The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

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Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

It should have read 'my' cheesey chips. - sorry - I blame DIAMOND for the extra strong cocktails. or ws it someone else - who knows x x x x

Hello all!

Has everyone got their uterus oyster card ready. Climb aboard!

I have been at a fair all day. One of those fairs where 98% of the people who run it look like murderers. I ate rather alot of toxic smelling candy floss. i suspect I will glow in the dark later.

Pixie I will love you forever for inventing the On the blob cocktail. Am glad your Af turned up, how are you feeling about ttc again?

Diamonds? Is that really you? We have missed you! So glad your holiday was great, do you think your AF might be at Heathrow in the left luggage dept? How is your dad doing?

Free My lovely, the last time you sounded melancholy and worn out was when you had your 1st AF - April 20th as you say. I think this is AF no 2, I think the fact it's brown is throwing you off a bit, but it sounds like it is indeed an AF. I bet your uterus is still having that final clear out and hence it is brown. And what a clear out it is - Kim and Aggie would be proud.

I love your honesty and it's what got the original thread up and running in the first place. As I've said before I like the fact you're not having kids because you're bored (and boring) and fancy a semi in Surrey.

Disclaimer - I live in Surrey, I am allowed to write that .

I wouldn't feel obliged to write to all the new poor souls on the MC thread. I think the thing that worked for us ladies is that we were all in it at the same time and all muddled through it together and have now all bonded (I have had all your names tattooed on my back - did I tell you that?). And it will be lovely to include any new ladies who come on over, but I bet some of them will want to set up their very own thread (but I am pretty sure it won't be nearly as funny ). Or possibly as drunk and debauched.

Did you know, when I type Free I always end up singing 'Free, Nelson Mandela'? One of those things.

Cream I am always talking about snippets of stuff here, and I think RL friends think the m/c trauma has led me to invent imaginary friends. I don't bother to correct them . Am sorry you're not sure where you are with AF but am glad you had a lovely facial. Your treat next weekend sounds gorgeous. I must get me a groupon deal, they seem fab.

bll Cheesy chips are so good. Have you had chips and gravy yet? There is actually a canadian dish which is chips, gravy and cheese. Which is wrong in every imaginable way but sounds flipping yummy. Far more importantly, have you got your replacement GHDs yet? How is the frizz?

Shell Am sorry you have had a low day, it is still early days.. but lovely you are here and having (hormonally spiked) cocktails.

Mopey How are you doing, am sorry you got your AF but fx for next month.

I had a good hcg level after all yesterday, so great news. Would you all mind if I stuck around for a bit though? For a start i don't have another thread to go to [sob] and secondly, I would rather not bond with anyone else - there's no room for more tattoos. .

Big waves at IC, Mopey, ilb and LIG

xxxx

Really: have you been drinking? Tattoos? Who laced your drinks? Come here, pretty lady (snogs her on the mouth): let's hope some of your luck rubs off onto me! Hope I don't hear anything but good news re: your new lodger FX. May the next eight months be as boring as watching paint dry (amen). My dads well thanks. Missed you guys like mad. Honest. AF at heathrow? Wots it doing there? We flew from and back to Gatwick! That explains a lot! Nice to have you here honey bun. Just wish I could have met you gorgeous gals- you kept me sane when I thought my world was gonna crash around my ears. I luuuuurve you aaaall. Aaaam soooo thiiiirsty. Wot does a giiiiirl have to do to get a drink round here hic xxxxxx

Just to keep y'all up dated - my AF showed up this morning, but as of this eve seems to have stopped .

I'm okay - still holding out hope for full bleed soon -

BTW - i tried my moon cup, but think it's too big - so perhaps i'm gonna keep it as my new 'shots' glass .

REALLY - how's you todya?

& what 's this I hear about tatoos????

DIAMOND - there r plenty over here x

Cream, good lord, I do hope the Mr's and Ms's aren't on here. Am pretty sure the cervix gazing yesterday would have sent them over the edge!

Pixie, they're queueing up for On The Blob at the bar! It's truly delicious and hormone free!

Diamonds, you are a lifesaver. Have just been for dinner and couldn't really eat anything. Thought to myself I'd come on here and talk about virtual food to cheer me up and chilli wedges and potato skins are my dream food! Am going to add some deep fried mozarella followed by some lemon cheesecake and a knickerbocker glory.

Really, please stay around, otherwise I'll have to hunt for you on other threads to find out exactly how you're getting on. My Ante-natal group were nowhere near as nice as you guys.

Now who's ready to join me dancing on the tables?

diamond - i was talking about drinks - hic hic hic - there r plenty of drinks over here....

yes REALLY - pls stay - it woudn't be the same .

