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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

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mrsb0710 · 02/01/2015 16:11

Super - I was never meant to happen. My next sibling up was 12, my mum was told she'd been through menopause, and was being treated for migraines. Oh...and a stomach ulcer that turned out to be me..haha. And she was 41.
Fast forward 29 years and I turned out ok :)
Sometimes, if its meant to be, things could just click and happen.

gingerbreadmam · 02/01/2015 17:00

thanks ladies. good call with the pregancy vitamins super.

mrsb its still early days it does get a bit better and you will get the feeling back im sure. take care of yourself in the meantime that op knocks ya for six.

Imscarlet · 04/01/2015 20:10

Just checking in to wish any of you joining me in going back to work tomorrow well! Upwards and onwards.

gingerbreadmam · 04/01/2015 20:32

hey scarlet, im back tomo too. dreading it. bar a week and half a day ive been off work since 7 november due to all complications with mmc. going to be weird going back, also 2 lovely colleagues r pregnant and there would have been a week between us. i know theyll have little bumps now and that will probably set me off (although i am obvvery pleased for them just enviousand its a bit of a reminder).

hope my first af hurries up so i can try and join them again!

have you had a break from work? how are you feeling about returning?

Imscarlet · 04/01/2015 20:58

Yeah, I went back after the ERPC, then finished up on the Friday before Xmas week and have been off since. I'm kind of happy to be getting back into a normal routine but sad that I won't be going back with my 'news' as I had planned. No-one is pregnant in my workplace so at least there's that. I say that and there will undoubtedly be an 'announcement' tomorrow.

gingerbreadmam · 04/01/2015 21:56

im glad youre looking forward to it hopefully be good and somethig to keep you busyand mind focussed. hopefully be no announcements.

are you trying again? i forget who is and isnt without reading through the thread.

Imscarlet · 04/01/2015 21:58

I'm waiting till Feb for an app at the fertility clinic. I've just ovulated so will get peak +7 bloods taken on Friday. I'll see what they are like.

gingerbreadmam · 04/01/2015 22:17

oh yes i recall yousaying before. thats good then and february isnt too long. im sorry i dont know much about fertility tests but i hope u get a good outcome.

chubbymummy · 04/01/2015 22:47

I'm back tomorrow too. It's been 8 weeks since I was last in work because I was on bed rest before the miscarriage. I'm really anxious about going back. Sad

chubbymummy · 04/01/2015 22:50

Scarlet, DH and I went through all the fertility tests a few years back so if you have any questions I may be able to answer them.

tonii987123 · 04/01/2015 23:37

Hi all,
Been reading everyone's post and I'm so sorry for everyone who had bad news.
I found out I was pregnant 3 and half weeks ago, came at a total shock as I was meant to be on the pill! (Plus just started a new job couple weeks before)
Yesterday while in work I started bleeding heavily my boss sent me home and my amazing boyf took me straight to a+e. When I was assessed the nurse said after asking my symptoms(light constant bleeding few clots and cramps) that yeah I was probably having a miscarraged. After waiting again the doctor saw me took a wee sample my heart rate and blood pressure. All I was told was that I have no infections and is going throught a threatened abortion. I have a scan tomorrow afternoon and I am terrified the bleeding today has not stopped and the cramps have got worse. I just feel so useless right now

chubbymummy · 05/01/2015 00:07

I'm sorry you're going through that Tonii. Good luck with your scan tomorrow.

tonii987123 · 05/01/2015 08:10

Thank you. Woke up this morning pain has gone but still bleeding a tiny bit more than yesterday but only when I wipe. Just praying for good news

fromwesttoeast · 05/01/2015 10:46

Hope your scan is reassuring Tonii

gingerbreadmam · 05/01/2015 11:19

hope your scan goes well today toni, let us all know. thinking of you. try and take it easy.

tonii987123 · 05/01/2015 13:19

Hi thanks for your messages. It has been confirmed I have lost it. I was 8 weeks +5days and they found no heart beat

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SuperGlue · 05/01/2015 14:06

Oh tonii that is very hard news for you. It is such a shock when it happens. Look after yourself x

I am back at work today and was dreading it, but it was ok. I am about to get very very busy in there though so that bit is still looming over me.

