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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

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gingerbreadmam · 15/12/2014 12:43

just to let you know im home now and resting up. feel miles better for being home and showered and relaxing.

wonky i know u are due in wednesday, hope it all goes well. like everyone else says it kind of is all over before u know it. probs scariest part for me was seeing how many people were involved with the ga, i worry about stupid stuff ha! felt a bit sick and shattered afterwards for about 30 - 45 mins after then was fine.

if u have any preference for a nice drink or something to eat afterwards i would take it with u. i got a ham sarnie off the ward but because my mouth was so dry i couldnt eat it it, wish id had some juice or lucozade or something too.

Imscarlet · 15/12/2014 14:38

I'm so glad they got to you last night. I was thinking about you today at work.

gingerbreadmam · 15/12/2014 15:49

me too scarlet thank you so much. hope none of us have to go through this ever again Thanks

wonkylegs · 15/12/2014 16:03

Glad to hear your home. There is nothing like being in your own place.
Thanks for the tips they are duly noted, anything that makes it slightly easier will be good.

gingerbreadmam · 15/12/2014 18:45

no problem. sounds silly probs and didnt help i was stuck in over night but just a thought.

thank you wonky hope it goes smoothly for u wednesday will keep checking for updates. hope u r ok Thanks

SashaKerr · 16/12/2014 10:45

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Imscarlet · 16/12/2014 15:44

I agree with every word on your blog Sasha.
Wonky I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.
Ginger, hope you are feeling a bit better today. Is your dinner tonight? Hope you can enjoy it. Plenty of vino!!
Hope you are all doing well today.

gingerbreadmam · 16/12/2014 16:24

sasha, what a lovely thing to do to help other people. i only got half way through before i filled up but i think it would help people in their time of need.

i am ok feel a bit light on my feet today must be a side affect of the ga i think?

wonky, thinking of you tonite hope all goes well tomorrow Thanks

wonkylegs · 16/12/2014 18:32

Sasha - lovely blog, people do need to talk about miscarriage, to help you understand what you are going through when effected by it. My NHS experience sounds like it was actually a lot better than yours and I have felt very much like I've been treated with privacy & dignity but I know that isn't always the case. It was a rather lovely midwife in the EPU that said to me grieve for your baby if you need to & don't let anybody tell you it wasn't a baby.

I've got fingers crossed and a nervous tummy for tomorrow but I'll be glad when it's over. Unfortunately I'm still getting strong pregnancy symptoms so I hope my body will finally understand this isn't happening & quit after this procedure - today's morning sickness has driven me to the edge.

gingerbreadmam · 16/12/2014 19:52

ahh wonky i cnt believe your still getting symptoms thats just so awful. hopefully once tomorrow is over with it will all settle down.

for reassurance every person i have dealt with bar the initial sonographer at our nhs hospital have been lovely and compassionate and supportive hopefully u will come across the same tomorrow. good luck let us know how u get on Thanks

chubbymummy · 17/12/2014 10:24

Thinking of you today Wonky.

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 10:59

Me too! Flowers

fromwesttoeast · 17/12/2014 11:58

Hope it goes ok for you today Wonky.
Hospital just called me. The consultant has reviewed my case and agreed it's a miscarriage. I am to call them on Monday if nothing has happened and probably go in on Tuesday to maybe get scanned and then book in for treatment.
I seriously doubt anything will happen before Monday as I only have a little spotting here and there.
I will hopefully be offered 2nd jan to start medical management.

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 12:12

West, I am delighted for you that they have made this decision. It's great that it is finally moving forward. Bloody hoops and red tape. They may be able to move more quickly than that, but you might prefer to get through Christmas first. We are all nearly over the line now. Hope 2015 is a better year for us all.

fromwesttoeast · 17/12/2014 12:39

Thanks scarlet. I think it won't be earlier because I don't want to choose surgery and they only do medical management on a Friday (go in for the pills) and Sunday (on the ward for the pessary). So Friday next week being Boxing Day means it will have to be the week after at the earliest.
They also said they will have to monitor the cyst they noticed at last scan. With rescan in 3 months. Does that mean I can't ttc until that's been done?? Feeling gutted about that.

