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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

OP posts:
mrsb0710 · 26/02/2015 17:40

Haha. They do say you can be super fertile after mc Smile

I'm sorry scarlet, do.you not think it happened at all?

I feel.rubbish, but have been super stressed about work and money, so maybe just that. Can not wait to get away this weekend!

Imscarlet · 26/02/2015 17:42

I honestly couldn't say hand on heart whether I have ovulated or not. It's my first cycle on Femara and I'm pretty good at knowing when I'm ovulating but this has been a weird weird cycle!

gingerbreadmam · 26/02/2015 20:28

well i hope you have ovulated scarlett and it is good news! will keep everything crossed for you.

any ideas when u think u might just have to try poas mrsb?

oh gosh dont. in the beginning i had convinced myself i was boy girl twins. i felt like i could feel them settling im but a quick consultation of mumsnet said u wouldnt feel them so i was mistaken (i think lol).

fromwesttoeast · 27/02/2015 08:53

Hcg is higher faster with twins. Remember I had very high hcg with the mc even though development never went past 4 weeks stage.

gingerbreadmam · 27/02/2015 10:35

fromwest how are you? its been a long time!

i first tested on thursday am (af was due the following monday) on a 15 or 20 mlu test. am didnt get anything but pm got the feintest bfp, so feint dp claimed not to see it. tested twice the friday on asda tests which are more sensitive and much clearer. wonder if theres anything in it?

have been randomly testing on ic's too the 10mlu ones since and altho very clear the lines r never as good as on shop bought tests.

fromwesttoeast · 27/02/2015 13:38

I'm fine thanks Ginger. Smile
Don't worry about it too much, as long as you are pregnant it's all good!!

gingerbreadmam · 27/02/2015 14:14

glad to hear that!

yes i will try not to. oh gosh i dont know after an mmc i dont think will truly accept it until a see live movement on a screen. only 5 weeks to wait hopefully!

ginghambingham · 27/02/2015 14:19

I haven't experienced exactly this, but I'm sending you big hugs. The waiting is horrible. Flowers

mrsb0710 · 27/02/2015 14:28

Bought some POAS today. They're just cheapie ones, so I'll hold of until AF is late.
Ginger - everything will go smoothly I'm sure. I'm super excited for you Smile

Scarlet, can it take a while.for your body to get used to the meds?

gingerbreadmam · 27/02/2015 14:28

thanks gingham. its quite sad really like u cant really get involved with it. last time i would rub tummy, play songs to tummy etc.

now its like i kind of know its there as have some symptoms but thats as far as it goes. no really looking at prams, baby names etc.

altho saying tht i av actually bought some things this time but again that is something ive consciously done as i missed out on it last time.

gingerbreadmam · 27/02/2015 14:30

how many dpo are you mrsb? when is af due? i am so excited incase u get a bfp!

i do hope so i try and think of theorys to convince myself then something catches my eye about blighted ovum or something like that and i just think oh no.

everytime i go to the loo i feel like jumping with joy as there is no blood. seriously, roll on 12 wk scan!

Imscarlet · 27/02/2015 15:11

Ginger, I speak from experience when I say that you won't relax at all during the pregnancy and will always wait for something to go wrong. I think that is one of the cruellest aspects of miscarriage in that it takes the innocence of just enjoying pregnancy away from you. However, you will get there, and when you hold your little bundle in your arms for the first time you will realise that all of the anxiety is worth it just for that feeling!

Yup, I reckon it could take a little while for my body to get used to the drugs as I had the same experience on Clomid last time. Nothing happened with it and then bingo first cycle of Femara. I always thought that Clomid didn't work but am now beginning to think it just took those months for my body to adjust, time will tell. If nothing is happening, I will be back for a review and follicle tracking. I had that done last time the month I conceiced my DD so essentially I saw the eggs that was almost released in my ovary on a scan screen and that turned out to be her which I think is pretty amazing!

