The virtual girls' holiday in Ibiza thread - moving on from mc with or without ttc but with plenty of wine and virtual all night dancing

[freelancegirl]

Ok ok I succumbed to peer pressure to create the thread. This is a place for some of us (and anyone else who wants to join) who have been through the downs of mc and are ready for brighter days and a place to chat nonsense away from the How Are You Feeling Post MC thread. The How Are You Feeling thread should still survive, especially for those newly going through the process, but here we can move on to hopefully brighter days.

Really (newly minted with a BFP and therefore the first of the group to be properly ttc) can kick us off with her no doubt filthy dalliance with a Geology student (was it?) in Crete and we can all pretend we are in a girls' holiday in Ibiza. Grab a glass of sparkly and plonk your (this is virtual so we can look exactly as we want to) toned bikini bodied bum on a bar stool! xx

I can't believe it - just got off the plane, flung on my polka dot bikini, ordered a sex on the beach (cocktail) and your all back in London! Well might just see if I can find some sexy greek geology student and do an entirely innappropriate dance whilst shouting 'igneous, sedimentary, metamorphic'. Oh and tell him I love rocks!

Soooo wish I could join you ladies in London on Thursday Just a bit to far for me for an evening. I hope the rest of us get a full run down of the evening and any juicy gossip/stories that are told.

Pixie that is shocking treatment!

Right where is that greek geology student (a different one to Reallys of course - I'm not into sloppy 2nds). Musn't forget my rocks.

If you can afford to invest in doing a decent TEFL course, I can recommend Madrid, pnjeff!

You're very kind LIG, (re bigotry) but I reckon ignorance is no excuse - I'm more inclined to the twats justification, personally
Will check on the other thread re your scan....

I'm getting a vicarious thrill out of these meet-up plans! Full report, please!

I'm still here, cream!

Oh Pixie, clearly I don't give two hoots. And yes, I agree with Free (I'm half Asian too!), there are some funny people out there with some funny views. We were in DH's parents village on the day of the royal wedding and one of the neighbour's said to FIL 'Oh yes, I'm a Royalist and I love a day like this. It really says up yours to the foreigners!'. Yes! That's what he said! I still have no idea what he meant, the old racist fart. Am kicking myself now for not saying something at the time.

LIG Oh, I am sorry the scan didn't go so well but am so glad you're coming on Thursday too. Can you not have a big sign saying 'The miscarriage group who met on Mumsnet'? I will be bringing mine .

I am happy to meet wherever, I am so excited I am being hopeless. This is the blind leading the blind -

I went to the bar at Festival Hall with seats outside but there are these two which might be fun to meet in:

ticketing.southbankcentre.co.uk/visitor-info/shop-eat-drink/restaurants/concrete

ticketing.southbankcentre.co.uk/visitor-info/shop-eat-drink/restaurants/concrete

But, am happy to do anywhere else... oh how fun!!

Big waves at everyone

I think whenever people say things we might find bigoted or prejudiced in anyway it's really hard to come back with a witty response as it's such a surprise! Up yours to the foreigners?! What the f*3k!

Well, Really and I know what each other look like so we only need to carry small placards and we do both have a touch of foreignness, coming into our country and stealing our jobs and women long dark hair.

It's funny meeting people you haven't met before. I visualise LIG as a classy blonde who has nice smooth hair and wears smart clothes. Pixie is of course small and dainty with a short crop (any colour) and pointy ears. Cream can't make it - can Mopey? I have forgotten. 6pm did you say Really? How exciting!

They are the same link Really (pg brain already...?) but Concrete sounds good. I can pm you all my number so we can call each other if lost, confused, can't read the placards.

Free I don't have long hair anymore! I cut it into a bob the day I got the bad news at the scan . I know, I know, what an immature reaction. But yes, we should recognise each other! LIG and Pixie and anyone who changes their minds - pm if you like and I email you pics.

Pixie Maybe the mners didn't get back to you after you pm'ed them because they were very, very disappointed to hear you weren't actually a pixie .

