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Recurrent miscarriage testing and beyond.. Part 6.. Over here!

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orangebowl · 28/12/2012 18:55

We have filled up the last thread so here is the next.. Deep breath and grit your teeth for the roller coaster of emotions that continues... Hope tea and butterfly and all find it!

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teaandchocolate · 19/02/2013 20:46

Hi Katie. So sorry for what you're going through. I'm afraid I don't have any experience of ectopic pregnancies and afaik neither do the other ladies on here. I just wanted to say that

teaandchocolate · 19/02/2013 20:52

Sorry posted by mistake! Was going to say you should post a new thread with your question in the title to get more answers but I see you've already done that. Im sure the hospital will be very careful to check whether its a new pregnancy. I think it could be possible to get pregnant immediately as for natural miscarriages I know some people are told to treat them as day 1 of a cycle so I guess you could have ovulated 2 weeks after your op? Hope you get some answers soon.

coffeeandwalnut · 19/02/2013 21:00

Katie I don't have any experience of ectopic but I hope you get your answers, as tea says there are lots of people on MN who should be able to share their experiences and offer advice.

school I am in the North West but not Liverpool, Liverpool Women's does indeed seem to be one of the best. I'm going to ask the question at the GPs but I'm not sure how the referral system works and if they only fund you for your local hospital?

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orangebowl · 19/02/2013 21:06

Hi coffee
I'm in north west (Manchester) and just asked my GP to refer me there and she did no questions asked.
I wouldn't be here at (hopefully!) 14 weeks pregnant if it wasn't for Liverpool womens- I can't praise them enough.

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teaandchocolate · 19/02/2013 21:12

Coffee glad you're feeling a bit brighter this week. IME there are lots of ups and downs in this rubbish journey that is rmc! I feel differently throughout each day and can wake up feeling positive and happy and then end the day a massive misery in floods over nothing....and vice versa. I don't have any great advice re private tests and referrals because I also couldn't figure out where to go and who to see. I've seen a few consultants but not sure I'd recommend any of them!

School I do think its so good you're in the system and are treated so well. I don't think I will get any of that. I have my consultants mobile number and he will scan me but not sure he'll do it every 2 weeks. Although not sure why I'm actually worrying about that now! Need to actually get pregnant first!!!

coffeeandwalnut · 19/02/2013 21:38

Really that's good to know School, I'll definitely be asking them then. Thanks Tea I'm still a bit all over the place too, it's really hard work and crappy somedays and you feel like you're at the bottom of the biggest mountain to climb.... again Sad. I shall be treating myself to a glass of vino come Friday!

LandsN · 19/02/2013 22:57

Hi ladies
Anyone who has been referred to a consultant roughly how long did it take from doctor sending referral to being contacted just a bit worried as midwife said today they might not call me in till 11 weeks problem being I don't get to that stage and will drive myself crazy by then its stupid they have got my notes surely they have to see me before then? X

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orangebowl · 20/02/2013 07:55

Hi lands. Mine was a bit weird as I had a miscarriage (missed mc 9 weeks ish) and went to docs week after erpc. That was beginning July. They made me an appointment for 6 weeks later but then called me a week before to say that actually it was too soon after the miscarriage and they want all your hormones to be "normal" before they do their tests so they postponed me another 4 weeks. So seems long but soul have been pretty quick if it wasn't for having just miscarried relatively late on.

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LandsN · 20/02/2013 08:01

Thank you Oh ok so quite quickly my worry is that they won't see me before the 8 weeks and its all going to go the same way again I might see about a self referral scan next week as I think I am going to drive myself mad otherwise x

teaandchocolate · 20/02/2013 09:06

Lands I think your situation is different to Schools as you're pregnant again so I'm not sure what tests they can offer you. Unless anyone else knows differently? I'd have thought they should offer reassurance scans though well before 11 weeks! What has your GP said? Have you rung the EPU? Fwiw I've been given progesterone and aspirin to take in previous pregnancies as precautionary measures because I might as well take them even though there was no concrete reason to think I needed them.

LandsN · 20/02/2013 09:19

I have been referred by my gp and he said he has marked it as urgent and to see the midwife ASAP who I saw yesterday and she said there nothing she can do yet and consultant might not call me in till 11 weeks which is worrying, I am going to ask about the aspirin and the other one too as it can't hurt surely she did say the vitamins wouldn't make a difference but to keep taking them !! I have not rung the epu yet was going to wait till next week as I am 5 weeks Friday so wanted to try and see a heart beat x

twentythirteen · 20/02/2013 14:39

Hi LandsN, my"referral" to the consultant was because they work in the Swanee dept that managed my mc so I bypassed Gp altogether, the tests I had you could be pregnant during so I'd def chase it up. I agree, I've not carried a baby alive to 11 weeks and wouldn't find that st all reassuring.

I've got my af here, grr!

