Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 13 - tests, treatment, trying again

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Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has experienced recurrent miscarriages and is in need of information, companionship, tea and sympathy. Newbies welcome to join at any stage.

Start with the traditional recap please......

Belle I had GD in my last pregnancy and a low GI diet is recommended. No fruit juice, reduce carb quantities, have porridge with cinnamon for breakfast...
I needed metformin and then insulin overnight in the last week but it wasn't too bad.

Belle my friend had the same thing in her pregnancy but when they retested two week later it was back to normal. Hopefully you'll be the same.

Cheers ladies. Boy beside me eating a snickers.I WANT IT.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend. We've taken my dh to a friend from nursery party today which was lovely except 5 of her friends mum's have new babies within the last four weeks.not great when the due date for the first mc is around now (I've blocked the exact date from memory) upto now I thought I was coping well, but days like tody come along to remind you otherwise.... Wine o'clock me thinks tonight! ????

I've been having a clear out today and have these going free to a good home:

About 20 ic hpts
About 5 ic opks
5 packs of 400mg cyclogest
3 packs of 5mg prednisolone
"Avoiding Miscarriage" by Susan Rousselot

Would really only feel comfortable passing meds onto someone who's been prescribed it already, and don't feel comfortable passing on my leftover heparin, so I will be going to a pharmacy next week.

PM me if any of it interests you...

Hey Tanny randomly how long did you take the prednisolone for? Xx

girlie that is really tough. Wine or whatever you need!

Here's a question, what have people done to mark due dates or the loss? I've been having craniosacral therapy (for migraines) and she asked me today if I felt as though I had let go of all of my not-had babies, and what I had done. To be honest, I don't feel I have, so am mulling it over...

I took it until 12 weeks, and phased it out for the couple of weeks before that, so from 20mg down to 15,10 and finally 5mg. I can't remember if you're taking it, but if you are, what have you been advised?

Flen, I got a picture made of a kite and a poem for #1, but Tbh I think my blog has helped me the most. Hope your therapy helps in a variety of ways. I also found cognitive hypnotherapy helped me.

Girlie, that sounds really tough. Be kind to yourself tonight. Enjoy your wine.

So I have discovered today that vitamin k doesn't play well with heparin. Pharmacist reckons the warning is just their to cover their backsides, but said swap to folic acid only and eat healthily. It never even occurred to me that the multi vits might be an issue. In other news, I feel so sick I could cry... but I'm not complaining (much )

Yup, I've been told the same. I started it at seven weeks though which the consultant said might be too late for it to be effective. I'm also on heparin and progesterone. I'm only on 200mg of progesterone twice a day. I was just pondering how long I'd be on everything for - other than the steroids no one has said.

Flen, I have done a variety of things. In the beginning I would go to the coast and spend the day with my thoughts and some seagulls. More recently, I have chosen not to remember when I was due, as it feels like to much dead baby weight to carry around.

I wear some simple rings that I made, five together to represent each one of them. They are all a bit different from each other, so I know which one is for which pregnancy.

As time goes on, the pain takes on a different flavour to me, and this pregnancy does help the healing, I'll be honest.

My last MC was in Feb and I really fell to pieces after that, with all sorts of physical symptoms of stress, including losing tons of hair and having an arthritis flare up of epic proportions. Since then, I've known I could only cope with one more pregnancy, whatever the outcome...

Sorry, I think I've gone off tangent a bit there, but hope it helps.

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Boozle everything stopped by the time I was 12 weeks, although I kind of phased them out a bit so I didn't stop everything all at once. It was injecting myself in a tent in the freezing cold at 11 and a bit weeks and decided it was too seedy and I'd had enough so stopped then!

Just good!

Hi all, happy weekend, hope it's ok for everyone, Tanny, I'd be interested in the book if you still have it?

Sorry Bythesea I have promised it to March, but maybe she can pass it on to you when she's done.

No worries, think I should check out our library, have been meaning to join for ages.

Wine was lovely, although I was classy drinking it from a tumbler as mid kitchen renovations! ??

Going back a bit in the thread to flen 's question. I hadn't marked the first two at all and didn't know how to, but after no. 3 I went up on a hill near us and made a little cairn out of small stones. I wrote the three dates on a stone and put it at the centre. I took a photo which I look at occasionally (though much less than i thought I would)
I also lit 3 candles on pregnancy and baby loss awareness day (15th oct), as it was just after the third and made me feel better.
It's such a personal thing and my dh has no idea what I've done. I think he would find it a bit weird if I told him, as he thinks about it completely differently and not like the loss of a baby at all (which I really struggle with). I think everyone is different so its really hard to compare.

It have a corner of the garden with a plant for each of them, chosen for beauty around time of the loss and because of significant names e.g. I chose an ornamental hazel because a Julian of Norwich poem about a hazelnut helped me at the time.
On the EDD I buy a charity gift that is baby related e.g. Midwifery training or newborn vaccines. I only mark the first EDD for each of them. EDD of my first loss was my birthday, coming up at the end of this week, so I will never be able to let that one slip past. I think that will always be the one that gets me because I had a whole life planned out for that baby. I got better at not thinking too far ahead and not taking outcomes for granted after that.
One thing that appeals to me is going to one of the Saying Goodbye services. Apparently they often ask the congregation to ring a bell for each lost LO. You'd have to be feeling pretty sorted to cope with that, but I feel like they deserve to be honoured.
tannys rings are great - there's a business in there somewhere if you could bear the thought of it. I had a forget-me-not charm for my first loss, but in the end I threw it into the sea at Lee Abbey in Devon, it made me sad carrying it around.

Tanny, I would be interested in the 400mg of cyclogest it it's still going? XxxxX

Morning All, are you POAS today Cloud? Good luck if you are :)

I bought a beautiful rose that I planted in a pot in the garden to mark my losses, and also a charm for my bracelet in form of angel wings (this was originally meant for my dad, but by the time I got round buying it, I could 'add' the mcs ).
I also want to go to one of those memorial services, they do these at my hospital. I missed the latest one because it was on the same day as our wedding anniversary, and I couldn't bring myself to ask DH to go. I don't think I could cope by myself, but I know that DH would not be keen... I think I might have to ask a friend, if I wanted to go. Any of you ladies based in Cambridgeshire...?

Another temp drop this morning, and a BFN as suspected. After having really bad back ache yesterday, i hadn't had much hope anymore, and seeing my temp dive today, I almost didn't bother testing.
Going at the thought of having to do it all over again in 2 wells time. Seriously considering the turkey baster method...