Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 13 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has experienced recurrent miscarriages and is in need of information, companionship, tea and sympathy. Newbies welcome to join at any stage.

Start with the traditional recap please......

Now caught up so here goes;

Purple- big smiles for you, great to hear positive news

Cloud- fingers crossed for you. I'm deciding whether to apply for new internal role and having the same debate whether to or not

Charlie- don't worry as others have said you've paid your dues

newbies- sorry to hear your losses and welcome to the most lovely group of ladies out who will hold your hand every step of the way x

So not much going on with me whilst I wait for the consultant appointment in the new year. Think there is a few ladies such as Flen at this stage and I have to say I'm beginning to get itching to ttc again. Know in my head it's the right thing to do to wait and meantime loose the extra weight again from the cakes etc BUT my head things otherwise.
So my new mantra is I must stay strong and stay away from OH! ??

Waiting to ttc is tough girlie. Try to do some nice things for yourself, and fingers crossed the time will fly by.

I hear you girlie! My last mc was June and we can't ttc again until January! It's insane, and that clock is ticking all the time. Waiting for the tests has meant I'll be too old for egg sharing (the affordable ivf option) in the event that the nhs funded round doesn't work .
We'll find out whether the iui has worked around the time that I would have been due - that's insane, my friend who got diffed the same time as me will have given birth before I've even had my first post mc ttc attempt!! Nothing I can do but try to learn some patience and enjoy a cycling holiday and a few glasses of wine over Christmas before the treatment starts again!

Don't worry got lots of distractions planned over the next month to keep me busy, but it's at those rare quiet moments when you think everything is under control that the blooming mind creeps in. ?? never mind onwards and upwards x

I totally understand the frustration of waiting to ttc again girlie and barking. I feel exactly the same, Although I will admit that this is the first week I've actually felt like a normal person since the last MC (7 weeks ago), so maybe it was the right thing for me to wait a bit. Doesn't make it any easier though!

Im the same girls. It's only been a few days and the thought of waiting is killing me! It's not even like I think I'd get pregnant if we tried as its taken on average a year to get pregnant each time so feel like i need to get some pointless months out the way! But I know it's the right thing to do. Had my appt through today -19th feb, hopefully with Xmas in the middle it'll go quickly. I just wish I could hide under a duvet for a year and then come out to find a baby!!

Fingers crossed on the job cloud!

Glad you've got your appointment through flower. At least it will feel like a little step forward. Still, that's a really long time to wait. Is there a secretary's or appointments person's phone number on the letter? Definitely worth a little call to get yourself on any cancellations list if they have one. Like you say, Christmas should be a great distraction and is probably exactly what we all need at the mo. Hope the time passes quickly for you and that you are doing ok

Hugs to you Barking, this journey is so hard and but I'm glad you have a diagnosis and plan now. Next year will be yours I am sure of it XxxX

I agree with march, flower just push in case any cancellations come up. There is so much waiting, so much limbo in this rollercoaster ride, I just hope the time speeds by those of you waiting for tests x

barking, god how frustrating that waiting actually incurs a financial cost for you on top of everything else, and to you, and to flower and anyone else who takes a long time to get bfp, or needs assisted conception, its just doubly cruel, and sounds incredibly tough xx

BTW thanks Tanny for your experiences on pred - definitely sounds like your symptoms were dampened down on it. Still no real symptoms here, so no clue what/if anything is progressing.

Essentials class sounds a good idea. I don't remember that being an option with dd and the main course was well over 200 quid if I recall.

I have a friend who lives in Argentina who I would like to visit at some point. One side effect of recurrent miscarriage has been an inability to plan anything properly so I guess I will be doing that flight with a baby. Might as well take my own advice and book it for the early months!

Doh, sorry everyone, that was a post for a different thread! Hope your weekends are good.

bootles pred can def dampen down symptoms. I didn't get MS at all on it, but I was shattered and had difficulty sleeping. On so many meds it's hard to even attribute side effects to them or to the pregnancy. PUPO ( pregnant unless proved otherwise)

Hey ladies, Hope you're all doing ok.

Sorry to post a moan as I know some of you are waiting for the often allusive BFP but I feel so sickly and rough today. I don't mind if all this pays off with a baby but I'm scared I could mc. So hard how we have to battle fertility issues, the regular pregnancy stuff and then the fear of mc. I don't know how those of you with a DC do it.

XX

Cat I found it quite hard to enjoy this pregnancy till at least 10 weeks. Just felt so crabby and moody all the time, but also guilty for feeling that way. Try and take it easy. No medals for overdoing things. Know what you mean, but you're past the highest risk stage. Things are looking good! X

Cat, we're nausea/crappiness buddies today, and I am also constantly doubtful that it's going to work out and feel like I'm not quite ready to 'count my chickens' as it were. Hand holding. When's your next scan? x

No need to apologise for having a little moan on here cat. I know from my 1st and 2nd pregnancies how horrible the sickness can be, so really feel for you. and I think everyone can identify with that horrible terror that something will go wrong, but it is all looking good this time for you. Hopefully after your next scan you can start to worry a bit less and enjoy it more. It will be worth it in the end

Thanks longest, just and march helps just to offload.

longest I'm almost 9 weeks so I suppose this was always likely to be the worst time. Glad you're managing to enjoy your pregnancy now. Are you abt 13 weeks now?

just, sorry you're not feeling great either :( I think we're probably at the hardest points but by the new year we can hopefully relax. Are you 10 week? When is your next scan? Mine is on Wednesday at 8am. Dreading it already!!!

March, hugs to you and thanks for being kind Any woman who can do this with a DC running around them is my hero so you're in that group, I had no idea how hard it could be before this pregnancy! The other two pregnancies I had were very tame on reflection. Hopefully the change in feelings this time is a good sign even if it is hard.

XXX

Yes, just about. 10 weeks on Monday. Everything smells horrible. I have gone out due to the cat having done a poo so smelly in the litter box I couldn't stay in the house with it and obvs I can't clean it up, will have to wait for DH to deal with it. #pregnancyfail

My next scan is 9th Dec and it feels like ages away!
Shall I start a new thread? I don't mind? If no one wants to beat me to it I'll do it when I'm back on my laptop later.

I'm so pleased I'm not still in those early stages, Cat, Just and longest. It's ok to be happy, scared and fed up all in one go!

I hope it doesn't upset anyone, but I thought you might like to see my tie dying. About the biggest step I've made towards accepting that this might happen...

Lovey, Tanny :)

Lovely, even!