had a miscarriage? waiting to get back to normal to TTC? come join us..

[tedmundo]

There are so many of us in that we deserve a thread....

MC and waiting to get the cycle back to normal before TTC....

Come here to share the stories of never ending bleeding, praying for BFN's and the return of the lovely AF in all her glory!

Hi ted, I don't feel like a bundle of laughs either. Will definitely post my testing results. The company were quite quick so I should be able to start in a couple of days.

And private scans here cost £150!!!

shomes sorry to hear about your troubles, it sounds terribly upsetting. I feel for you. Please post on how you are getting on. Don't worry about getting pregnant now, just concentrate on getting better.

I hear you musicflower the world does seem full of reminders. spent my time off from work trying to unsubscribe from pregnancy websites so that i wouldn't get "this week your baby is this big" email updates. and everyone around me seems pregnant or pushing a pram.

Hi wrigle good idea re the different tests - please post your results and let us know how you get on. I've never used them before, but if my cycles dont return to their previous 25 days I'm definitely going to start. That's crap about the bleeding. Fingers crossed it settles soon.

EWCM made a bold appearance yesterday and it pushed me over the edge. Sounds silly, but it brought home that we are definitely back to the very very beginning yet again. Had a good cry when I got home from work with DH and felt a bit better. Started SWI last night. I'm feeling a bit more positive today as feel as is am now actively trying to change this situation IYKWIM?

It's such a horrible time for everyone at the moment isn't it? I'm such a control freak and not knowing if/ when I'm going to fall pregnant again is so distressing.

shomes I'm sorry to read about your experience. I've not had this but hopefully you will get some closure soon. I know what you mean about TTC and being pg again. The doc's won't investigate me (I think this is standard) until I have 3 consecutive miscarriages and so I feel the only way forward for us is to TTC again and see what happens...

qazxc and musicflower my sister in laws sister is pg with the same due date as I should have had and we haven't told her we mc (long story) and so all I hear is how her sister is doing. soul destroying.

shomes, I was in a rush with last post with partner desperate for my attention over dinner and me thinking I just wanted to hide out! So I missed reading your post properly, that sounds realy tough. It sounds like a long time to be going through the process, I hope you're getting good care, all around. While none of us have had exactly the same experience we share enough commonality on here to find it helpful, hopefully you will too. Is the transvaginal scan the internal one? I had an internal scan and it led to increased cramping and bleeding afterward, turning an already horrible experience into a worse one, I was actually angry for days after it.

And yes, will def post results of my testing, it feels like the only thing can do right now to feel I'm moving to the next phase.

Good night ladies, hope you all get healthy restful night's sleep.

I just got my BFN. I guess it is definitely all over now. I just need to stop bleeding so I can try again now.

Musicflower Agree about facebook. Mine is all scan and pictures at the moment and is difficult to look at. Also one person complaining about her midwife appointments.

tedmundo I have been thinking about private scans in future too. Cheapest I can find near me is £200 though :( I'm hoping I can find somewhere else.

www.gpcare.org.uk/ Is the Bristol based company we found. Not sure if this helps? Maybe you could phone to see if they have other cities they cover?

fizzycolabuba good luck with the next few weeks. As a fellow control freak, I also want to know exactly when to expect what happens next.

shomes so sorry to hear how this experience is dragging on for you. It must be horrendous and I feel for you very, very much. How did the ERPC miss so much? I thought it was a clean out procedure? Poor you to go through the op but still to be left in this position. Let's hope this is the last of it.

Have a good day everyone. X

Hey, i'm really looking for some advice as i really feel i'm going insane!!

I had a mmc 28th Feb at 11 weeks as my baby stopped growing at 6 weeks. I then went on to have an ERPC on 7th March, only bleed for 4 days so went on to ttc on 20th March. I should be due on my period today but no sign and negitive pregnancy tests :-( I have been having the following symptoms for the last 2 weeks:

tiredness
dizziness
wisdom teeth hurting
irritability (really snappy with hubby)
body feels horrible
fuzzy memory
clumsiness
weeing a lot more
just don't feel right
white non smelling discharge
tummy cramps for 3 days some constant

i haven't had these symptoms everyday but on and off although the dizziness has been there everyday for the past 4 days now.

Its been 4 weeks since my ERPC but only 17 since we had sex, I think i may need to wait til the weekend to get a positive result as that would then make it 3weeks since sex....you see how i might just be a going a bit crazy Yesterday and the day before i had some white discharge aswell, normally when i ovulate the discharge is clear and the ovulation sticks are negative so i'm definately not ovulating. I keep asking myself if i've really had/having these symptoms or whether its just all in my head?? Please can someone with a clear head and not in any danger of being a bit mental give me some sound advise????

