total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

I'm doing good, Kitekit. Yes, I am trying again. I'm nearly 43, but nothing ventured, nothing gained!
I think 45 is a significant number, unfortunately. But while you are still ovulating it's not impossible. I would find it a difficult decision too.
MrsB, your AF isn't actually due yet is it? In all my pregnancies I've never had a bfp before day AF is due. Don't give up yet.

Thanks ladies, sometimes just having a place to vent is great. Dh and I do need to have some more chats, that is for sure.

We have one dd who is 9. So in hindsight we are so so lucky to have her. And we had NO clue that we would end up in this situation when trying for a sibling. We conceived her first month of trying and I had a wonderful trouble free pregnancy. So I suppose can't complain as I had such a great experience. We have had a long hard 7 years since though with many treatments that were unsuccessful and then the MMC. We have unexplained secondary infertility, there was nothing wrong with either of us, it just didn't work.

Anyway, mrsb please don't despair, though having said that I do understand the frustration of wanting it and it not happening. As ginger says, it is early days yet. xx

i think keep speaking to dp until you get to a point where youre comfortable with a decision either way. i imagine it doesnt make it any easier just because u have a dc but im glad that you do.

keep venting here it does us all good.

fromwest good luck with your ttc i hope u get some good news soon. lovely to hear from you and im glad you are well.

Thanks ladies.
We all have our own struggles and journies, but its lovely to all be able to support each other.

Bed time, and hoping AF doesn't show up tomorrow. Due tomorrow, but I ov'd late, so who knows!

any news today mrsb?

FMU test negative. No spotting, but cramps on and off. Not sure what is happening.

Had to process a whole bunch of midwife/US stuff today, that was hard

How was your appointment??

oh thats rubbish about the processing. itll be all midwives etc for you before you know it though. good thing is af hasnt arrived yet so your still in the running.

it was good actually once i had relaxed after having bloods done and had a little cry over the mmc. im glad i went, been seeking advice on here about vitamins and treatment for congestion and she gave me a healthy start voucher for vitamins (altho i had already bought some) and told me theres nothing pregnant women can take for congestion. been advised on here of a few things that are probably fine but id rather be safe.

should receive a letter about scan in 2 weeks eekkkk! fingers crossed its all smooth till then.

that's really good!!

I know, it'll be me soon with any luck. Just a bit depressing today :(

Shall let you know if af arrives anytime soon.

fingers crossed!!!!

Well I'm out for this month MrsB. No surprise there. Hope you have better luck!

Just popping in to say hi. I'm still producing hcg post mmc so not even at the ttc stage yet it's been 3 weeks since surgery and I just want to see a bfn so I can move on and try again. Hopefully next week

scarlet hopefully it'll be better on the next cycle. Will you have med review/bloods?

brickie it took 5 weeks for me to get a neg. Hang in there.

Has some brown thick cm tonight. Still don't know if that means I'm out or not. Maybe I just have long cycles and never knew. Cant remember not being on birth control.
If af shows up, hoping its on the weekend when I can just be miserable.

oh brickie you poor thing. think its good for body to have a little break tho so try not to worry and hopefully u will get ur bfn soon.

aww scarlett im sorry! soon be fertile again tho and try again, hopefully this next cycle is your cycle.

fingers still crossed mrsb

Hi just popping back to check how everybody is doing.
Yesterday was a tough day for me, after a patch of getting on with life, it all came crashing back thanks to somebody not reading my notes. Had a regular blood monitoring apt at the hospital, my first since miscarrying. The nurse before I had even said hello, laid into me about how important it was with my medication to come to regular monitoring and the gap she saw in my notes was not acceptable, my dr would stop my meds rant rant etc. I ended up having to put my hand up to stop her mid flow and explain my break was due to pregnancy and subsequent miscarriage which if she had read the whole sheet was actually written on the bottom! Unfortunately I had arranged to meet a friend afterwards with their brand new baby and after the rude reminder that I wasn't having one anymore I was a bit of an emotional state when cuddling the little one. To top off a rubbish day I had a nightmare about miscarrying again and woke up crying.
Today however will be a better day culminating with DH returning from a business trip to start Fizz Friday this evening!

lovely to hear from you wonky

your healthcare hs been a nightmare throughout this terrible time in managing your meds etc if i remember rightly. theres no wonder you got upset.

did your friend know about your mc? i hope she could provide some rl support.

how are you feeling other than that? bet you are looking forward to cracking open the fizz!

i broke down in my booking in appoinment as i had to go through it all. sounds silly but as i now have a distraction i had kind of forgotten how bad it was.

I'm sorry wonky it's hard enough without them not looking at your notes. I hope you have a better weekend.

Glad I have work to distract me now, I'm sure af is imminent. Brown spotting and cramps :(

Definitely not pregnant
Did a POAS and had a bfn. Then went to the loo again and had red spotting.
Feel absolutely shit about it. Keep thinking I should be happily pregnant by now, and enjoying it. I know we can keep trying but it still hurts.

it will get better with time mrsb doubt youll ever forget but it will get better.

if af is here just get focused on dates and when youre next fertile and that will keep your mind occupied in the meantime.

be nice to have a christmas baby wouldnt it?

Thanks ginger. I have a big box of stuff from the clear blue trial that I need to start using, so hopefully that'll help. A Christmas baby would be nice :)

well already two good things if it hasnt gone ur way this month! hope ur ok

Will be. Absolutely shattered from this week. Going to get a good sleep.
Check in later

Good morning. Sorry to read the disappointment others are having, and your difficulties too Wonky.
Well, I do actually have some news. I got a BFP about ten days ago. I'm now 5+4. I didn't dare write it here before.
I'm trying not to feel anything about it. Mainly I find myself wondering when the mc will start this time, how I should manage it and whether I should try again after.
I tested three times. Once before AF was due- negative, then on day of AF - faint positive, and then a week later - darker positive. So, I've probably passed the stage of it being a straightforward chemical.
The thing is that I know from my previous mc that I hang on to pregnancy long past the stage when there is nothing left to hang on for.
I don't have any symptoms yet, apart from the dull ache that I always get early on and some very mild breast tenderness. But it's early for me. I don't usually start to notice much changing until 6/7 weeks.
I am lurking about on some pregnancy threads, but can't bring myself to join. I think i will be the oldest there, and therefore most statistically likely to mc. I remembered this thread is on the mc board, and this still seems like my place at the moment.

fromwest . Congratulations. I hope you also have someone in rl to talk to. But of course, we are all here to hold your hand.
I'm the same- was on other boards, but feel safe and supported here.
Will you get an epu referral to help ease the worries?

I'm happy for you ladies that have your BFPs. We need some good things to start happening!

congratulations fromwest wow what lovely news im so pleased for you.

by my calculations i am 8 weeks today so i know all those feelings you are having. i found out 4 days before af was due so have known just over 4 weeks too.

how r u feeling?