& Yes SHELL - I'm most definately up for dancing on tables .... now .

I'm glad the extra special m/n cocktail is going down well.

did I ever mention that I love this place?

Oh you're all lovely. Diamonds that was some snog . I am discreetly patting your bottom. If I was you I would be on the phone to BAA asking why your menstrual cycle was re-routed to Heathrow. Am so glad your dad is doing well.

Shell I had forgotten that Knickerbocker glory's existed. I shall have two. Do you remember banana splits? Oh the world of 80's puddings. We shall have to ask Free to sell them in her 80's bar along with the Mirage and the Taboo. My ante-natal group weren't up to much either . Anyway, I reckon I won't be alone for long - who will be next . Very exciting!

Pixie Oooh, check you Mrs Small Fanny and your too big mooncup. I had to fashion mine out of a ship funnel.

Can I have a virgin On the Blob Or can you invent a cocktail for me, maybe One for the lodger?

I hope Nelson Mandela is okay and having a good night in Brighton. Am trying to remember what she ate the other day after the pub, something to do with veg balls or something. Lord knows, but it sounded delicious.

We're going to have to do another RL meet up aren't we?

Pixie Is that you with your top off? You've got some moves!

X Post Really, ooh yes Banana Splits. And a Screwball from the Ice Cream van! And a Funny Feet. Can you tell I have a sweet tooth?!

I'm a London gal so definitely up for a RL meet up.

MRS SMALL FANNY here -

i bought the large one (mooncup)- as it says if u r over 30 - & I am -=

what i did not take in to account is.... well sorry I have to get graphic (i know you all luv it when that happens) - as I don't have a man - if you see what i mean.... so perhaps i should have got the little one... x

I feel a bit daft now - Mrs Little Fanny .

ANYWAY = yes its me over here - movin & shaking my stuff - Im encourageabubble x

nighty night folks - im off - think it's the world that is spinning??????

I think another RL meet up is a brill idea -

What's the deal with the mooncup? Is it supposed to help after MC / with conception or is it more the environmental aspect? Am sure you've talked about it earlier so a brief summary would be lovely.

Be proud of your Little Fanny Pixie!

Hi everyone

Hi diamonds - lovely to have you back. Glad your Dad is okay, and you had a fab holiday.

Great news really - I can't believe you were put through all that worry and stress because of an incompetent doctor.

I've been in Birmingham today for a training course - very tiring, but because I've been so busy I have managed to spend a day not worrying/thinking/wondering/musing what's going on with my ovaries, and it was nice to have a break from it all.

Came back to a lovely Victoria Sponge (with real cream!) baked by DH and DS2.

Is anyone else watching Eurovision? I thought I would tune in for a bit, its always good for a laugh

Yes Pixie it is me in Australia. I lived in London for 4 years and DS was born there, which is how I found MN and I've never been able to tear myself away. Fat chance now that I've found all you lot to talk to Free I am in Brisbane, not high on most people's list of places to visit in Australia - it is a big country after all - so I am impressed you have been here.

Really of course you must stay around, I would miss you too much if you bugger off somewhere else and we'll all have to start stalking you.

Now about the chips and cheese: sorry for the confusion - 4 years of living there and I'd already forgotten about the language confusion of chips/crisps between Aussies and the English. Yes, indeed, I had crisps with melted cheese. Nacho style, but they were not nacho-tortilla style crisps, they were just plain potato crisps (BBQ flavour actually, my absolute favourite and a flavour that I never did find in any UK brand crisps). Chips and gravy I have always loved, DH thinks it is revolting. But in my time in London I can't say I ever discovered that chips and cheese is such a quintessentially English pub food! Yeah, yeah, I can hear you saying "What now? She is a fraud! How can she claim to have lived here and not sampled this delicacy!" But before you banish me to an Aussie-style mumsnet forum, I hereby promise I will try it before I move to my detox spa phase. Do you melt the cheese on the chips or just sprinkle it over and wait for the cheese to melt anyway?

Oh, the topics that we end up with are amusing. I personally hate to think what DH would think if he read up on this!

Cream I am always finding myself telling people of something I read on MN. No one ever asks for details of this website that I say is so interesting, so they must just think I am a little strange.

Blue I am well impressed that someone is cooking you Victoria Sponge, isn't that quite hard? I've never attempted a sponge cake. DH has decided to cook roast chicken for our dinner tonight. Perfect comfort food for my hangover day.

Free has inspired me to do a mini-home facial and bath scrub later today.

Forgot to say a proper hiya to Shellshocked! Erm, what is a twister lolly?

(did ya get my not-so-subtle attempt there to use some lingo to convince you all that I really did live in the UK for a while? Anyone?)

