Recurrent Miscarriage Support thread 13 - tests, treatment, trying again

[bakingtins]

Welcome everyone! A thread for anyone who has experienced recurrent miscarriages and is in need of information, companionship, tea and sympathy. Newbies welcome to join at any stage.

Start with the traditional recap please......

So relieved, Belle, what did you measure? Enjoy your bloodhound nose. I can smell everything these days... not always great working with teens...

We don't mean to fuss belle....! Very pleased to hear you've had a good scan. Great news.

Phew! So pleased to hear all is ok, belle
Stinky armpits are a small price to pay!

Belle that's great to hear!

Right, I have to get up and get going. I'm exhibiting at the Totterdown Front Room art trail this weekend if Bristolian or Baking want to come and say hi. Would be lovely!

Will call in later to see how everyone is...

Oh so its like asparagus wee, my pits may not actually be any stinkier than usual, my sense of smell is just more sensitive.
I was 8 weeks bang on.
Had booking in on Thursday as well. Sucks going through the grim pregnancy history again.
tanny I think its you that is hypothyroid. Did you see a consultant endochrinologist at all? The midwives didn't really seem too sure what to do with me. The art trail sounds lovely, have messaged a few of myy brizzle mates.

Fab news belle! Gosh you had us all worried. I had such a sensitive nose whilst preg first time. Couldn't even bear to be in the same room as anyone eating soup. So you probably don't really stink!

Hi ladies. Feel a bit naughty because I've been lurking on here for a couple a weeks. Thought it right I say hello. Have a 20 month Ds (uncomplicated pregnancy). TTC no 2 for a year. Just recovering from emergency erpc that happened 11 days ago at 12 wks. Had natural mc at the end of Apr at 10 wks. Would have been due on 20th Nov. Seem to be holding it together during the day, but I'm a mess in the evenings. Going to man up and take Ds to his favourite group today but know there's going to be a lot of babies and bumps.
I'll probably keep lurking until I feel a bit stronger but it just feels wrong without saying hello. You all seem like such lovely people.

Great news Belle! Another 8 week milestone on the thread.

Hello Mrs D. I think i recognise you from the May thread? This is the right place to be but just post when you want to. I am so sorry about your two miscarriages. To happen late on like that is particularly upsetting. The nhs don't normally do interests until you have had three mcs but you may be able to persuade your gp to test your hormone levels, thyroid function and maybe a few other things.

Belle great news
Welcome Mrs, sorry you're here and for what you've been through

Belle great news on your scan, you must be so relieved
mrsd welcome, and sorry you find yourself here. These ladies are a lifesaver!
Tanny I'd love to come and see your exibit, but am an incubus of disease ([wo]man flu) at the moment and will mostly be lurking in bed in the hopes that I feel well enough to go to my friend's murder mystery birthday party this eve! I hope you have a lovely day though

In other news I had my gynae appt this week for my dermoid cyst. Had a bit of a personality clash with the registrar - he started the appointment by telling me that 'two miscarriages is 'fine'' and reiterating that there is no point in testing til you have three - which I know, and I wasn't there about the MCs. I couldn't help saying that having any MCs (let alone 2 in 6months) is not 'fine'. Not a good start. I am now on the waiting list for the cystectomy - 3 months, which is not that bad, but it's soooo long to wait before TTC again... Altogether not a brilliant week in the Bristolian household.

Belle, great news about your scan! Lovely to hear the good news!

Welcome MrsD, sorry that you find yourself here. Look after yourself while recovering from the ERPC. We're here if you need a shoulder/ear/hand.

DH left this morning for a week's business trip to the USA, and I woke up with yet another bladder infection Juuuusstt great. Just been to the out of hour docs who gave me antibiotics. Now waiting for them to kick in, while DS is getting to watch a lot more TV than he's normally allowed. Ah well.
Awful timing. But I've had this so often now (always caused by vigorous ttc efforts), I almost expect it every month! Duvet day for us today, I think!
On the positive side, the (female) doctor was very nice and sympathetic, reassuring me that the abs she prescribed are safe in pregnancy, should I be pg, and wished me lots of luck.

Sorry so many are ill. Congratulations on your exhibition tanny. Hope you sell some!

Not much going on here. Still no results from blood test, bah, but since they said they would ring with any concerns I am hoping that means I am in the clear.

