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had a miscarriage? waiting to get back to normal to TTC? come join us..

328 replies

tedmundo · 13/03/2012 18:04

There are so many of us in that we deserve a thread....

MC and waiting to get the cycle back to normal before TTC....

Come here to share the stories of never ending bleeding, praying for BFN's and the return of the lovely AF in all her glory!

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cartoonface · 23/04/2012 11:53

question. i got my period pretty much dead on 4wks later which is how my regular cycle would be if i count from first day of mc bleeding. so does that mean ill be completly back to my usual cycle?

Dillydollydaydream · 23/04/2012 13:10

I'm sure people aren't fed up with you. Because we didn't make it to 12 weeks nobody actually knew I was even pregnant apart from my husband. This has been difficult as Im trying to act like everything is normal when I don't feel normal :(

I'm swinging from wanting to ttc straight away to not wanting to try just incase. I'm dreading what would have been the due date maybe if I'm pregnant again then it'll help? I don't know!

Dillydollydaydream · 23/04/2012 13:12

Cartoon face. It does look like you have returned to your cycles as normal. Is the bleeding the same as you would usually get when you had a period? I heard the first AF can be lighter or heavier than normal.

cartoonface · 23/04/2012 13:31

i heard that too, but mine wasnt really any different to my usual. i had pains in my ovaries and back during the week before and still during the first 2 heavier days. i rarely normally have period pains but apart from that no difference. i have just finished it but for some reason feel sickly, crampy overies pains coming back and headachy. we started ttc straight after mc bleeding stopped so althought very disapointed at the arrival of my period it was also good to know that my body was getting back to normal

EthelredOnAGoodDay · 23/04/2012 14:09

Hi cartoonface, my AF was same; went back into my pre-pg cycle. Both have been lighter than usual though I would say.

cartoonface · 23/04/2012 14:16

hmm shall be due my period slap in the middle of my holiday then. would i be mad to go armed with tampons and a hpt just incase?

teaandchocolate · 24/04/2012 12:17

Hello everyone.

KelBelle I'm so sorry for your loss, that must have been so awful for you. Hope you're doing ok.

'well done' on every for getting af back! Mine still hasn't arrived and its been over 6 weeks since erpc. Although I'm not really surprised as my cycle was never great. Just glad I'm not still bleeding as after 1st mc I bled on and off for months. Feel (hope!) that af might arrive soon....sure I'll be back on here ranting that its not come in a few weeks....

I still feel really nervous about trying again though and am kind of dreading it to be honest. Dont actually think I'll feel happy at a bfp, only at the 12 weeks can if its ok, which right now seems a lifetime away. How is everyone else finding ttc?

Dillydollydaydream · 24/04/2012 15:16

Hello

My bleeding following mc has tailed right off now. It started last Wednesday so looks like the worst is over. I'm going on holiday in 5wks. Hopefully AF will have been and gone by then - bet it turns up right on time for holiday though!

When I think about ttc again I just feel really scared :(
I really want a baby but want to fast forward to 20week scan before I can relax.
Just got an email from Bounty telling me all about my 7th week of pregnancy! I've unsubscribed but apparently it can take 14days.

LittleSpade · 26/04/2012 15:37

Hi everyone,

Getting a little worried so wanted to ask about your experiences....

AF arrived on Sat and pretty much stopped on Tue with just a little pink/brown when i wipe sometimes since (sorry if tmi) but since Sat on and off I've had really really bad cramps. Never really had period pains before I don't think but maybe thats because I spent many years on the pill except the period before i got pregnant and then had my mmc. Don't really remember whether I had any when i was much younger.

Anyone else had this with their first AF after mc? Could it be a sign of something more serious wrong or am i just worrying unnecessarily?

Thanks

Methe · 26/04/2012 15:46

My first period after miscarriages have always been light and weird so I wouldn't worry about it to much. If you've been on the pill for years you probably don't know what your natural cycle is like anyway so give it a few months and you will know what is normal for you :)

It's 16 days since my 17week MC and i'd put money on the fact that i'm ovulating today due to ewcm, side pain and feeling like sex for the fist time since christmas eve (when my Daughter was conceived!). We wont be doing anything about it but it's good to know I am still working. My periods came back at 6 weeks and 5 weeks with my DC so my body's obviously stuck in it'd cycle.

QueenandKingMum · 01/05/2012 11:11

Hello everyone, can I join in here? I miscarried at exactly 6 weeks 12 days ago. I'm still getting positive tests, strong ones. I had a scan which saw my lining back to normal and all tissue was gone.

What's up with the positive tests though. Agonising!

LittleSpade · 01/05/2012 11:57

Hi QueenandKingMum sorry for your recent loss. In many ways its good that you miscarried naturally as it implies your body is already working things through and heading itself back towards normal without the need for medical/surgical intervention. The positive tests result from your hormone levels and these will take time to drop to normal non-pregnant levels even after the removal of all tissues. I don't know what a standard/average time for this is (if there even is one). All i know is i had an ERPC to remove the tissue and was still testing slightly positive more than 2 weeks later and I know it has taken several others on this thread about 2 weeks to get negative tests but i think some also take longer than that. Basically as long as you don't physically feel ill and therefore probably don't have an infection its just a matter of time. I gave up testing in the end and decided to just wait 5 weeks to see if AF arrived which it did after 4 and a bit weeks. If it hadn't arrived i would have tested again and if was still positive then i would have gone back to the GP/EPU. Good luck, take care of yourself.

backwardpossom · 09/05/2012 19:57

Hi guys, may I join you too? I found out yesterday at a scan that my baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks. I'd had some brown spotting for a couple of weeks and had hoped all was ok, but sadly it was not to be. I have had a tablet today to try and bring on the miscarriage (I didn't want to wait for it to happen naturally, I figured since my baby died two weeks ago that's been plenty time for my body to do it's thing and I just want to get back to 'normal' as soon as possible) and am going in to hospital on Friday to finish it all off. I have had some heavier red bleeding since yesterday's scan so I suppose it is possible my body was getting ready to start things off itself anyway. Either way, I just want everything to be over with and move on.