LandsN · 20/02/2013 14:55

I have carried 2 full term and since my dd 8 years ago it has never got past 9 weeks which is very frustrating! I am going to start shouting very soon if nothing happens I can't afford to waste time even if the doctors can x I just feel like its out of my hands even though its my babies life at stake gggrrrrrr so frustrating x

butterfly86 · 21/02/2013 10:11

Wow it's been busy on here since I was last on!
Still no different for me at the minute the spotting stopped last night after a week unless it decides to come back today! I'm cd29 now so af should be due in the next couple of days, if it is going to arrive I wish it would hurry up my boobs are about to explode I'm having to sleep in a sports bra they are that painful! Hope everyone's ok :)

Not long to wait for your scan now school x

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orangebowl · 21/02/2013 19:00

Hi everyone.

any news from anyone? i'm now getting a bit nervous for scan tomorrow. (nowhere near as much as previously but the nerves are definitely there!). on the plus side got a letter today to say that my NT tests came back as low risk for Downs so that's good. I know with my DS they actually gave me a 1:xxx chance but they havent done that this time- guess they may have changed how they do it. Anyway- another thing to tick off.

going to have a nice relaxing bath tonight as have had kind of tummy ache. not cramps or like an ache but almost like a strain- hard to describe, hope it's nothing.

x

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LandsN · 21/02/2013 19:05

Funny u say that I have had a bit of pain just above pubic bone tonight but is like a cross between a pulled muscle and a bruise so gonna get dc's in bed and have a nice relaxing bath x

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orangebowl · 21/02/2013 19:50

Lands that sounds like the uterus stretching you get very early on. Enjoy the bath! I'm just about to eat a piece I the banana cake I made with DS today with a glass of milk (weird I know!)

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LandsN · 21/02/2013 20:09

Ah yeah never got that last time thanks makes me relax a bit more no not weird it only occurred to me just now I have been eating dairylea sandwiches like they r going out of fashion but has to b brown bread with seasoning on I have had 3 today but only just realised how much of it I eating lol x

teaandchocolate · 22/02/2013 09:32

School good luck for the scan. Let us know how you get on.

No news here....literally. I should be ovulating soon but have no ewcm. Keep getting light cramping which is central so doesn't feel like ovulation and been going on a couple of days. Worried my cycles messed up again and nothing's working!! I know worrying makes it worse but I just have no faith in it... What can mid cycle cramping mean?! It's very light and not painful but I can just about notice it - could it be in my head?!

butterfly86 · 22/02/2013 15:49

School hope your scan went well x

Hi tea I wonder if the cramping could be totally unrelated? Either that or it is ov cramping and you are just getting a more general pain rather than one sided? It's funny how we scrutinise every little thing half the time I've probably just got wind yet I think somethings going on!!

I've booked an app with an accupuncturist but can't get in until 19th march, I like the sound of her though she's done some training with zita west so sounds good!
My spotting reappeared yesterday but none today cd30 so af should come tomorrow or sunday no idea what's been going on I've spotted non stop for 10 days!

twentythirteen · 22/02/2013 16:58

Butterfly Fx crossed for you.

That's good news about downs School, hope your sore stomach is better.

Tea could your mid cycle cramping be ovulation or could you have ovulated already and this is implantation? Sorry in advance if they're silly suggestions.

I'm exhausted here after a 2 week stretch of too much work, a cold, migraines, AF and two big projects to submit today so rather than taking it easy or indeed any time off with the cold I did the opposite and went in super early every day. I'm now going to have a big glass of wine and spend the evening in front of the tv. Hope you all had decent Fridays!

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orangebowl · 22/02/2013 20:38

Scan was great! Baby perfect! Measured 14 weeks (2 days less than my dating scan but from previous scans and my dates that actually seems right).

I'm starting to believe this might happen. If it can happen for me then it can for us all.. Tonight I am just a bit more less nervous!!!!

Xx

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teaandchocolate · 22/02/2013 21:38

School that's amazing news! So so exciting!!

Butterfly you're right the cramping could be totally unrelated and really is so mild that yes maybe if I wasn't analysing every twinge I wouldn't even know it was there. Twenty they're not silly questions at all!! Looking at previous cycles I actually think I'm more likely to ovulate next week. I just so hope that actually happens this time. Anyway have splashed out on some expensive clear blue ovulator predictor sticks...what an exciting life I lead. Not entirely sure why as still going to dtd every other day but would b nice to see a surge.

Twenty hope you have a nice relaxing weekend. Sound like you deserve it. I feel exhausted too and really achy but not sure why. And have a very busy weekend so no time for resting!! But hopefully less time to dwell...

butterfly86 · 23/02/2013 10:20

Fantastic news school! I hope it's put your mind at rest x

coffeeandwalnut · 23/02/2013 14:25

Fab news school, so glad you are stating to relax slightly too x