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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

OP posts:
fromwesttoeast · 07/03/2015 15:13

Thank you ladies. I'm fine thanks Ginger. Not got any sickness or anything yet. Back in 1998 when I had my first pregnancy I didn't test till AF was two weeks late, and I know I didn't feel ill before that. In my recent mc I only started to worry about lack of symptoms once I was getting through into week 7. This time who knows?
Ive not told anyone in rl apart from DH. I'm not planning going anywhere near EPU or GP either anytime soon. I find all the uncertainty of early scans worse than just not knowing. As long as I have no obvious problems such as pain or heavy bleeding I am hoping I can just sit tight and wait.
My life in general is very hectic at the moment, so the days are flying by, which helps.
Eight weeks sounds very nice and well established Ginger. Smile

gingerbreadmam · 07/03/2015 15:56

i wouldnt go for an early scan either id rather not know after last time.

im glad the days are going fast for you hopefully your safe place will be here before you know it.

i dont think you can trust in symptoms too much. i definitely feel different to last time tho.

when will you be due? i am on the october ante natal board. feel like i dont fit in tho so im drifting off it a bit now lol!

fromwesttoeast · 07/03/2015 17:12

I would be due very early November. I agree symptoms can be misleading, especially if you only have one or two other pregnancies to compare to. However usually by week 6 or 7 some changes in the body should be detected, doesn't have to be sickness. Could be increased appetite, boobs growing. In my last mc nothing changed at all, which is why I suspected something was wrong.
I've told DH I don't think this pregnancy will survive, and that's it really. Just let's get on with the rest of our lives. I know that sounds very negative, but it's easier to think that way.

gingerbreadmam · 07/03/2015 17:56

if its easier for you west than you have to think what is best for you.

as people say on other threads tho the odds are in our favour. i will keep everything tightly crossed that by this time next week you are feeling pregnant.

if it helps tho a woman on my antenatal board has no symptoms whatsoever but has had two scans and everything is perfectly fine.

mrsb0710 · 07/03/2015 18:33

Having a mc certainly does take the innocence out of enjoying a bfp. Shit that we cant just sit back and enjoy it. Flowers for you ladies. Thinking of you.

AF still hasn't even made a proper appearance and now I'm worried about the spotting. Just want it to come and go so we can crack on with ttc.

fromwesttoeast · 07/03/2015 19:16

Ahhh, it's all trials isn't it!
For all you under 40s the stats are def in your favour for success this time round. Stats not so kind for me at my age. Not in my hands now, so no use stressing over what I can't change. Smile

gingerbreadmam · 07/03/2015 19:55

sorry west your age slipped my mind. will keep my fingers tightly crossed for you that things go well.

done anymore tests mrsb? when u said about spotting the other day first thing that came to mind was implantation but obv u know ur body better than me.

mrsb0710 · 07/03/2015 20:40

All bfn :(
Just awaiting proper af now.

gingerbreadmam · 07/03/2015 21:02

oh Sad well as u sy hopefully af turns up soon and u can concentrate on ur next cycle. hope ur ok.

mrsb0710 · 07/03/2015 21:10

I will be. Shall sulk for a little and then look towards our next round. We'll get there eventually Smile

fromwesttoeast · 07/03/2015 21:37

Yes you will!

wonkylegs · 07/03/2015 21:55

I have no faith in symptoms as I had clear symptoms up to my ERPC.
We are trying again but I think personally I'll be an emotional wreck from test til I actually see a baby.
For us it's been so difficult to make the decision to TTC due to my health, that sapping more joy from the process has made it especially hard to decide to continue but it's also cemented just how much I want another one.

fromwesttoeast · 08/03/2015 09:52

You are right about symptoms. I had symptoms with my MMC.

fromwesttoeast · 08/03/2015 09:53

Hopefully you will get success soon Wonky.

gingerbreadmam · 08/03/2015 12:15

good luck with ttc wonky hope u will be joining us soon. it is terribly hard at first when you get that bfp as you know that is just the first step but its actually got easier for me as time has gone along.

one thing i do keep telling myself is even if the worst was to happen it is unlikely it would be exactly the same as last time so there really is no point worrying about it too much.

i must admit tho im not enjoying this early part im quite detached from it all at the min. got alsorts of booklets and leaflets at booking in apt and theyre all shoved in a drawer i avent looked at them at all. hopefully things will change after scan.

mrsb0710 · 08/03/2015 13:22

Good luck Wonky!

Have just sent dh out with the dog, as af is here well and truly. Just need some quiet time alone. Having a life is not fair moment!

Ovia is confused as to when my ov should be. Guess I start testing at CD10??

gingerbreadmam · 08/03/2015 14:22

i never used tests or anything thought id end up too involved if you get what i mean. was bad enough knowing when ovulation was due. if u can just dtd every other day regardless and hopefully youll have some luck.

gingerbreadmam · 08/03/2015 20:24

wonky just thought i am on a board called the best shit place to be grads and somehing about early pregnancy after mc, theres a lot of people on there in the very early stages. mighr be good for you from support.

theres a couple on there from other threads ive been on and im sure at least one is from here. im going to have a quick look.

gingerbreadmam · 08/03/2015 20:42

yup guybrush is on there too Smile

wonkylegs · 09/03/2015 07:27

I'll give it a look thanks

brickiemum2 · 09/03/2015 09:56

Well I'm finally getting a negative test after the mmc... but now I've got really weird symptoms Hmm my boobs are absolutely killing me and I keep feeling sick. Why??? I think my body likes me in a permanent state of confusion. I suspect it means that af is on its way...I also have a sneaky suspicion that I ov'd at the weekend as I had a burst of strong one sided pain for 10 mins and felt a bit crampy and weird all day.

Someone diagnose me over the internet please lol. Grin

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 10:11

haha brickie i would day you have hit the nail on the head altho if u only ovulated at the wkend af shouldnt be due for at least 10 days i would have thought.

if you have dtd over the wkend could be the most earliest pregnant symptoms ever Grin guess you never know.

Niffertiti · 09/03/2015 11:40

Hi ladies, after some bleeding and cramping I had a scan at 7 weeks last week which showed a small empty sac. Now waiting for a scan at +1 week which I expect will confirm it stopped developing at 5 weeks. It's really horrible waiting - everything I've read here has really resonated. But I have found it helpful reading your stories. I'm pleased to see there are some bfps already for some of you. Wishing for some more happy endings!

gingerbreadmam · 09/03/2015 11:46

so sorry nifferti what a difficult time for you.

is there no hope, wrong dates etc?

how are you feeling?

just for reassurance it does get better, theyre were days i never thought id feel normal again but with time it does improve. i hope u r ok and were here for hand holding or to answer any questions if that helps Thanks

Niffertiti · 09/03/2015 12:36

Hi gingerbread, thanks for your reply. I guess there is a slim chance but my cycles are pretty regular, and I just stopped feeling pregnant last week - it's very odd but the feeling just changed. This is the first time I've been 'pregnant' though - after 8 months trying - so I could be wrong, but with the spotting and cramping I think it doesn't look good. I also think it's somehow easier for me to deal with this way - I can prepare myself for bad news, and possibly be surprised, rather than stay hopeful and deal with the disappointment. God that sounds depressing!