hi 12 weeks pg, how can i tell the difference between dark urine and blood when i wipe?

[whiteandyelloworchid]

I think.I might be bleeding, as when I wipe, after a wee I can see a stain on the toilet paper its a sort of Brown colour, do you think it could be blood in the urine, or perhaps just dark urine ?

Don't know if I should try and contact midwife/Dr or a and e or if the NHS make me wait a couple of days for a scan perhaps I should see if j can get in the private place today that charges fifty pounds ?

I just stressed and bit sure what to do

Oops yes, forgot to say everything was fine when I went for emergency scan and DD2 is 4 now! Can still remember how scared I was though.

Hope you have got through to someone.

No heartbeat, gutted, waiting to see Dr about what happens next, medication, surgery or waiting to see if a mc will happen

Don't know what to do for the best

Oh OP what dreadful news. Go to bed and be kind to yourself. You have time so don't rush anything.

I'm so very sorry OP.

(((hugs)))

I'm still in hospital waiting for the Dr, dh on way, so scared about what's to come and wonder is it going to be really painful ?

You poor thing, im so sorry. X

Hope you're proud of yourself milk.

Oh you poor thing, I'm so do sorry to hear that. Hope your DH arrives soon x

I'm so sorry :(

I mmc at 10w and chose medical management. It wasn't physically painful but was very upsetting.

The pain was like a bad period and I was bleeding for a good while - maybe three weeks in total - although I don't know how average that is.

MNers are here to hold your hand until DH turns up.

I'm so so gutted and so frighteed about what going to happen.

What dies medical.management involve taking medication ti make the mc happen ? Will it be like a mini labour ? Will I need someone ti have dd for a while. She's with.my friend

So so sorry to hear your sad news. I had exactly the same thing happen o me and was sent home to let the miscarriage happen naturally. It ended up being quite painful so went back to hospital, and I was put under GA and given a D&C. I hope yor husband gets there soon x

Really sorry for what you are going through. I had similar at Christmas. I had surgical management. It was quick, totally painless, even afterwards. I felt at least I only had to deal with the mental anguish, not the physicality. Hope that helps.

Whiteandyellow, I'm so sorry to hear this. When I had a mc I opted for surgical management (similar to a d&c operation) which is done under general anaesthetic. It didn't hurt and although I had bleeding afterwards, I found it less traumatic than I think I would have found medical management. You must do what is right for you but if you opt for the surgical route I hope I can reassure you that it's not a painful procedure. Whichever route you go down, your chances of having a healthy pregnancy next time are the same. I am now pregnant again after my miscarriage. I'm so sorry for your loss x

Op im so sorry, you must be in bits! If u can get someone to look after dd for a couple of days that might be easier for you. But sometimes it's nice to have them near you at this kind of time.

Just wanted to say I've had an mc and it's horrid. Just dont expect too much of yourself. I think the actual pain bit of it is different for everyone.

So sorry to hear the outcome of this. Orchid, don't rush into decisions, take time to think it through once your DH arrives.

It would be best to make sure your dd is settled with your friend.

Please MN can we ignore milks comment, the OP has, your comments are not helping her

So sorry OP You poor thing.

milk I am disgusted

I'm really sorry OP xxx

milk words fail me!

Sorry to hear this whiteand yelloworchid hope your dh gets to you soon.

Get plenty of rest and be kind to yourself xx

I' m so sorry to hear what you are going through, I went through this myself some years ago.

I was offered a choice between a d&c or letting nature take it's course. Having previously had a mc at 12 weeks I chose the d&c.

Be brave and look after yourself.

So sorry that you had such awful news. I hope someone is looking after you.

So sorry to hear this OP, I hope your DH gets there soon. Just take care of yourself.

i had mmc at 10 weeks and opted for medical management as the miscarrage had started like yours :-( I had to take one set of tablets on the friday and then go back in on the following monday for more, however i miscarried at home on the sunday so didnt need any more tablets. It was a bit painful but no worse than period cramps, bleeding in total lasted about 2 weeks.
I too had another child and didnt really want to have to have a general.
The nurses were very kind in explaining all the options and what would happen.
Where abouts in the country are you?
Sending lots of love at this heartbreaking time