hi 12 weeks pg, how can i tell the difference between dark urine and blood when i wipe?

[whiteandyelloworchid]

I think.I might be bleeding, as when I wipe, after a wee I can see a stain on the toilet paper its a sort of Brown colour, do you think it could be blood in the urine, or perhaps just dark urine ?

Don't know if I should try and contact midwife/Dr or a and e or if the NHS make me wait a couple of days for a scan perhaps I should see if j can get in the private place today that charges fifty pounds ?

I just stressed and bit sure what to do

Good call. Have you eaten much today?

Bit of breadand a few crisps dh forced down me after the dizzy spell

You should try to eat more. Perhaps send DH out for some chocolate and lucozade? You need things with high sugar to keep your energy up. I know you probably don't feel like eating at all, but even sipping a sugary drink will help.

Yes I will do that have some Pepsi.and minstrels and some strawberry cake

Good, eating those things will make you feel better. How's the bleeding at the moment?

I think its improving, but.I'm.just lying down a lot. But I dont think.I'm.losi.g so.much so fast now, not constant clots either. So seems to be improving

Do.you think?

Sounds about right. But if you're feeling worried or unwell do call NHS direct, or if you're very worried just go straight to A and E. I wouldn't encourage you to go to A and E unless you're quite unwell though because you're likely to be left waiting for a long time and that's pretty miserable, especially when you're suffering.

Do you have an appointment to go back to the hospital for a check up?

Yes they said they want to see me Tue am. To see how its all going.

It's good that the appointment isn't too far away. Things should have calmed down by then hopefully.

orchid, I am so, so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you are being strong and the idea for burying the baby and planting a flower in memory is lovely. I hope you have lots of support and love around you over the next few weeks. I have had 3 mc's (2 of these were missed so dealt with at hospital so a bit different). I found that I had a really tough time as my hormone levels crashed back down to normal, felt very low, angry and struggled to sleep. Please just take it easy, be selfish and take your time to get over the sad loss.
The bleeding and dizziness you describe sounds very similar to what I experienced with the first mc, the heavy flow should calm down soon. I think after 2 days of considerable flow it went to a normal period type flow. Continuous heavy flow and clots can be a sign of retained placenta/ products but hopefully the scan will show this on Tuesday. I second lucozade being a bit of a lifesaver to get energy back.
Xx

Ok, Tuesday isn't too far away. Make sure you eat and drink and take your painkillers too.

If you feel you need treatment before then, call an ambulance if an emergency or call OOH dr, or NHS direct. If you go to A&E you could be sat waiting for help for ages whilst bleeding.

Your memorial idea is lovely by the way.

Afternoon lovely, sorry to hear you jave been in so much pain & distress.

Sounds like things are slowing down now hopefully.

Like Cailin says try to eat and drink and keep your energy levels up and take it easy x

Thank you so so much for helping me through this, I had no idea it would be this bad,I thought one the baby came out I would be ok ish ANd the bleeding would get easier

It doesn't seem as heavy or as big as clots as it was Around lunch time.

How are you feeling just now, orchid?

I hope the bleeding has eased off & you're no longer feeling faint.

I have to confess that I was too scared of the pain to have medical management of my last m/c - & chose ERCP instead.

Wishing you strength to get through the next few days. Go easy on yourself & rest up as much as you can.

Hoping things have continued to ease as the day has gone on.

Thinking of you and hoping you get some rest tonight. X

thanks for asking, i'm doing better than i was at lunch time.
manged to eat some tea. not feeling so faint, ive actually moved onto the sofa downstairs for a while with the hope when i go to bed i will be able to sleep better as ive been in bed all day or on the toilet.

sorry if tmi, but i went to the toilet after tea, and there was a massive backlogue of clots basically stuck inside me, half in half out, so i pulled them out was alot of clots a good handful, was worried thats why id stopped bleeding so much and that after removing the blockage the heaving flooding would start again but thankfully it hasnt
i will take your advice and take it easy as possible
i'm not feeling quite so frightened as i was at lunch time.
but the tears are coming on now

we are planing on burying the baby tomorrow
how we said in the garden in a heart shaped trinket box.
in a pot with a fushia plant.

i will say this prayer, i found it when googling from mumsnet.

Every day I need you Lord
But this day especially,
I need some extra strength
To face whatever is to be.
This day more than any day
I need to feel you near,
To fortify my courage
And to overcome my fear.
By myself, I cannot meet
The challenge of the hour,
and so dear Lord, I pray,
Hold on to my trembling hand
And be near me today

the poem will be

Fly away my angel,
Spread your wings and fly;
Take the beauty of your soul,
And share it with the sky.

Take the warmth within your heart,
And put the sun to shame;
The glow of summer's sunlight.
Will never be the same.

we just want to pick a song now.

thank you so much for helping through today, you have really helped me so much, i will be forever grateful for your kindness
bless everyone of you

The poem and prayer are lovely white. I hope you get a good night's sleep before laying your baby to rest tomorrow.

thankyou, could do with some sleep.

thpught we would be able to bury the baby today, but i was no way physically able, could bearly leave the bed for the toilet.

hope i feel phyiscally stronger tomorrow.

thanks for being there for me

There's no hurry, is there? It's not been 24 hours yet!

Sleep well xx

((((orchid))))

The poem & prayer bought a tear to my eye - just beautiful. You are commemorating your baby in such a loving & caring way.

There's another post about Gary Barlow further up the m/c thread & the Take That song (which was sung at the Olympic closing ceremony) The words were very poignant & it was also as if he was singing it to his daughter, who he'd lost earlier that week.

yes i did think of using that song.
something will come to me.

yes your right theres no hurry, don't know why i feel a need to do it as soon as possible

orchid beautiful prayer
You will always have somewhere to remember your baby.
(btw the bit that got stuck was probably the placenta. Mine did too but I wasn't as brave as u, I went to a and e!)

Do what feels right and what you are physically capable of, don't push yourself. It is all still so fresh and raw.

The prayer and poem are beautiful, they made me cry.

I am so glad things are easing, hopefully the worst is over.

Wishing you a restful night x

Can't open it - says "cannot load movie"? Xxx

You are an inspiration white - I was constant crying, wanting nothing to do with anyone after my MC and it was nowhere near as traumatic as yours. I love your burial idea, and the poem has brought tears to my eyes too.

You have so much support on here as well as in real life. You will be fine, until then we will be here. Xxxx