Also base on an ovulation test (wasn't a clear positive) i ovulated around 13 days after erpc (didn't have any discharge tho) and we only had sex once that month.

Hi Carina sorry to hear what you're going through - sounds like a very confusing and stressful time. I don't have any experience of what you're describing and am not back to ttc after my ERPC yet. Can I ask how soon after your ERPC you got your first negative test?

My only suggestion in relation to what you describe is that maybe you're anaemic? This is known to cause dizzyness and tiredness (don't know about the other symptoms) and is possible after a mc when your iron levels will be low. If you're hoping for a BFP though i'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Perhaps if the tests remain negative and you continue feeling unwell, see your GP? And if it gets worse over the bank holiday weekend don't hesitate to get help. In the meantime get lots of rest and take care of yourself x

Hi carina, I just wanted to make you aware that opk sticks pick up on Hcg as well as Lh so it is possible that your faint positive on the opk was still the last remnants of preg hormones in your body? I am not saying it is that for sure but just keep it in mind. Or had you had a clear Bfp that?

I am so sorry to hear how confused and stressed you are. If it helps at all, you are in company!

My stupid iPad tried to auto correct Bfp to Bnp. sigh

Thank you all for your support and kind words...

I thought i was doing really well with the emotional side after the last lot of bleeding subsided and then i went for the latest scan and i've felt really crap since. Can't seem to snap out of it this week so having a glass of wine tonight to relax a bit, feel like things should be back to normal and i guess its my frustrations leaping out at me now.

Know how you all feel about the facebook thing, just today someone i know is pregnant with their second child and i can't help thinking that should have been me :(

Hope you all have a good easter, i hope i come out the other side of the weekend a bit better! x

Sounds very fustrating shomes- you're just managing to come to terms with things when yet something else happens. Think you've been very unlucky.

teaandchoc, I wouldn't worry about having a break from ttc. I'm not sure that I'm emotionally ready to get pg again, so am not ttc yet. I mainly just want to see what my body is doing. Hope the tests can give you some answers, or at least reassurance.

Good to know I'm not the only one tortured by FB. At least my friend has had her baby so has stopped the daily posts of how hard it is to be pregnant. No sympathy from me!

God, is anyone else just fed up of the whole thing? Not sure watching One Born A Year On is help

...helping. Nor is stupid phone which posts unfinished messages. I'm still bleeding 18 days after ERPC and so fed up of it all, I could scream. I just want to be "normal" whatever that is! Been prescribed progesterone to try to stop the bleeding but unsure where it'll leave me and was so hoping I'd get AF in 4-6 weeks so I'd know where I stood but now it seems unlikely.

How's everyone else?

Hi resipsa, I remember you from the due in October thread. Sorry to hear what you are going through. I'm still bleeding 16 days after my natural MC. I have no idea when to expect AF but I'm going with the wishful thinking in that it can't be long. Hope you feel better soon.

Hi resipsa. Not sure this will help but I'm still bleeding (although just brown) nearly 4 wks after the erpc & it's driving me crazy!! I saw the consultant on Tuesday who wasn't at all concerned, said it was fine. I am worried as after my 1st mc I bled on & off for 3 months ( I think cos of my mad hormones rather than from erpc ) . I was then given progesterone so when I stopped it I got a fake period. Anyway that sorted me out & I got preg with DD a couple of weeks later. So it will hopefully do the same for you! The bleeding is SO annoying!!

Hi resipsa, I know what you mean, still bleeding 2 weeks after erpc. just when you think it is stopping it comes back stronger. It's so frustrating and getting nappy rash from pads i just want to be back to normal too, have a long cycle 40 days so i'd imagine getting back to TTC is going to take longer than most. Me and Dp have decided to foster some kittens from our local animal shelter, to take our mind off things (and probably channel some of the nesting and nurturing instincts).

Morning all.

I gave up on OBEM as soon as I had the mc. I just knew it would be too much for me. I watched The Syndicate last night and one of the characters in that was talking about a mc and I thought the actress got the misery of it spot on.

I am so sorry to hear about the ongoing bleeding nightmare for some of you. I had such a big bleed before the ERPC that i only bled for about 2 weeks afterwards. Most of it had cleared out by then.

I only needed the ERPC as the baby had become stuck in my cervix. I took a small shred of comfort that the baby didn't go down the toilet. The night of the Big Bleed, as it will now become known in our house, was a head mash for that reason.

Still no positive opk result but we are just DTD every other or every night anyway now. no sign of EWCM though so perhaps it is not going to happen this month. If that is the case, I wish I would just get AF to start the next cycle.

