hi 12 weeks pg, how can i tell the difference between dark urine and blood when i wipe?

[whiteandyelloworchid]

I think.I might be bleeding, as when I wipe, after a wee I can see a stain on the toilet paper its a sort of Brown colour, do you think it could be blood in the urine, or perhaps just dark urine ?

Don't know if I should try and contact midwife/Dr or a and e or if the NHS make me wait a couple of days for a scan perhaps I should see if j can get in the private place today that charges fifty pounds ?

I just stressed and bit sure what to do

thanks, i've sorted childcare for dd, nothing much is happening, its lighter than a period.
just wondering if i should be a bit active, maybe a brisk walk or bit of housework to set things off a bit

IMO do what you feel youre able. Your body will soon let you know if u need to stop! It's very hard just sitting and waiting isn't it!

I'm ok now...finding it hard to be around pregnant ladies, especially since one at work announced yesterday, and has the due date I should have had. But I'm doing a lot better than I was. I was angry for a long time.

Enough about me though. Do what you need to to get through the new few days/weeks. Don't feel pressured to do things you don't want to - this is a time you have a right to be completely and utterly selfish. As I said before, take care of yourself. Xxxxxxxxxxxx

So sorry for you, have been through exactly the same thing, with my first pregnancy, TBH I would have rather waited in hospital.

tummy is starting to hurt alot more now, so weird to be willing this on, but i guess sooner its over the better, havent taken the pain killers yet as i want to take them just before bedtime

number how do you mean rather waited in hospital, do you mean with the medical management?
they didnt offer me to just stay there.
they ddi say if i have the medical management i can even have morphine, i have paracetamol and codeine. and ibuprofen

monkey, i can totally understand that, i seem to have seen loads of pregnant women today, and not just in the hospital, when we went for a walk/talk then in the supermarket

So sorry this is happening to you OP, I had a missed mc at 8 weeks, I had to have an ERPC, which I was glad of really, it was over and done with in day

Please be kind to yourself, thinking of you

Thanks hoops

I.am.so.very sorry everyonenelses losses on here.
Life.feels like.some.sort of endurance test at times and it totally sucks

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this. I have had two m/c but the worst was definitely when I went for my 12 week scan (with DS1 in tow) and they found no heartbeat.

I chose a D&C both times, but really because I wanted some definite "end" to it. That's just me though.

Be nice to yourself, don't downplay it - it IS a big deal. Big hugs. x

So sorry for your loss too.

What is the difference between erpc and a d and c

I think it's the same procedure with different names.

D&C refers to the specific procedures being carried out, whereas ERPC is more of a euphemism for the overall result.

How are you doing today whiteandyelloworchid?

By the way, I was trying to think of things that helped me while I was going through my mc, and these were the top ones:

I watched telly programmes or films that I knew would make me cry. Wallowing in how shitty the world can be was cathartic, and seeing that good can come out of bad (I watched a lot of Secret Millionaire etc) gave me hope.

Someone spoke to me about the genetics of mc, and explained that sometimes a baby's genetic code just isn't complete - it has a gap somewhere. So the embryo faithfully follows all the instructions it has, and then runs out of instructions. I am not a biologist so I don't know how accurate this is, but it was very comforting for me to think that "my baby fulfilled her potential" and did everything that was within her ability. Because really that's our best hope for any of our children.

Sorry for confusing terms, yes same thing.

I found comfort in knowing how common it is for a pregnancy not to end up in a live baby - depending on your circle of friends it's often something people don't talk about. I had a few days off work following my first m/c and was blown away by an older (male) member of the management committee where I worked writing me a letter offering condolences and saying how his wife had had many m/c but they ended up with a family. It was such a kind thing to do. That was my pre-MN days

How are you today? Have you taken your painkillers? I found it best to make sure I was taking the maximum dose of painkillers for a few days once things had started. I also had to get DH to do dd's bathtime as I couldn't bend over the bath.

Do you work? Don't feel the need to rush back, you can self-certificate for a week and then your GP can sign you off with a sick note.

Thinking of you today x

nothing much happened last night, not much blood loss.

been on a long walk this am trying to help things along.
seems to have helped a bit as my tummy is sort of whirring a bit more.
just had lunch so was thinking of going for another walk once my food gone down

i'm not sure if there is anything else i can do to help things along?

keep trying to eat and drink, so i can keep going to the toilet

i'm a sahm, but i've sorted dd childcare until wed.
i can draft more help in if needed

The waiting is horrible. Hope it passes soon

would a spicy curry help?

just trying to think of what can help set off labour.

they said no sex as risk of infection, not that i feel like sex of course

i'm going to ask mnhq to move this into pregancy loss, as i dont think people really want to see my live mc thread

thanks very much for the help and support, really hope the mc happens naturally at home with no need for further complications or interventions

if i can't cope at home, i will go in hospital for the medical management as my next choice of treatment with surgery as a last resort

thanks for helping me through this.
i do feel a bit calmer than i did yesterday, think ive gone into survial mode now really.
just need to get this baby out asap.

Don't make yourself crazy sick on labour myths; it's different and they don't work anyway.

Please don't exhaust yourself. It will come when it comes.

Still thinking of you white x

thanks, thats nice of you

yes i'll be careful not to wear myself out.

i'm not sure how long it will take to have the mc, or at what point the hospital may say to me right you've had enough time now its time to move onto medical or surgical treatment

i hope if this doesnt work i'll be able to have the medical option next

ooo white im so so sorry for your loss my lovely.

please take care of yourself

big hug from all of us our thoughts are with you xx

thanks jaylee

Hi white just seen this thread with you in the mc section, I was with you on the thread with monkey and also your opk one, I unfortunatly had another mc 2 wks ago, well still going through it, my second now and it is just heartbreaking, I can imagine at 12 wks it doesn't really occur there could be anything wrong as you hear out of the woods so it seems doubely painful, my thoughts are with you. Xx

sorry to hear that kitty

crumbs it seems ages since my opk thread, so much can happen in a relativelt short space of time can't it

how many weeks were you?
are you going down the expectant management route?
have you been bleeding and cramping for two weeks?
silly question but hows the mc been?

Hello orchid just wanted to say how sorry I am that you're going through this - I also had mmc in June at 11.5 weeks; it's heartbreaking. Take care of yourself x