Hmm, I guess I'm posting just to say hello and say thanks for this thread as I've already learned a lot just by reading all of your experiences.

YikesHereWeGo · 10/05/2012 11:42

Hey possum, hope the next few days aren't too stressful for you, fingers crossed the bleeding is over and done with quickly.
I'm new on this thread, had a 'natural' (?!) mc in the middle of Tuesday night, so spending the rest of the week on the sofa recovering. I've promised myself a day of 'indulging' (i.e. feeling sorry for myself, getting it out of my system) today and then will put all my books away and steer clear from MN for the foreseeable so that I can get my head round what's happened and try to move on.

I'm getting married in 3 weeks' time so lots to think about. Had hoped to make a big announcement on our wedding day, so it's gonna be strange not doing that, but at least I can now look forward to some champagne and nice cheeses on the day (-crap consolation prize, but I've got to focus on the positives).
Anyway, I've found this a really useful thread so thank you everyone for posting; I just wish more people would talk about mc in RL, but hey ho I can totally understand why they don't.

backwardpossom · 10/05/2012 11:58

Yikes, I want to say nice to see you, but it's not really is it?! Much love xx

Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 17:31

Oh my gosh backwards! ( and others on here)I'm so very sorry for your loss!!!
( I was on the dec12 thread) I never added to the list as I had a MMC last year and so wanted all to be well before I did that!
Scan showed another ectopic and I was rushed off for surgery!
So now recovering minus 1 tube looking forwards to my body being normal again!!!!
I hope you look after yourself and look into a bright future!

Munchin · 10/05/2012 20:26

Hi all, may i join also? I'm feeling a little lost at moment. I'm soo sorry to see so many of you in the same boat. It has helped me alot reading your stories so thank you all for sharing.

I found out at a 10/11 wk scan that I had a mmc where baby only measured 7+6 and no heartbeat. I got the shock of my life as stupdily had never heard of a mmc and thought there would have been some bleeding etc to warn you all was not well. I had an erpc a week later as had to wait to have the scan repeated and mmc confirmed. It is now 16 days since the erpc and the bleeding still continues. I took a pg test last night as you all seemed to do that and I still got the faintest second pink line so I guess the hcg hormones not totally gone yet.

I just want to get back to normal and see where we go from there.

Huge hugs to everyone.

Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 20:50

Munchin- so sorry for your loss! It's hard to find out at the time when it's suppose to be lovely seeing your unborn child for 1st time only to be blown away with bad news! That was me last year!!! At 13 weeks! Still feeling looking pregnant not knowing that for weeks your child was gone and all was still! Cruel really! No pain, no bleeding no evidence that it was over the worse thing for me is I had a confirming scan at 8 weeks because of my ectopic in 06 and the risks!
All was well then but weeks later something went wrong!!!

Holding hands and sharing is what helps me get through each day as in RL and 10 days on I'm expected to be better???

Goofymum · 10/05/2012 22:21

Can I join too please? My lurking on the miscarriage threads is gradually diminishing but I'm not ready to leave yet!
My MC started 2 weeks ago when I was nearly 11 weeks. I had light bleeding so had a scan in the EPU where they diagnosed Pregnancy of Unknown location and high hormone levels. The next week was an absolute nightmare with heavy blood loss, ectopic scare, me collapsing at home then A&E followed by an emergency D&C and a blood transfusion of 4 units. I still don't know whether a baby was actually found, I had plenty of 'products' in the womb but just no baby, don't know why those products weren't detected on a vaginal scan. I am almost completely better physically and even returned to work today but things keep taking me my surprise eg. an old email I read congratulating me on my pregnancy, and a work colleague giving me lots of sympathy. I can crumble at any moment even though I'm pretending to be fine.

backwardpossom · 10/05/2012 22:50

Have a hug, goofy x

Goofymum · 10/05/2012 22:53

Thankyou. A big group hug to all the lovely ladies on here. Sad x

Countmyblessings · 10/05/2012 23:41

Hi there Goofymum - I'm sure I wrote on another thread and your on there also! I'm so very sorry for your loss and the traumatic experience you endured!
Holding hands and given each other support!

Munchin · 10/05/2012 23:58

countmyblessings thank you. It is an awful shock for anyone to get. I stupidly had gone to appoint on my own as wanted dh to save his days for big scan. Sorry for your losses.

goofymum my god you went through the mill. It's still early days for you and don't be so hard on yourself the emotions just creep up on you.

backwardpossom · 11/05/2012 07:56

Just about to go into hospital for the day. Feels so odd :(

YikesHereWeGo · 11/05/2012 08:36

Sending you lots of hugs possum.