Blimey, you've all been so decadent chatty - apologies in advance for not name-checking everyone...

MrIC does post on MN, but he tactfully stays off my support threads "so you can rant about me if you need to". He usually goes on the Feminism/Living Overseas boards with occasional forays into AIBU/In The News/Politics

Really, that's ace news wrt the hormone levels. The TH bus is well and truly on time thus far!!!

free I totally get what you say about "losing" friends to pg/kids etc. I was the same. Well, nearly. I was always excited and delighted for my fecund friends, not to mention fascinated with the changes they were experiencing. But yes, once the babies came into being, I kind of faded into the background once the initial cooing and gift-giving had been done. My choice as much as theirs - once people are parents, their priorities and lifestyle change so completely, I would feel as if we didn't have so much in common any more and the logistics of meeting up are always trickier. I feel bad about that, though. I should have made more effort. But now I'm a mum, I totally understand when the gaps grow between meet-ups with my child-free friends.

Oh pixie, oops about the Mooncup size! Can you exchange, do you think?

I forget who asked, but Mooncups aren't a post-mc thing, it just so happens I mentioned them upthread so a few more of the Ibiza crew have been giving them a try.
Basically, they're a money-saving, environmental, better-health choice of "sanitary protection". I hope that sums it up okay!

Mmm, chips and cheese! Or indeed, crisps and cheese bll...

IC's pg update:
Still no AF
Tummy still feeling funny.
End of IC's pg update.

Hi Immaculada! Please remind me again: when did you mc exactly? Am on phone...not easy to read back? Was it natural or ERPC? Are you 100% sure youre not pregnant? Sorry for having a memory like sieve. x

bll you were really convincing me that you are not a fraud - until - you asked what a twister lolly is This is a twister lolly

Twister

As for cheesy chips - personally I think the cheese has to be melted for the full effect. Some pubs don't do this and the chips struggle to fully melt it on their own. I've just eaten crumpets with melted cheese on - naughty start to the day.

Creamcracker: that's a delish start to the day. I'm tucking into a fry up ax I nurse a hangover. How are you this beautiful morning Hun?

Diamonds I mc'd back in March. It was a mmc, so had ERPC. I've had one AF since.
In fact, I'm 75% sure I am pg, but am leaving it until next week to test (too mean to buy a test if AF turns up after all - I'm only a few days late so far).

oooh, clearly I need to move back to UK to improve my culinary exposure!

that is very promising, FX for you (learned a new acronym from a bit upthread). The learning factor from this thread is truly unstoppable

IC. that's great news if u r pg honey (smile). Huge virtual hugs yr way.

REALLY. that's also gr8 about yr pg. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you guys. To answers yr question, bout ttc again: I'm terrified of a repeat of last time.
I guess u & IC & others who have gone through this more than once know.
I'm a bit sad that my whole pg experience will forever be tainted & daunting rather than fun.
I'm scared of both the change to my lifestyle & what 'kind of mum' I'm gonna be. My mother wasn't great & I'd hate to become a parent like her.
Most of my friends don't have children so -just like many others have said on here recently- my relationship WILL change with them. I'm scared then I won't have any friends left.
(Sorry this post is me me me).

ANYWAY...

A MOON-CUP is a re usable alternative to tampons. I'd never heard of it before m/n & was dreadfully excited once I'd found out about it - sad I can't use mine. It does come with a very pretty bag,tho.

Baby. R u sure u lived here??? (Grin)
HUGS & KISSES TO EVERYONE X (am on fone sorry not to name check.)
Have a lovely Sunday everyone x

Well, if I'm not pg, it must be IBS or something. But tied in with the AF no show (so far), I'm thinking our SWI was successful

Ah, pixie, I think it's a bit like falling in love after your heart's been broken. In the end, you decide to risk another heartbreak because the potential joy is worth it. Or you stay once-bitten-twice-shy for a while until you're either ready to expose yourself to the risk of another emotional rainstorm, or you give up altogether and decide life is on balance less painful as a nun/misanthropist/hermit/cheery singleton

Diamonds a fry up is the perfect hangover cure, followed throughout the day by crisps, toast and butter, crumpets and cheese, oh cheesy chips..... And everything and anything that's considered bad for you.

I'm fine today thank you diamonds I'm back at the computer writing an assignment posting on MN to avoid writing my assignment

FX for IC

Hello pixie I'm with you on the fear that the joy of prg will not be felt, instead it will be tainted with fear. I feel if I make it past the first 12 weeks next time that will be an achievement and hopefully I will relax a bit more.

BLL i hope your chompimg on cheesy (melted) chips as we speak!

MY AF still hasn't arrived, but I had a bfn yesterday (had to test before going to have treatment on my face which they won't do if your pg).