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 13:17

I don't know with regard to the cyst. I know that pregnancy hormones can play havoc with cysts so it may just disappear itself. A quick google seems to suggest that it shouldn't affect ttc but they would be better able to advise you.

chubbymummy · 17/12/2014 13:27

Glad you're finally getting somewhere West, such a shame it means waiting so long though. Pity they wouldn't do it this Friday really.
They've never been particularly bothered about any of my cysts (I get them every time I'm pregnant). They told me that they'll shrink and dissappear when the pregnancy hormones has faded.

fromwesttoeast · 17/12/2014 13:47

Thanks both of you. Yes, it's probably a pregnancy cyst that I have Chubby, as it was not there on my first scan but had appeared by the one two weeks later.
I will turn 43 in may, so I do feel a sense of now or never. I'm not ready to accept the "never" just yet.

gingerbreadmam · 17/12/2014 14:10

aww west im so glad they have come to their senses shame u have to wait so long tho. least u will get tje managament u want tho which is a good thing.

i hope u r ok.

wonky hope things r ok for u.

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 14:22

How are you feeling Gingerbread? Did you have your birthday dinner? (Happy birthday to you??)
The advice I was always given West was to give it one cycle to let your body get back to normal. That said, I know plenty of people who went on to conceive before getting their period after a m/c. It can be a bit worrying though as they can't accurately date the pregnancy and you know yourself how worrying early scans can be. I don't think it would be too bad if you could pinpoint when you are ovulating as you could assume the pregnancy dated from two weeks beforehand.

gingerbreadmam · 17/12/2014 16:27

hey scarlet sorry i forgot to say bday is tomorrow so something to look forward to.

im feeling fine just a bit light headed imagine its things wearing off. if i ever end up on this situation again i think i would push for erpc as it has been one long nightmare for me, feel like i mc 4 times in the space of a week. dont think could handle it again.

i like hearing about all the ttc stuff cheers me up. is everyone waiting a cycle? i think ill wait as u say it is probably less worrying knowing where you are etc. be nice to think this time next year we could have babies in our arms whilst mnetting about sleepless nights etc ha!

fromwesttoeast · 17/12/2014 17:34

I think you would be right to push for eprc Ginger, although let's hope you never face that again. I don't know why your hospital doesn't give you the pessary in medical management, that's what got it all moving for me last year. I am still choosing that route as it worked well for me before and I like the privacy aspect of it. They told me to insert the pessary myself, I could remain in normal clothes throughout etc. It's just my preference.
Not to say I might not change my mind though!!
Yes, I agree about the waiting one cycle. However, if I feel myself to be fertile before that first af arrives I will be very tempted not to wait. The last three times I've fallen pregnant I have just known that I was fertile on certain days, and sure enough I got pregnant each time. Ok, the last two ended in miscarriage, but still. I think I could have a good guess at dating a pregnancy based on that. However, knowing me, it might take a while for me to get fertility back after this.
You need a good rest Ginger, you lost a lot of blood. Hope Wonky is resting up at home by now.

gingerbreadmam · 17/12/2014 18:05

i hope u r super fertile straight away and if u cant wait dont. lifes too short. sounds like u know ur body pretty well anyway.

i dont know why maybe they do if you opt to stay in but i felt like they told me to do it at home. not sure how much it would have changed things for me anyway.

i hope wonky is ok too.

wonkylegs · 17/12/2014 18:10

I've just got back home & had a cup of tea. It went ok. I was ridiculously together & calm beforehand but when I came to from the GA, the floodgates opened and I couldn't stop crying. The staff were wonderful and although visitors aren't allowed on the recovery ward they tracked down DH and got him in to give me a hug.
Everybody has been lovely today, I feel quite wobbly but otherwise ok.
Thank you all for being so lovely too, it has really helped through this crappy time.

Imscarlet · 17/12/2014 18:29

Wonky, I'm happy it's all over for you. I think it's good to have a cry, there is so much pent up emotion involved, it's good to get it out.
I have an appointe at the fertility clinic on Feb 5th and I got a follow up appointment for Feb 11th when I hope they will have the results of the genetic testing back. I'm hoping I will have completed at least one cycle at that stage and I may have to wait a while after that to ttc depending on my hormone levels as I will have a peak + 7 blood test to bring with me to the appointment hopefully. I'm 36 so i can afford to wait a few cycles.