Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 14 - tests, treatment, trying again

[Justonemoretime]

Information, support, hand holding, tea, sympathy and a hell of a lot of combined knowledge - all welcome as we try to make sense of the RMC roller coaster of tests, NHS admin, heart ache and (hopefully) happy endings!
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Bootles!!!!! sorry, stoopid auto correct phone!

Sounds like next week is a big scan week for the thread. I managed to have a lovely day yesterday. Went to some christmas markets, put up the tree, met up with some friends. Was really chuffed to have a non treacle day. Steeling myself as I am expecting I will go a bit mental this week. It is all so huge. I am more and more sure that this will be my last pregnancy, so the significance of Thursday is HUGE. And for the first time in my life ever lots of things seem to be lining up and falling into place, which is terrifying. I mean a tory government budget just saved my £4k on stamp duty, meaning I can probably take a month or two more mat leave. Shit like this never happens to me and I am terrified and deeply suspicious. The optimist in me thinks that life couldnt be so cruel as to dangle all this in front of me and then take it away. But I know from personal experience and from the stories on this thread, life absoutely can be that cruel. It feels like this time next week I will be waking up in my future, but I don't know yet which version if it. Arghhhhh.

I'm not doing anything xmas tree like until after the scans are done. We haven't had one for 3 years due to 2011 having just had a mc and still bleeding from retained products #1 and cat in cage with broken leg so no room in the lounge, 2012 edd #2 Xmas eve, and 2013 edd #3 19th Dec (note to self, stop having sex in March/April) and FIL had just died. If I put them up and things go wrong I don't think I could bear to look at them. Let's all keep our fingers crossed that this time is different.

Lots of moving posts today. Glad you had a good day belle. I put my tree up too and snuggled up watching the snowman with dd, really counting my blessings (for 5 mins till she told me to sit on the other sofa!) Next Christmas there will be loads of thread babies, I just lnow it. Let's all wish for one each! X

Hi everyone, my sickness is much better and even though I know it's because of the medication, my anxiety is through the roof, DH thinks I'm nuts

Good luck for those with scans this week

Hope all the scans this week bring good news

Christmas isn't happening here. It's the third year in a row I was hoping would be baby's first and I'm still not even pregnant for Christmas so all the happy family crap can go jump. We're running away on holiday and returning for the new year. Which combined with the early arrival of AF for the last two cycles annoyingly means we can't do iui next cycle as we'll be away when I would need to be going to hospital for scans. Oh well, new start in 2015 and all that.

Hugs barking. This is so hard and I feel for you. I've spent the last four Christmases wishing there was a baby. Are you going away to somewhere nice? Getting away from it all is a great strategy!

Good luck to bootles, just, belle and longest for this week. What a big week for this thread. We have to keep the hope for this time.

2015 could be a really good year for us all! I hope god blesses us all with new babies.

XXX

Sounds like it's hugs all round.

It's my birthday today and I have been an absolute nightmare! AF arrived completely unexpectedly yesterday, I thought I was at ovulation time, so I think my hormones are all over the place. I have been tearful and shouty and pretty horrible to OH. Think it is one of those days. Just feel so overwhelmingly sad all of a sudden. Bleugh.

Aw, I hope your birthday improves, flen. Hugs also to Barking. Yes, I will be keeping everything crossed that 2015 is your year.

That sounds like a proper shit birthday flen. I have been finding them tough the last few years. Sometimes it can feel like life just doesn't give you a breaK.

I get the urge to cancel Christmas cat. If it all goes tits up I will be launching the tree out the window and looking for a flight out of here.
Back to treacle here today, topped off with vicious heartburn. Glad I made the most of yesterday. Hoping for at least some sleep tonight.

sorry you are feeling crap on your birthday flen

Any reminder of time passing and still being stuck at the same stage is v hard so big hugs to anyone struggling with Christmas and New Year. 2015 is going to be a fab year for us all though, plenty of thread babies on the way and more good news to come for those of you still trying.

crossing so much that I may fall over for all of you with important scans this week!

Hugs flen

belle good luck next week. Don't over think the whole stamp duty bonus..It's normal to feel very cynical of good things happening, in our situation. Roll on thursday.

just its at 9 but wont actually happen until at least 10 probably. I'll be 7+5 so if it looks bad theres no room for doubt..unless a slow death like last time. Ah god I dont know what to think.

Hugs Flen and Barking, hope next year is your year.
Bootles, a morning scan is better than an afternoon one in terms of giving them time to fall behind. Everything crossed for you.
to everyone.

