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Recurrent miscarriage testing and beyond.. Part 6.. Over here!

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orangebowl · 28/12/2012 18:55

We have filled up the last thread so here is the next.. Deep breath and grit your teeth for the roller coaster of emotions that continues... Hope tea and butterfly and all find it!

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butterfly86 · 25/02/2013 20:51

Hi Guppie I think they will scan me weekly but not sure if I'll get on tomorrow with it being so early I'll be 5 weeks on wed but she did say last time I saw her she could scan me about a week after a missed period but it could be inconclusive so I'll see what she says.

Tea it's very stressful I don't know how I'll. get through it, I was at a spa yesterday and was meant to have reflexology and a massage but I wasn't allowed with being pregnant so I had to change I was relaxed when I came home but it's soon worn off! Mind you was a bit difficult trying to avoid the saunas etc when mum doesn't know yet! I think I'm extra scared with all the spotting I had unless that's a good sign and the little bean was digging itself right in! X

teaandchocolate · 25/02/2013 21:57

Lands I so feel like noone cares! I think health care professionals just see mc so often they think its normal (which it is) and that we'll probably be ok next time. Just hope they're right! Obviously to us its a huuuuge deal and all we ever think about.

Butterfly that's so annoying you missed out on a massage and reflexology! You can definitely have them both when pregnant (I have) but I guess you need to find specialised practitioners. Although I agree that I can feel so chilled and happy one minute and the next I just want to cry and scream 'where's my ewcm!!' Blush

butterfly86 · 25/02/2013 22:58

I know I was desperate for that massage too!
Haha you are hunting for your ewcm and my cm has me running to the loo all the time so I'm a nutter too! Have you still not. ovulated yet? X

teaandchocolate · 26/02/2013 09:35

I don't think I have. Done a few more opks but don like them - reminds me of doing hpts and feel really sad at no smiley face. Also had no ewcm (afaik) and that's usually my sign. Can you ovulate without it? Still really crampy though and no idea why. Not sure if I should ring the consultant about it or whether he'd just say give it more time and try to relax. Couldn't sleep last night for worrying about it which is a bad sign. What will I be like if I actually get a bfp?! Almost forget that my worry was mc now I can't even get pregnant....

butterfly86 · 26/02/2013 09:48

I think it's possible to have ovulated without it I think we expect our bodies to do what we want them to and they don't always, not sure about the cramping unless it's implanting what cd are you on? It can't hurt giving the consultant a ring it's better than stressing about it it might make you feel better if you speak to him. It's just one big stress cycle isn't it!
This will make you laugh I'm that much of a nutter I'm taking my pregnancy test in my handbag today just so I can prove that it was positive after the carry on I had last time not that my consultant won't believe me but just incase! And I'm taking. my lesley regan book to prove it says your blood should be tested with no cuff, best take a big handbag I might think of a few more things to take in the next hour.....

teaandchocolate · 26/02/2013 10:42

Ha bet they'll love you at the hospital when you turn up with all your paraphernalia!! I think you're right though, better to have it all to hand and make the most of the appointment. I should have taken the book about the cuff as I always forget in the moment. But the person who did mine was in a separate department and it was all really open so not sure if id have dared say anything. Let me know what they say about the cuff thing. Good luck with it. Report back!!

I might ring him next week if still no improvement. Although last time I rang him because AF didn't turn up (on day 60 something) it turned out I was pregnant!! Although I had had ewcm that time....can't believe I even remember cm from 6 months ago!!

Today is cd 22

LandsN · 26/02/2013 11:05

Morning ladies we have progress I have a scan for next Friday x

butterfly86 · 26/02/2013 13:59

Just reporting back! It was the bloody registrar I saw not my consultant but she was lovely she said I need to try and look at the positive that my results are clear and try not to look for something I'm young fit and healthy and have got a very good chance it will all be ok. She said to ask my consultant about asprin but she doesn't think she will give me it I see her on friday for a scan so I'll ask then.

Tea there's still a chance you could ovulate soon with your long cycles hopefully you do!

Lands that's great you have managed to get a scan! X

teaandchocolate · 27/02/2013 18:57

Butterfly glad the appointment was reassuring even though you didn't see the consultant. I hope that registrars right then there might be hope for us all!! I do think it was just luck that DD was my 2nd rather than my 4th (or 5th or 6th!) pregnancy as I didn't do anything differently really. Seems it is a bit of a lottery for lots of us.

Breaking news here - I got a smiley face on my opk!! Is strange as I have no ewcm and still have the general crampy/heavy feeling that I've had for about 5 days now. Tried to do another but the test didn't work so will do one later or tomorrow although I guess either way we are going to have to dtd more - getting fatigued!!!!

How's everyone else doing??

