Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

[Justonemoretime]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
Please start with a recap of your stats :)

Flen - I was told 6-8 wks but got then in 4 weeks. You will get a letter in the post. We are waiting for blood karyotyping now which has been 4weeks so far.

Cat totally normal. Scroll back through the last thread for proof. Please try not to worry and make the most of feeling ok as it'll be back when you least expect it.

Thanks March, I had hoped as much. Scan is on Wednesday! How are you doing? Any news? X

Cat, totally normal (although I've been worried, the same as you). You'll be feeling as rough as anything soon, I'm sure. Good luck for Wednesday. x
Flen, my genetics came back in 6 weeks ish for both dh and I and baby#3. I got a call from my consultant about the baby and got told at our RMC appointment for ours. I'd chase, though as sometimes they sit in someone's tray and they might be able to hurry the info along. Good luck. x

Quick line to say cat yes it is totally normal. The symptoms ebb and flow. Really they do. When is your next scan, for your reassurance? X

So wednesday..i missed the other posts. Just a couple of days to wait. (I know it will seem like forever)

Blimey, you are a chatty lot! 2 days into the new thread and already nearly 100 posts!
Will catch up properly later, just adding my stats:

42, DH 44, 1 DS (3.5 yrs). Ttc no.2 since August 2012.
4 MCs, 3 early ones at 8-10 weeks in 2013, then one at 17 weeks in April 2014. On heparin and aspirin when pg, due to a DVT a few years ago. Also had progesterone for the 1st trimester in my last pregnancy.
2/4 mcs were found to be due to chromosomal abnormalities (one trisomy 2, one trisomy 18), so age is definitely playing a role

Thanks everyone. I'm at least very hormonal and teary today. Will be glad when Wednesday is behind me!

Hi cloud nice to see you. I knew your story already but so sad to read it again. Are you ttc at the moment? Lots of sex? X

Also will catch up properly later, just adding stats:

DS 2011 (eternally grateful and realise how lucky I am)

Losses:

1. MC - 2012, found at 11.5 wks, died 7.5
2. TFMR - 2013 Thought all good until major problems found at 12wk scan, in-utero death predicted at some point, tfmr at 13 wks - chromosomally normal
3. MC - 2014, diagnosed at 9 wks, Trisomy 22, anembryonic
4. MC - 2014, slow to develop, HB seen, mc 8wks - chromosomes normal

Found to have high NK cells at Coventry (but only just high) and got upduffed straight away - results one day, bfp the next. Now 6+4, was on progesterone from CD 21, prednisolone from bfp, clexane after scan last week at 5+5 showed sac and yolk sac in right place. Think am 4 days behind dates due to late ovulation. Next scan Dec 9th (so with you just) when it will be clear if there is any progression or not. Its a long wait but am not up for 'maybe' scans so am holding out until 9th.

Thanks baking for pred expetience - hard to tell what is what when on meds. Definitely feeling more pukey last couple of days but been here before so the jury's out.

Thanks everyone, OH is going to start the phone detective work today as we are not entirely sure WHO to chase (D&C was in one hospital, "products" sent to Guy's in London, EPU at another hospital!)

cat Yes, as far as I am concerned, we are actively ttc... But I am really not enjoying it, in fact, I am really struggling! It is such an uphill struggle...

But on the positive side, I got my promotion Trying to maintain some sense of normality at least. The (rather modest) pay rise will come in very handy for Christmas!

Congratulations cloud

Congrats cloud. Glad to hear someone had a job they want to be at. I have no motivation for work at all at the moment!

Congratulations Cloud that's great news!!! Sounds like you and DH need a mini break for that ttc'in! X

I'm with you on that one march! Three years of staying put in case I get pregnant and three times working out when I'd start maternity only to go back to the drawing board! Congrats cloud :)

Same here flower, kept avoiding courses as I thought I'd be on maternity leave, not wanting to leave my job because the maternity pay was better so would be silly to move... 3 years on I've just moved jobs. Can't really wait any longer as I kept turning down promotion opportunities thinking I wouldn't be able to cope with extra workload if I was pg . I've taken a side step and a pay cut in order to massively reduce stress and work/life balance in a last ditch attempt to try something that might help me get pg and not lose it... Couldn't face going through more fertility treatment and potentially a mc or the fear of one while in the classroom teaching, it was just too much.

Congratulations cloud! Agree that impact on career is another side-effect of rmc. Planning anything feels impossible. Better just to go for it though and hope that sod's law plays a helping hand.

Congratulations Cloud! I completely agree barking and longest, career stuff is totally tricky with rmc. I too have avoided applying for courses just in case. Think I am now adopting the "throw all the mud at the wall and hope some of it sticks" approach...

I'm the same. Probably would have left work by now, as I'm facing a 20% paycut in a year or so, but been holding out for mat pay. Still hoping it might work out in time

Many congrats cloud go for it lady. I know what others are saying about career. I would have left my current company years ago, but having worked there for a decade I think they owe me a mat leave. I am really fortunate that I love my job and have just taken over a new team and it is all v exciting. Sods law applies all the best stuff will happen when I am on mat leave (if I am lucky enough to get that far). Just need to make sure I get at least some of the credit for it!

Don't know about the rest of you first trimester ladies, but I am really struggling with energy levels at the mo. Constantly feel like I am wading through treacle. That combined with the glacial pace of time is making me feel a bit down. Doesn't help that dp has started new job with long hours and is constantly knackered as well. Any tips to get energy levels up?

Ooh cloud congratulations!! You now need a well deserved break/holiday and who knows you may get pg. it always happens!!

Ooh cloud congratulations!! You now need a well deserved break/holiday and who knows you may get pg. it always happens!!

Hugs to you sleepy Belle. It is so hard getting through these first two months. How many weeks in are you now? When's your next scan?

I agree with all you ladies who've posted about abt mc affecting your career. I haven't worked hard enough for as long as I can remember and I've even dropped a day as I can't cope with full time at the moment.

My 9 week scan is tomorrow and I'm not feeling good about it. I have felt quite different ever since Sunday. Wish I had more knowledge about what happened last time but I'm so in the dark. Just want it to be January now. x

Nothing I say will make any difference cat but I'll offer the meaningless platitudes anyway

There's no reason to believe anything is wrong, symptoms come and go and you'll be (understandably) over-analysing everything a lot more than the average pg woman.

There's nothing you can do to affect what will happen, just live one day at a time and try and live in the moment rather than worrying about the past and the future.

Today you are pregnant .

And congrats, cloud! Missed that off my last post, sorry!

Thanks barking

How are you? Is your IUI all booked in for January?

Xx