Sorry you're having a crap birthday flen, and sorry af has arrived. Hopefully this cycle will be back to normal. I'm not sure what to say about the result of the tests on the foetus. It's really difficult to know whether you want there to be something that caused it or not, or that's how I feel anyway. Glad you got a result though, and you still have plenty of avenues to explore so there's lots to be hopeful for and you'll definitely be doing something different this time, which is what's most important to me. Big hugs and hope your evening gets better

boozle, not heard from you in a while. How are you doing? Hope everything is alright x

Flen-hope your birthday improved. Finally AF arrived for me today, a few days late and I've been pretty horrible to OH as well. Convinced 2015 will be kind to both of us ??

For everyone having scans this week ,will be thinking of everyone. Lots of ??????????????????????????for everyone x

Also hugs to barking, was on my phone earlier on the way home from work and couldnt keep up very well. There are some Christmas times when the bah humbug approach is what gets you through. I hope you have a fabulous holiday, preferably in a wondrous place, and come back relaxed and refreshed ready to start iui.

girlie and flen I hope your OH's are being nice to you, however horrible you are being to them.

march I think the feeling of not knowing whether you want there to be a cause / something wrong found, is pretty common. Its a double edged sword really.

Reading back my post..I didn't intend to sound rude girlie and flen! I'm sure you're not being as horrid as you think to your oh's...what I meant was, I hope they are being patient and kind because this journey is such an emotional rollercoaster.

Hugs to flen and girlie my DH has to take the flack from time to time too hehe. I am sure there are better things ahead for next year, hang in there. We're all here to listen and understand.

Belle we'll get a flight somewhere together if it goes wrong for us both. Just read that Kate Middleton has flown to New York, I'd be too paranoid when pregnant but I guess nothing bad ever happens to her

Good luck for this morning Bootles I'll have a chat with the big man upstairs for you in a minute. We're all supporting you!

Hope you're ok barking. You're always on my mind lovely.

Hugs and good luck to you allxxxxxx

Good luck with the week of scans, I'm with baking, crossing everything so hard I might never play the violin again!

I feel for everyone not wanting to do much celebratory for Christmas. This time last year I was in hospital having my fourth MC, which was suspected ectopic, and the year before had my first MC. It is miserable as nothing reminds you of your lack of baby as much as Christmas. Big hugs, and after an appalling 2013, my 2014 has been much better, and the same will be true of you xxx

Flen poor you! Am really not surprised you felt so fed up. Have you explored some of the quack medicines to regulate your cycle? I took a whole load of stuff, which seemed to help bring my cycle back a bit (maybe). Am happy to post them later if needed.

I have a tummy bug, and am feeling very sorry for myself, mostly because as an agency worker I won't get paid which is a shitter (unfortunately quite literally) this time of year.

Sorry I haven't sent out any of the bits and pieces yet, just being very crap (default position at the moment), but will endeavour to send them out in the next couple of days...

Good luck for scans this week everyone. Who is first?

Thank you everybody. It was a bit of a wash out day, and ended with a migraine. Bloody hormones. I have taken today off, feeling knackered and head hasn't quite settled down and just really tearful.

I completely empathise with everyone saying they are dreading Christmas - mmc 1 was discovered on Boxing Day for me, but even if it wasn't, I think I would still struggle with this time of year. Do whatever you all need to get through it, I say.

Tanny I am doing some quack medicines (daughter of an acupuncturist...!) I have been having cranio-sacral osteopathy, and I am now starting to look at supplements and things (didn't want to start taking anything until after the blood tests). Looking at metafolin (instead of bog standard folic acid) and high quality fish oils. My cycle is usually pretty regular, think this one is a bit bonkers because of the retained pregnancy tissue - when that came out, I thought it was AF, now I know it wasn't!

Who is first up for scans this week? Thinking of you all.

My supplements/vitamins:
After MC2 I took the expensive pregnacare, plus extra folic (5 extra for another 2mg a day, I didn't check with my doc naughty naughty). Plus I took fish oil some days (I hate the fish burps) and a coQ10 supplement which has very tenuous links to better egg health. After I got pregnant I ran out of the pregnacare so I've just been taking the folic.
I also had fairly regular acupuncture (1x/wk) most weeks between the MC and my BFP. I don't particularly feel like it at the moment but my GP was like "go if you want" (while blatantly thinking "snake oil")

Hi all,

I've miscarried twice in the last 6 months (1 at 5wks, 1 blighted ovum at 11wks).

I'm desperate to get some private tests done. I'm based in London and have read St Mary's are the best, but I've phoned them over 20 times and left huge amounts of voicemails and have got no response...

Has anyone else had this issue?

Or has anyone else been for private tests in London at another clinic they'd recommend?

I'd like to start TTC again in the new year, but feel like I'm running out of time to have the tests done.

Any advice massively appremciated!

Thank you

xxx

Hi new
I got refered to St Mary's by my GP, is there a way yours could help you?

Otherwise, you can always try the implantation clinic in Coventry (google Prof. Quenby or Prof. Brosens) where some of us had success