LandsN · 27/02/2013 19:23

Thanks butterfly it's just to check my dates then they will pass me over to the consultant hope I make it till then as I will b 7 weeks by then and it's my worst time ms has kicked in big time my dd was brushing her teeth this morning and the smell of the mouthwash made me gag!!
Butterfly glad u got positive feedback lets hope this is the time for us all and tea fingers crossed for u and brilliant for the smiley face xx

teaandchocolate · 27/02/2013 19:44

Fx for you Lands. They should be able to see a hb by 7 weeks and ms can only be a good sign surely? Although I know it makes it so much harder to stop thinking about it and carry on as normal!

butterfly86 · 27/02/2013 20:38

Tea I'm pleased you got a smiley! Now you can stop stressing about that bit and start on the next bit! I get what you mean about getting fatigued it becomes a chore doesn't it. Fingers crossed it's your month x

Lands hopefully the ms is a good sign :) I'm a bit queasy but not all day and I'm getting lot's of twingy sort of nipping pains near my pubic bone are you having anything like that? I hope it's normal x

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orangebowl · 27/02/2013 20:51

Hi everyone!

Sorry if I dint answer everyone- on phone so can't scroll back!

Guppie- Ah hope you're settling into new house ok.. Apparently it's one of he most stressful things you can do moving house.

Butterfly- those pains you describe I definitely had too- sure its those stretching Pains.

Lands - hang in there- it's so hard at those early stages. I found taking pregnacare in the morning made me more sick so started taking it at night instead (no idea if you are doing that but thought with mentioning)

And tea- hooray for a smiley face ;)
Come on get on with it.. Needs must and all that Wink

In other news I forgot to say that we found out the sex of he baby at the last scan we had- and it's another boy! DS is super excited :) I have been ok up until today but feeling a bit scared again today. Just want to be able to feel movement now...

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butterfly86 · 27/02/2013 21:17

Hi school how exciting that you know what you're having it must make it even more real :) It won't be too long until your next scan but I know it feels like forever when it's you that's waiting.

I was hoping the little niggles would be stretching it's not crampy but I can't help over analyzing every little thing! X

coffeeandwalnut · 27/02/2013 21:25

Hi everyone congratulations on your BFP butterfly!

Well I had my appointment with the Dr today they were actually very good and asked me where I wanted to be referred to and had no problems with me choosing Liverpool Women's, even though its not my local hospital. So just waiting now for the appointment date. Not much else to report hormones seem to have settled back down so I guess just on AF watch for the next however long Hmm

butterfly86 · 28/02/2013 10:07

Hi coffee that's great that you are being referred to the hospital you prefer hopefully you get an appointment soon! :)

butterfly86 · 28/02/2013 12:07

Well I've just started bleeding bright red so guess it's over :(

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orangebowl · 28/02/2013 12:12

Oh god butterfly. Can you get to the epu?

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butterfly86 · 28/02/2013 12:23

I've just spoke to consultants seceratary she said she is at her private clinic today so can't speak to her. Just said to keep my app for tomorrow because even if I go. to gp chances are I won't get an app at epu before 8.30 tomorrow which is when my app is. I'm sick why does this keep happening

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orangebowl · 28/02/2013 12:27

I'm so so sorry. Are you able to be at home? You're not at work are you?

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butterfly86 · 28/02/2013 12:37

Yes I'm at work and I can't go home boss doesn't know and it's complicated I'm here until 7 :( I've got all the right signs sore boobs feeling queasy and tired I just want to know why this keeps happening. I dreamt last night this happened, dreamt I went to the toilet at work and the little baby fell out I thought it was just because I'm worried but obviously not x

twentythirteen · 28/02/2013 17:09

Sorry I haven't been on, been lurking but not posting as have been feeling sorry for myself a bit and I didn't want to bore everyone. Just wanted to come on to say I'm thinking of you Butterfly and have fingers crossed that your appt goes against your worst fears tomorrow. I had a prescient mc dream once. I hope yours was just anxiety. I also hope, practically speaking, that you have what you need re the bleeding? Here Brew.

twentythirteen · 28/02/2013 17:17

Ps Butterfly you don't have to tell your boss in order to be able to leave, just say your ill.

teaandchocolate · 28/02/2013 19:02

Oh no Butterfly I've just seen your posts as I've had no service all day. I'm so so sorry. Definitely take as much time off work as you need. Just say you are ill and try to rest as much as you can. There's nothing any of us can say to make this any better. It's just so rubbish & I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and always here to hold your hand.

teaandchocolate · 28/02/2013 19:04

Twenty I also just wanted to say to you please don't think you will bore us by posting when you feel rubbish. I feel rubbish quite a lot of the time and bore everyone here with the details of my cycle etc. it definitely helps to offload and we all know how you feel.