Hello - wondered if I might join you? Freelance- we met briefly on a Being Positive after MC thread, I do believe. I've been vaguely stalking you all dipping into the other thread and it seems like fun here!

I'll get my tedious MC story out of the way first. Lucky to already have a DS (are people avec enfant okay on this thread?! I know you're not racists or homophobes so you must be v nice and I promise not to bang on about potty training ever). Pregnant in January, bleeding at six weeks, horrible round of dildo cams and bloods etc., eventually told blighted ovum, ERPC. Called back three weeks later and told I'd had a complete molar pregnancy - made the mistake of Googling it, cacked myself (it's a freaky type of mc where 20% of people end up with a malignancy that needs chemo). Few more weeks of cacking myself but fortunately my results came back normal and have continued to do so. But I have to be monitored until end July and can't TTC until then which is teeth-grindingly awful (although obviously better than chemo so I count my blessings and all that).

Anyway, I am trying to be positive and look forward (sometimes don't succeed!) I don't really belong on the TTC threads - although everyone on there is very nice, I'm not at the frantic POAS stage (yet). And the WTTC threads are all full of lovely innocent people all anticipating trouble-free pregnancies (quite right too) and planning homebirths so don't think they want me rocking up with my EMCS scar and freaky mc medical condition!

You all seem right nice and fun but also understand that mcs, in all their glorious forms, are SHITE.

So, can I hang out? Can I? I'll watch your coats whilst you get off with the waiters/waitresses behind the pedalo shed if you let me. And if you don't let me, I'll wait until you've all gone out clubbing and come and pee in your pool.

Just popping by - just silly busy this week.
I'm liking the new thread - and so that I can't join in the meet up on Thursday. Hope you all have a lovely time and a good natter.

I'm sorry to hear you've had bad news LIG - will look up your other thread.

How are you feeling Really - has it sunk in yet?

I'm sorry you were treated like that Pixie - it makes no difference to me either, and I'm glad you trusted us enough to tell us.

How are you getting on with the TTC IC?

I bought some OPK's at the weekend - I've never used them before but thought I'd give them a go. I keep veering between the 'I want to be pregnant right now' and the 'hmmmm, should we leave it for a bit' frame of minds. I think it's an even bigger decision to make when you've had a MC as you know what you're letting yourself in for if it all goes wrong again.
There's an interesting sounding program on television on Thursday called Inside the Human body, all about conception and the events leading up to birth - I will be tuning in I think.

X post artifarti - course you can join in .
Its lovely to meet you. I'm sorry you've had such a crappy experience - it must be hard having to wait to TTC too.

I'm wearing this by the way

Welcome, arti!

I looked up molar pregnancies when I saw a thread (could it have been yours?) shortly after my own mc and you have my huge sympathy. What a bizarre and horrid situation to be in.

And there are quite a few DCs running around the thread already, (my DD being one!) so don't worry about that. Make yourself on holiday with us!

The TTC is certainly enjoyable, blue! I should know in a couple of weeks or so whether or not we've been successful this time round - I'll let you know!

Oooh, I like that!

Nice to meet you too.

X-posts IC. Nice to meet you. Good luck with the TTC! Yes, it probably was my freaky thread, don't think there are any others!

Welcome Artifarti, oh bloody hell, molar pregnancies sounds flipping terrifying. M/C are, as you say SHITE and molar pregnancies sound SHITER THAN SHITE. Am so sorry you went through that but am glad you have come out the other side and have a big bottle of Malibu to wade through.

I have 2 DC and some people on this and the other thread have 3, there's a real mixture. So don't worry. As long as you like nonsense and you have no right wing persuasions you'll fit right in. I have had 2 laparoscopies (camera's inserted in your stomach), one for an ectopic and one for a suspected ectopic - so a total of 6 small scars and an emcs scar too. I am considering having some sort of pubic topiary in an attempt to camouflage them . If anyone has any designs they would like to suggest, please put them forward now. There will be a prize for the winner.

ilb I think its sinking in, I am travelling hopefully. Having said that, I lost my Oyster Card today, so am travelling expensively and at the chagrin of alot of other passengers waiting for me to find some pound coins at the bottom of my bag. That programme sounds fab. We shall be out in London Town like, don't you know, but will watch it on i-player if it's about xxx

Aha - you are the updiffed one! Many congrats! (Ha, less competition for my Malibu). Yes, molars are shiter than shite but hey, what can you do?

