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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

OP posts:
gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 12:47

i think you do right nif. when i was going through it i convinced myself dates were wrong even tho looking back now it was nigh on impossible.

i will keep fingers crossed for you though just incase. did they say the sack was empty? when is your rescan? it was my first pregnancy too its heartbreaking you just assume when you are pregnant you get a baby. so sad.

fromwesttoeast · 09/03/2015 13:00

Sorry you are going through it too Niff. Scans a week apart are standard procedure. They need to make sure not to misdiagnose mc.
One comfort is you don't have to feel alone, there is support here for you. Flowers

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 16:16

Sorry you're going through this too niff

ginger I'm not convinced I did ovulate at the weekend. I had blood taken on the 26th Feb. Hcg Wss 47. Blood taken on 3rd March.. hcg was 14, boobs started hurting on the 6th, had strong pain on the 7th. Boobs getting more sore since then and now nausea as well.

I really don't think there's been a time when my hcg was low enough for ov and then for any symptoms to start? Surely I would only get symptoms once hcg rises quite far?

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 16:21

I'm right in thinking that I couldn't ov until hcg was absolute zero?? Even if hcg was gone by tues night and I ov on Wed or thurs it's a bit soon for me to feel anything? I think I'm just symptom spotting too much....although I've never had sore boobs apart from when pregnant Hmm

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 17:23

brickie this is just my opinion based on the science of cyles, people who give birth etc i would expect once your hcg drops to 0 which you would assume was the back end of last week your cycle would start then so ovulation will happen in about 12-16 days depending on cycle and af in 28 days?

that is only my thoughts though. i dont know how true that is. google will probs help you more? are you desperate to ttc again?

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 17:45

Yes, but it's as much that I'm a control freak and kinda need to know what's going on Blush
From a quick Google plus my experiences from last time I've worked out that ovulation can (and often does occur) within hours/ days of hcg dropping to zero rather than in 14 days. Certainly my scan on the 24th February showed that womb lining had already thickened back to the level it would be at st the mid to end of a cycle.

mrsb0710 · 09/03/2015 19:50

Just checking in ladies, I'm sorry niff we are all here for you. Its not an easy time, but any way we can support, just let us know.

CD2 here, have come to terms and just want to ov again already.

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 20:17

oh well brickie all sounds promising. maybe u did ovulate afterall. hope u av been dtd Grin

hey mrsb exciting times coming up for u not long and you will be in ur fertile window and laying with your legs in the air etc ha! how r u feeling?

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 20:34

Oh, I just don't know. We've been dtd pretty much daily and at least eod. Just in case ya know Wink
I think perhaps the fact that I got preg 14 days after a mc last time has somewhat caused me to put myself under a bit of pressure/expectation. I really need to just chill out Hmm

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 20:38

how long ago was your mc now?

yes it wont necessarily happen the same way again but by all account you are super fertile after mc so can only hope!

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 20:49

Well..the baby stopped developing mid January, mmc discovered at the end of Jan. Started bleeding reasonably heavily Feb 10th (so hcg was falling by then) erpc on Feb 13th.

mrsb0710 · 09/03/2015 20:58

Doing ok, horrendous cramps and smashing headache though. DH has been lovely, thank goodness.

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 20:59

I hope you have plenty chocolate in mrsb Flowers

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 21:03

brickie my erpc was 14 december and had af 12 jan so u could be right. the i fell pg again in the cycle after 12 jan.

oh mrsb full on af symptoms then, hopefully be iver and done with in the next couple of days. chocolate is a good idea Grin

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 21:11

When did you get a bfn after your erpc then ginger ?

mrsb0710 · 09/03/2015 21:18

I got my bfn about 5 weeks after my erpc.

Lots of chocolate, and red wine :) and co-codamol.

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 21:18

i didnt actually try a test until the day after news years day which was bfn so was 18 days i think.

chubbymummy · 09/03/2015 21:43

Just caught up with this thread. Congratulations West, I'm thrilled for you!
Hope the rest of you get good news very soon too.

Sorry you've had to join this thread Niff.

I had an appointment at the miscarriage clinic on Monday and they think my miscarriage was due to chromosomal abnormalities.

This thread is filling up a lot so please someone PM me with a link to the next one. I'd love to keep updated on how everyone is doing.

mrsb0710 · 09/03/2015 21:50

Can someone please start a new thread now and post the link here? I'm not sure how to do it. Don't want to lose anyone!!

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 22:02

Thanks mrsb I'm glad we're all going to keep chatting. Are we moving to the new thread now or waiting until this one is full?

fromwesttoeast · 10/03/2015 06:49

Thank you Chubby. How do you feel about the diagnosis if chromosome abnormality? Surely it means there is nothing actually wrong with your system, it was just that you caught a defective egg.
Does it change anything for you ?

gingerbreadmam · 10/03/2015 07:02

that was my thoughts when i read it too chubby. is the reason a relief?

its good to hear from you and i hope u r ok.

thanks for the new thread mrsb

chubbymummy · 10/03/2015 07:12

It's messed with my head a bit to be honest. I was so sure I was done and had started to accept it but now I'm not so sure. If it had been my first miscarriage then I'd definitely be trying again but after 4 I feel like nature is trying to tell me something. Of course my chances of even getting pregnant are slim as it's been over 7 years of trying for child number 2. I'm not sure I can take the disappointment each month when af starts.

fromwesttoeast · 10/03/2015 07:29

Ahhhh, that's understandable. It's a tough decision. Too many what ifs. Give yourself time to think about it some more. Flowers