I am beginning to think perhaps I have some panda blood in me ....

oh i'm the same, was avid OBEM watcher, thinking that'll be me in a few months. Now i can't watch it anymore. I haven't watched the syndicate, but don't think i could handle seeing someone acting out a mc on screen. was watching hollyoaks on and off and had to stop when Nancy had her mc.
Still bleeding so no DTD for me, between the extreme morning sickness and the mc, it's been over 3 months. Am frustrated and keep having naughty dreams, then feel guilty because they're not about DP [bublush]

Hi everyone, hi resipsa, sorry to see you here.

I had my second day back at work yesterday, had to cancel a couple of meetings because I felt depressed, didn't want to eat so that didn't help, was teary, felt guilty about canceling, told colleagues why, and then felt like I was coming across as too self absorbed, and then The Most Difficult Person To Work With Ever In The Entire History Of The World made a complaint about me (he does this every few months, it's never true and management know that), but I never deal with it well when he does it, yesterday was bad timing and I just hit the roof, rang top management and shouted like a crazy woman, then told her about the MC (was meant to be as way of excusing my behaviour to her on the telephone), then started crying and went bright red. I stormed out (I never storm, I'm quite diplomatic and calm at work). Came home at 4:30 and had a BIG glass of red and chain smoked 4 cigarettes and ranted down the phone to two friends who were unfortunate enough to pick up. I lost it. When my partner came home he was lovely, after listening to it all and being great he then said "I also think you're still angry about..." and I just burst into tears. Hope this process ends soon. Did I say I started bleeding/cramping again? FFS

for those with weird bleeding i wanted to add this odd thing. I had an ERPC early Feb, had lots of spotting for almost 3 weeks after, seemed endless, then a very light period at 3 weeks , then nothing, then more spotting, then another very light period after a long cycle- about 34 days. Then my partner decided he didn't know if we should TTC so I went on the pill, however (and am cutting a long story short here) after 4 days I got worried and came off the combined pill, 2 days later I started bleeding, standard thing that is meant to happen but here's what is weird. My last 2 periods have been light with pinkish blood, no clots, very thin watery blood. This bleed is like my normal period, heavier, some small clots, thicker blood and darker. I mean how weird is that? This bleed started 6 days after my period stopped. Its hardly much time for uterine lining to build up again. I was absolutely not pregnant- i did loads of tests so not an early MC. All I can think is that hormones were still all over the place (as is usual after a MMC) and taking the pill for a few days and then coming off seems to have forced my body to do something different. Strangely it is rather reassuring to get a more familiar period.

Hi All

Have been away for a bit. Sorry to everyone we are still going through this. I want to leave this board - and be 'normal' again but I feel so sorry for myself (not in day to day life but deep down!) I stopped watching OBEM and try to avoid anything baby related now too.

I mc mid Feb, bled for 10 days, had my AF a few weeks ago and now, when I check my urine with an ovulation stick (bought a job lot of cheapies online) I often have 'bits' floating around. Not sure if my insides are still coming out. Is that meant to happen? Everything else is fine, natural mc and no pain. i am hoping the 'bits' aren't going to stop me ttc.

Tedmundo, mine went down the toilet :( (I wasn't at home else I think I may have got some rubber gloes and fished it out for a look as it looked alien like. Not sure if it was a good thing or bad thing I wasn't at home ...)

Hello All - I might just join in too!
Have been feeling sorry for self since mmc/medical management/admission with excessive bleeding in mid-March. I thought I was 9 weeks but was actually 7 etc. can't get the snapshot of the sonographer saying 'I'm really sorry but I can't see a heartbeat...' out of my head and feel if I never have to have another scan again it will be too soon!
Have been trying not too be too outwardly miserable/keeping busy etc, but have known all along that no less than FOUR of my closest friends are due in mid-October as I was. They have all been getting so excited and it is like a knife in my stomach every time somebody mentions it, even tho I am happy for them of course!
I think I would be able to cope much better if it was not for this as I now also have to deal with being a good/bad friend according to how searingly jealous I feel when I see their little bumps... :-(
But at least we can TTC soon, as I just want to have another baby as we had hoped for originally!
I'm sorry to hear all your sad stories, but it does help to hear there are others going through the same ... x

Sorry to hear that Chocolate. You are very welcome to join us :) (Sorry you have to be here too though!)

Thanks MusicFlower. I think if the "bits" you describe truly are in your urine then possibly more related to urinary tract than reproductive bits (and therefore not involved in TTC?), but perhaps you should drop a urine sample in to your GP for testing??