Over the last 8 years they have all started their families (with the exception of one who has become a doting step mum) and I have been the only one who couldn't get my family started. The daily baby and child talk drives me to tears somedays. Often in the ladies loos of course haha.

belle and just we'll be here for hand holding up to your scans Flowers So far so good and you don't have much longer to wait now. You're going to make it, this is your time!!!

XxX

Catlover2014 · 04/12/2014 07:09

Thanks to bythesea, bootles and cloud for being so kind. Sorry if I've missed anyone else out, you ladies really are my lifeline!! X

Flen · 04/12/2014 07:32

I am having a fury spike! Best friend put something on Facebook saying with her son (who I adore) having spelled out his name, saying "I am bragging about children, as is expected of my age and demographic". Not sure why this in particular has got in, but it has and I feel all cross!

So sympathies belle, other people and their pregnancies and children. (Obviously those of you with DCs are not included in this - this thread and its members seems to have different rules!!)

girlie I have started getting ovulation emotion, which is weird! Pre-period has calmed down, but round ovulation I am tearful and irritable. Anyone else get this?

bythesea Hope it goes well tomorrow, let us know. I'm still chasing the consultants for results of genetic testing.

TinyTear · 04/12/2014 07:43

Flen I would comment back "woo-bloody-hoo aren't you lucky to be on the other side of statistics" and hide her for a bit...

Good luck for scans today belle

cat where are you based? I have met lurker for lunch one day as we don't work too far from each other...

Actually there had been talk of some of the London city-ish based ones meeting up for lunch around Farringdon/St Paul's one day... I am still up for it... lurker? triple who else was there?

cloud great news about the job, pity about your colleague... I had 3 pregnancies in my close team during MCs 1 and 2... it was very tough... especially as two were accidents and they had no problem in mentioning it and how easy it all was... lots of crying in bathrooms then...

just with this one I had also 2 scans with 5 days between then - the FMC one and the NHS one... could be a good sign...

Waving at everyone else... have been really busy at work so can't remember to mention everyone... I am reading, even if not commenting...

longestlurkerever · 04/12/2014 08:01

You're welcome bythesea. Just to warn you that some on this thread found the book a bit depressing as it does rather focus on causes rather than cures but I found it helpful to read nevertheless.

Yes, I would be up for a meet up!

Hugs to all suffering the rage.

Just I had 11 and 12 week scans too. Good luck!

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Justonemoretime · 04/12/2014 08:06

Flen, feel free to counter post a nice (passive aggressive) piece I wrote as a link on your fb. I can't link here but if you Google 'the hardest job in the world + miscarriage' you will find it either on my blog or huffpost. On google its about the 9th hit, its higher on bing. If you're feeling really pissed off, why not #justsayin' Wink

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Justonemoretime · 04/12/2014 08:11

thanks Tiny Smile

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tannyLoo · 04/12/2014 08:17

Flen yes to ovulation full on grouch! Post MCs, DH knew when he had to wrestle me into sex! (Metaphorically most of the time ) Good to know it's happening?

Cat you made me cry.

In fact, I'm all over a bit of an emotional wreck at the moment. I seem to have developed an extreme response to stress, and go into a sort of shutdown mode. It's been going on for a few years, but this time has happened so quickly that its really shaken me. My dreams are all about real people doing truly awful things, including me, and I'm just in tears a lot at home. Feeling so fearful of everything, and just want to run away.

Sorry, I need to get a grip, and get up and going, but just feeling it massively this morning.

If only I could do everything by email and message for the next few weeks... Sad

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Justonemoretime · 04/12/2014 08:26

Hugs Tanny, be kind to yourself. xx

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charlieis30 · 04/12/2014 08:51

tiny me! Although I'm working in my European office but back the week of the 15th (when I have my 8wk scan wheeeeee/eeeekk) Can meet up then if it's not too mad in the runup to Christmas.

Speaking of all the facebook stuff, I fully intend once I "out" this pregnancy on fb (assuming it works out) to write something like "third time lucky" or "third time's the charm" so people know we've had problems. We're very honest with our friends and family, mostly because they all ask us when we're having kids (we've been married over 18mths and DH is in his 40s) so I just say "actually I've had a couple of MCs". Shuts them right up. But it does feel like a big step to mention the MCs on FB, even so. I want to do it though.