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total headwreck, empty sac 11 days ago, embryo 6wk there today...

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SuperGlue · 17/11/2014 14:29

It was very hard to put this into a title but basically I had a dating scan 11 days ago when i reckoned i ought to have been 9 weeks pg. In the scan there was an empty embryonic sac measuring 7 wks but no yolk or fetal pole. The sonographer said it was most likely a miscarriage but that I would need to come back in 10 days to see if there was any growth during that time as a protocol.

I have spent the past 11 days in total turmoil and limbo. Waiting any moment to miscarry etc.

Went back today for the second scan expecting to be taken in this week for a d&c only to find that the sac had grown in the 10 days and there was now a yolk, fetal pole and an embryo measuring just 6 weeks. No heartbeat but she said heartbeat would kick in, if it was going to, over the next 7 days. SO basically she could not confirm that it was a miscarriage at this stage but that we would need to go back this day next week to see if there is a heartbeat. If not it will be confirmed then.

She was fairly certain that there was a problem with the development of this pregnancy and that the most likely scenario would be that it would develop this far and trail off and we would not find a heartbeat on Monday.

I just can't get my head around it all. Even if my dates were out a bit, I didn't think it was possible to be out that much.

Has anyone else ever gone through this?

I feel like my head is about to explode trying to take it all in / work it all out and another 7 days waiting stretches out in front of me..........

OP posts:
gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 20:14

im going to stay seems like the safest thing and soon be morning wont it? would have to be up before 6 to get back here for op anyway.

haemaglobin dropped from 101 thursday to 88 today and pulse is high so they said theyd rather i stayed, fortunately for me (not him bless him) they have said dp can stay too. hope he likes hospital chairs haha!

yeah i know a lot of women opt for it so it cant be bad and least ill be none the wiser. relieved to know tomorrow that is definitely it and no more panicking.

Imscarlet · 13/12/2014 20:21

I'm delighted you have some company. If there is anything specific you want to know, pm me, but really it's very straightforward. I hope you get some rest tonight. It's hard to sleep in hospital. I'll be thinking of you all day tomorrow.

gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 20:36

thank you scarlet. think ive already read a lot up on here tbh so know what im in for. very kind of you to offer tho and im so glad of your support today.

yes its fab he can stay. if the wards quiet im going to see if we can av a room we can both sleep lol bit cheeky but if u dont ask u dont get. best get some tea too ha.

Imscarlet · 13/12/2014 20:41

Yeah, try to eat something tonight because you might be waiting tomorrow and get some rubbishy magazines to keep you occupied. I'd be lost without my phone this past week. Nothing happens quickly in hospitals.

Imscarlet · 13/12/2014 20:49

Oh and you are very welcome. This thread has been an absolute lifeline for me and I'm glad I've been able to help in any small way.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 13/12/2014 20:57

Don't know what to say ginger. So sorry this is so horrible and prolonged. Sending you massive hugs. Erpc is so easy compared with what you've already been through. It'll happen and then it will be over and you'll feel fine.

Miscarriages can fuck right off.

gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 21:13

thanks guy. i know that is what i am focusing on. when it happened again today i just thought even if they say its ok im going to panic it is still going to happen again and not dare go to work and so on. at least this way there is an end in sight.

im only due at work three days next week so will probs just self cert for them.

thanks scarlett. we have jus nipped out now as everywhere in hospital closed, so eery when no visitors or anything milling about. didnt think of magazines av read loads this week when i was in other day, might download some on phone tho. i agree without the lovely people on this thread i duno how i would ever have got through this.

fromwesttoeast · 13/12/2014 22:01

I'm so glad they are sorting you out tomorrow. I'm hoping you decided to stay in hospital. You've had a terrible time. The worst of all I've read I think, because of the horrific internals. I'm just so so sorry it happened like this.

fromwesttoeast · 13/12/2014 22:06

Oops, posted without reading to end. Glad you staying in hospital. Best wishes for tomorrow.

gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 22:33

thanks west. tbh and i know there is nothing going on with you at the min but just the fact that you cant choose a way to proceed because of silly white tape is just shocking and no1 should ever have to be in that position.

at least i have always had a timeline as such to work towards ur just stuck in the air for well i guess no1 knows how long. so crap. i hope the end is in sight for you soon.

im ok and yes im here. theyve been really kind and my dp has a lovely recliner armchair right next to me with blankets and a pillow. were laid watching the x factor final as i type (saddos).

all being well in 12 hours time this nitemare will be well and truly over. thank you.