Welcome mrsD. Sorry you find yourself here but all these lovely ladies are very supportive and full of knowledge. Feel free to lurk as long as you like,but we'd love to hear from you when you're ready. Hope the due date next week isn't too painful, it's always hard to pass these big dates.

Belle, it's me hypothyroid. I did see a specialist consultant but they just looked at my bloods and checked thyroxine dose..

Bristolian - sorry about the dr, some medical people need a good shake.
May I ask about your cyst? I've been told that I also have a cyst but they weren't going to do anything about it - now I'm concerned that they weren't! Is it a size-thing? Should I chase them about it?

curtains I had a cyst which they weren't going to touch, they just changed their mind as it was 6x10cm and they said there was a slightly increased risk of a twist happening during pregnancy when it's that big. They said, they were also happy not to operate and just keep an eye on it, I just decided I would have it removed after mc2 for my peace of mind and I was bored of them mentioning it everytime I had a scan

curtains it's a dermoid cyst, not very big (4x4cm) but causes me a lot of pain every cycle, so they are going to remove it. If it weren't painful I'd leave it well alone!!

Hi mrsd welcome to the thread and sorry to hear about your losses. A due date coming up is adding insult to injury. for you.

Get well soon for bristolian and cloud and anyone else feeling rough. cloud hoping your preg- friendly antibiotics prove necessary.

bristol good for you for setting the registrar straight. You have to wonder where they find these people and at what point any human compassion is surgically removed.

Hi, I've been bleeding a little bit all week after a big clot on Tuesday (now Saturday) and don't know what to do. Last mc at our local hospital just involved a 4 hour wait at a&e & a scan booked for 4 days later, meanwhile the whole thing tumbled out at home. Not sure what to do. I'm 13w and this will be 3rd mc, two live births (1st and 4th pregnancies, this is my 5th preg). Am having terrible rage today and am sitting in the pub alone with a beer and a fag, while DP cooks tea at home. Don't know what to do. Tbh I just want it to fall out. Any advice? Thanks.

Hi smoppet have you had a 12 week scan? Was everything ok at that point? I'm sure your previous MC mean you are assuming this is one, I can completely understand that heart-stopping moment when you suddenly see blood and think it's all over, but it may just have been one of the unexplained bleeds that are common in pregnancy. I agree A&E is probably a waste of time but please phone your midwife and arrange a follow up scan next week (in my area EPU won't see you post 12 weeks but MW will know where you need to be seen)
I'd try to act as if you are still pregnant until proved otherwise, booze and fags not such a great idea.

Thanks @bakingtins, I haven't had a scan yet (scheduled for Monday) and I haven't booked with mw yet (I only went to the GP two weeks ago). EPAU here won't see you here til after 18 weeks, so it's a&e or nothing I guess. I could call the community MW answer phone but I guess they'll just tell me to go to a&e. That's really why I've just been waiting it out. Half a Peroni and two fags and I'm done, don't worry. I'll go back to self-medicating with chocolate for the rest of the evening. Thank you. It feels better just getting it out there. Sometimes I just feel like I'm going mad.

Just reading the thread a bit, hello. Sorry for just barging in, I never quite know what you're supposed to do, I just needed a little scream earlier and I didn't know where else to go. I don't know how to tag people but MrsD, I hope you're ok as the 20/11 approaches - I know how crap it feels when you're around what would have been your due date. And btw to others having 7/52 and 8/52 scans - last pregnancy (DD2 born in March) I managed to get a 7/52 scan and then demanded to see the doctor when there was a heartbeat, and he gave me aspirin and progesterone, which is possibly what got me my healthy outcome (they didn't know what might have gone wrong at 11/40 in the previous two pregnancies that meant mc, so they were just a guess). Anyway, thought that might be useful to know. Another friend who had multiple miscarriages carried to term with progesterone. Only thing is, I had to stick it up my bum

Lol, don't worry Smoppet I don't think any of us have a clue about protocol for jumping in! You're more than welcome - I really hope that it's a random, completely harmless bleed you're having. It's the worst thing in the world being in our positions, I lost the ability to relax at the BFP. Randomly, I self referred to a 24 hour epu as I wasn't happy with our local a and e and they were fantastic. They weren't in my area and they saw me as a walk in - it's st Mary's in Manchester so it may be worth looking on line for your next nearest? They're also looking after me now I'm pregnant again and have been wonderful, even if my little scamp doesn't make it to meet me I know that everyone has tried their hardest for us. Where in the country are you? Xx