Leaving now but will be on later again x

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tonii987123 · 05/01/2015 17:14

Is it normal when I think about it I almost feel nothing like I'm out of body numb. This is my first pregnancy and I'm 23

chubbymummy · 05/01/2015 17:35

Oh Tonii, I'm sorry to hear that. Yes, it's normal to feel numb, be prepared for it to hit you like a tonne of bricks at the most random of times. On a practical note have they discussed your options with you? I've experienced them all (lucky old me!) so if you have any questions ask away. PM me if you'd prefer.

fromwesttoeast · 05/01/2015 17:39

However you react to it is normal for you Toni. Not everyone reacts the same way. Some women find the tears coming, others don't. Right now this is a shock for you. In a few days time your emotions may change. You may feel sadness, anger, loss or emptiness. Or it may continue to feel unreal and you may not cry at all. It may just feel like the whole thing never happened. You may move on quickly or take time to heal.
Whatever happens give yourself the space and time to come to terms with it in your own way and don't let other people tell you how you should be feeling.
Miscarriage happens, usually no one knows exactly why.
Did they discuss with you what will happen next in terms of treatment ?

gingerbreadmam · 05/01/2015 17:48

have they booked you for a rescan toni? just wondering as most of us on here had to have one. could it be that your days are out?

probably not, weve all hoped that at some point on this thread but it is a possibility.

i am so sorry. its normal to feel however you feel i think and your feelings will probably swing from onw thing to another but keep posting here as the support is amazing. it was my first pregnancy too.

TomCat81 · 05/01/2015 19:11

Hi all
I've been reading through your stories this afternoon and it's been really helpful for me, although heartbreaking at the same time. I came across mumsnet the other day after my first scan and I can see what a comfort it is to know that others are going through the same thing. I'm so sorry to all of you who have such a rubbish festive season, it all seems so unfair.
I'm currently playing the waiting game; my 12 week scan showed an empty sac with measurements they would expect to see at six weeks, and I'm fairly certain of my dates. I have started to accept that this just isn't meant to be, but have to wait until Friday for the next scan to confirm. I've had a brownish discharge today, very little, and mild cramps but no different to anything I've had so far in my pregnancy. My feeling is that I'm starting to miscarry naturally, but I don't know how long this is likely to take to get going. I'm sure every woman/mc is different, but can anyone shed any light on this? Is it imminent or could it take a few more days? Should I go back to work? I didn't go today (I'd been so looking forward to going back with an announcement so couldn't face it) but I think keeping busy could be better for me than moping at home and waiting for the inevitable. Work is an hour's journey by car and on foot; if it was just ten mins down the road I wouldn't be so worried, but what if it happens at work?.
Thanks for any advice / comments.

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SuperGlue · 05/01/2015 19:26

Hi TomCat, glad you found us here. It is really hard to say what might happen with regard to the MC happening naturally as even on this thread alone we have all had such different situations. I did not go to work in the waiting time as emotionally I was a bit of a wreck, so I guess it depends on how you feel in yourself. I was also scared of it happening in work too. But some others on here did go from my memory.

It is such a hard thing to go through - wishing you well and please do keep posting.

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fromwesttoeast · 05/01/2015 20:03

So sorry TomCat. Of the three mc I've had the worst by far was the MMC discovered at the 12 week scan, just because I had no idea anything was wrong. It's such a massive shock.
In terms of a natural mc, it's as Super said, there is no way of knowing. It could be sudden and soon or you may be waiting several weeks if you decide to let it progress naturally.
I think it would be a good idea to take a few days off initially and take it from there.

gingerbreadmam · 05/01/2015 20:52

hi tomcat, so sorry you have had to join us on this thread. please stay with us for support.

i will tell you my story and it is a lot differrent to everone elses but it will help you to be prepared. i had my first scan at 9 wks due to very light brown bleeding, i had to wait 2 weeks for a rescan altho was advised i would likely mc in that time. i didnt. rescan confirmed mmc 2 weeka later.

hospital mentioned options but advised best to wait and let it happen naturally. they sent me away for another two weeks. i didnt mc altho i did continually have light brown bleeding. i contacted hospital once the two wks passed and they advised medical management. i was prescribed this to do at home. due to not knowing whats what i wasnt sure it had worked. i contacted the hospital and they thought it had. i woke in the night with contraction type pains the next night but was ok. i experienced these again on the tuesday then experienced what i thought was the mc. (wont go into too many details unless u want me to). felt relieved however it all started again on the thursday whilst at work. at this point i knew something wasnt right rang hospital and i was admitted with retained products. tissue was stuck (again wil l skip the gore unless u want to know). was discharged midnight that night thiking it was all over. unfortunately it started again on the saturday. i was admitted to hospital again and this time kept in and have to have emergency erpc. fortunately, after that it really was all over.

in all honesty i think i had a nightmare, they can be very straight forward altho i know that doesnt make it any better but what i would say is i would stay off work especially with your travel times. i took 3 weeks from the first scan then returned for a week whilst waiting to mc. it was a big mistake. i then took 3 more days following the medical management and what i thought was the mc. the day i returned to work was the thursday i ended up in hospital and it was awful.

like i say i have spared u the gore but can share if it helps thats upto u. thinking of u.