Imscarlet · 13/12/2014 22:35

We're watching it here too with a tin of roses now demolished Hope both of you get some rest. Xx

gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 22:42

were on plus 1 as had to squeeze a dominos in first ha. will do. thanks again Thanks

wonkylegs · 13/12/2014 22:59

Oh Gingerbreadmam you poor thing.
I know is academic now but I was told that if you ask for an ERPC then they will let you have one but they don't tell you about it in the first instance.
Funny old world we may have been in together tomorrow if my DH had of been able to swap his commitments around to be with me but as he couldn't until weds that's when I'm booked in.
I hope that your pizza is ok & you get a restful night & a full resolution tomorrow. Thinking of you.

gingerbreadmam · 13/12/2014 23:10

that would have been a funny coincidence wonky!

i know at least its nearly over now. that feels good.

i hope things go very well for you on wednesday will be thinking of you. hope you come across the lovely midwifes and drs i have encountered!

Imscarlet · 14/12/2014 10:25

Thinking of you this morning ginger. BrewCake

gingerbreadmam · 14/12/2014 10:36

thanks scarlet. just sat hooked up to a drip waiting my turn. the relief has settled in now because everything else i need done will be done when im asleep so wont feel / know about it.

sounds silly but for me i feel like the worst is over after all the internals, bloods, obs and cannula. u can tell ive never done hospital before ha! 4 people in before me so they think im after lunch.

Imscarlet · 14/12/2014 10:59

It is, you are on the home straight now. I absolutely think you should take next week off and try to do something nice for yourself. How are you feeling about your birthday celebrations?

gingerbreadmam · 14/12/2014 11:26

the midwife pretty much told me i cant go to work next week because of the blood loss. as she explained it if someone had had an accident and the same happened they wouldnt be expected to go to work and i know shes right really.

nothing much with originally thinking id be pregnant then all this going on we are just having a family meal but im looking forward to it not often full family gets together so will be fun.

i know, trying to see past the op and focus on the waking up and it being done lol. i know its very routine just when they go through consent forms they dont half scare u ha.

wonkylegs · 14/12/2014 11:36

I know what you mean about the consent forms.... I'm used to scary medical literature that comes with my arthritis drugs but it still makes you pause. I think I made some joke about being more likely to be run over by a bus when he got to the death bit and the dr looked at me seriously and said 'yes you are'
I know it's generally a safe procedure although apparently being married to a dr makes them nervous as they say Sod's law is that they are the ones they have problems with. Umm thanks for that titbit DH.
Hope it all goes fine and you'll be out & home nice & quickly. Thinking of you.

gingerbreadmam · 14/12/2014 12:37

oh really? well at least you know they will take good care of you.

all gowned up now too so hoping its not too long although they did say they are busy.

soon be over.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP · 14/12/2014 15:47

ginger, I'm thinking of you and hoping you are waking up soon with the knowledge that it's finally over and you can start to heal and move on. Thanks

gingerbreadmam · 14/12/2014 16:01

still waiting, theyve been busy

saying will probs have to stay tonite too now its getting on to see how recover and check bloods again Sad want to go home sooo bad.

confused too about the blood thought they just remove tissue and womb lining so not my blood as such but i must b wrong.

Imscarlet · 14/12/2014 16:05

Oh no. I thought no news was good news. I'd say they are monitoring your bloods in case of infection. I'd say they will be taking bloods from your arm rather than as part of the ERPC.

gingerbreadmam · 14/12/2014 16:35

its because im already anaemic. dont know if midwife is just preparing us for the worst but keeps mentioning blood transfusion.

out of interest and if anyone is still reading, how long does recovery generally take when you come round from erpc? i am still hopeful i will be out of here tonite even if it is midnight lol.

Imscarlet · 14/12/2014 16:41

Your hospital may have a different protocol but for me it was 3 hours, having had tea and toast and having been to the toilet. They offered to keep me for the night but were happy to have me go at that stage. They have your best interests at heart and knowing that you want to go home, I don't think they will keep you in unnecessarily.