Hope you are all well!

gingerbreadmam · 27/02/2015 15:23

oh wow scarlet that does sound pretty special! i do hope the medication does its thing quickly and you can join me on this anxious journey.

i imagine there is always a worry, i hope once i get to 12 weeks and see a good scan for the first time i can distract myself thinking about baby things and moving house etc.

mrsb0710 · 02/03/2015 16:43

Hi ladies. Did a poas today and it was a bfn :( But I think its still early days as I'm not due AF for another 4 days.
Also had a relative announce a pregnancy on FB. Really hit me hard.
Starting a new job tomorrow so that's something to look forward to and I could still get my bfp.
Wanted to vent here before I did to anyone else, as I know you all understand Flowers

gingerbreadmam · 02/03/2015 16:52

i tested in am and got bfn then tested pm and got bfp lol! it is still very early tho. where did u get tests from?

i hope ur first day goes well at least it will be a nice distraction.

its awful when someone announces a pregnancy but on the plus side if u do find yourself pregnant anytime soon u will be in good company. i kp thinking be nice to have a friend on maternity leave when i will be ha!

mrsb0710 · 02/03/2015 16:56

They're the cheap ones, I think you're meant to use them after af is due. Haha. Whoops.
I'm on the clear blue trial and I think there will be some preg tests when it arrives. Ssshhh I can use one of those :)

I'm trying hard to not be disappointed if I due get af, but it will be hard.

gingerbreadmam · 02/03/2015 20:36

yeah the cheap ones i got were 20mlu even when i got bfp on the pm it was sooo feint.

if i was you Grin can tell im going to be a bad influence here, and i had a stash of cheapies, i would just poas everyday until u got bfp or af showed.

mrsb0710 · 02/03/2015 22:10

Off to bed with really bad cramps :( Hoping it might be implantation, but most likely AF. That'd be a brilliant start to the new job. Shall keep.you updated Confused

KiteKit · 03/03/2015 17:30

Hello everyone, it's Super Glue, I name changed as I thought someone might have recognised me on here.

Just checking in to see how you are all doing?

ginger seems things are going well for you, I have everything crossed for you.

Mrs good luck with the new job and well done for finding something else so quickly, that is great. Hopefully you will have a bfp to celebrate soon.

Hi to everyone else!

All ok on my end. No bfp but to be fair we have not been trying. We seem to be stuck in a limbo, unable to make a decision which way to go - try again or give up. I am terrified either which way :-(

Work is very busy which is a good distraction I suppose. I just can't believe how fast the weeks are zipping by now. x

gingerbreadmam · 03/03/2015 18:12

thanks kitekit really appreciate it. got booking in apt tomo, didnt make the last one so im quite excited (and scared as i hate bloods). nice little milestone tho.

are you just taking an if it happens it happens stance? sometimes i think that might be better as it takes a lot of pressure off.

if u dont mind me asking what is it that makes u think u might not want to try?

fromwesttoeast · 03/03/2015 19:04

Hi there, kite kit, good to hear from you.

KiteKit · 03/03/2015 19:24

Higinger and fromwest I have missed you guys!!

Oh ginger booking in appointment, that is a great sign! I really really hope it all goes well this time. x I am really on the fence at the moment as I turned 45 last month and given that something clearly went wrong the last time, I guess, being very truthful I am scared of something being wrong with the baby and how we would cope with that situation. Sounds awful doesn't it? Dh feels the same, in fact I realised last week that he has been avoiding dtd a lot and he admitted it was because he too is nervous.

And at the same time I am anxious that we are wasting this supposedly 'fertile' window, given that it took so many years the last time, that is a bit ridiculous really but the human mind is a strange thing...I ov'd last night but we have not dtd at all so NO chance this month and I guess that knowledge has me a bit rattled. I wish someone could just switch the switch off in my brain and let me be at peace with what we already have.

fromwest how is life with you? Will you try again? Sorry if that is too personal, you don't have to answer.

chubby if you still read this, I have been thinking about you a lot and hope you are ok.

Same goes for everyone else who had posted on here wonky etc xx

gingerbreadmam · 03/03/2015 19:36

i think lots of people have children at your age nowadays. i know they say there is more concerns etc but it cant all be based on age one 45 year old is completely different to another.

maybe some more discussions to be had with dp?

do you have any other dc?

hi to everyone else on the thread and anyone whos just reading i hope everyone is well.

mrsb0710 · 03/03/2015 19:42

Hi ladies.

Kitekit, maybe have a good chat to dp and go from there? It may just help.

Ginger - I am super super happy for your appointment tomorrow. Please let us know how you get on.

Just did a free poas. BFN. I know I shouldn't feel miserable yet, but feels like this isn't my cycle. DH is being positive, but I just want to cry.
First day at work was good though :)

gingerbreadmam · 03/03/2015 20:07

dont cry mrsb until af shows theres still every chance and even if af does show at some point in time you will be pregnant and at least you can have fun trying.

when i found out i didnt dare dtd for a while incase it did anything Blush

so glad your first day went well i hope this job is much better than your last! ive had a terrible day today and just debating with dp whether to confront the office bulky (bit harsh tbh) tomo. decisions decisions.

ill definitely report back after booking in.