Thank youArtifarti .

Off to order omelette and chips, not eating this foreign muck.

Greetings Arti I do indeed remember you. I didn't recognise you with your Hepburn shades on earlier on the sun bed but I was too busy sitting here sipping on my own Pina Colada (for some reason this pool side bar only seems to serve 1980s drinks - Taboo or Mirage anyone?). Glad you didn't need any scary treatment. When are you waiting for in terms of ttc? I am waiting for specialist appt based on high thyroid antibodies. You are most welcome here. No we are not racist or homophobic or indeed anti-dcs, although at times we have been ex-nazi nuns wielding golden tampons and wantonly drinking champagne from golden mooncups (although really has started sipping tea from a golden sperm :) ) As you can see we are not taking everything seriously (particularly now we are drunk and mostly dancing with bad men who are good dancers here in Ibiza) but of course there have been times when we have been miserable as hell. And probably still will be some of those times to come.

Talking of pubic topiary, I had mine lasered a few months ago! Leaving a strip though, rather than a Union Jack or a golden mooncup. It's great! And so much easier now I am perched on a barstool sporting a red bikini.

Blue I am very impressed with your retro cozzie. That programme on thurs sounds good - must remember to watch it. This is me just nipping down to the beach for a swim:

riveronmirror.wordpress.com/2008/07/31/bar-rafaeli-in-a-red-or-pink-bikini-st-tropez-alien-goddess/

I bought some OPKs too but have lost them somewhere in the debris and I guess I don't need to use them for a bit. It would be nice to work out my cycle, partic with ovulation, though so maybe I will.

Welcome arti your post really made me chuckle (the hol bits of course not the mc bits). I remember seeing your molar thread, what a horrible shock that must have been. Shortly after reading your thread I went in for an ERPC and I asked them what they did with the 'products' (as they call them) and they said nothing as it is my first (known) mc. However when I came round they said they had sent my products off to histology and without really knowing why I googled it then panicked. I called the hosp back when I was home to ask why they sent it off and they said it was to test for a molar pregnancy. However that was over 6 weeks now so I'm thinking no news is good news? Pleased to hear things are getting better for you now and you are on the road to recovery. Very pleased to have you hanging out with us here - especially as you will pee in our pool if not come bringing malibu.

Iloveblue loving the retro swimsuit, very classy. Free yours is hot hot hot

Hello IC

Really is Pixie not a real Pixie? The fact her partner is a lady is not an issue - but the fact she is possibly not a real pixie is! Please pixie come along and tell me this is not true?

Welcome artifarti please dont pee in our pool - come join the party instead.
All these foxy ladies - I do hope you will be wearing those bikinis for Thursday night.
Free thanks for asking, I'm based in Sussex so a bit far for an evening and Thursdays are also not good for me in terms of dc activities and not back till late.
Loving this new thread! Holidays suit us!

Cream I do hope you are not a pixie ist - I might not communicate again if I feel there might be prejudice to pixies!

Cream I don't think she is a pixie. It is upsetting but true. Next we'll find out you're not actually a square savoury biscuit with 'Jacob's' emblazoned across your chest.

Free Did you get your lady bits lasered? Wow! Details please. Where and when and how and did it hurt? Don't go coy on us, we know your lady bits pretty well these days .

Hi girls just gatherin the girls around a table by the pool to ask what the feck is goin on. I have cramping and headache has been around for the last few days! is AF on way? how long should it take?

arti welcome sorry to here about your experience but please grab your skimpiest bikini and a large drink because were heading out for a dance! What do you think ladies bar crawl?

Eeek, it seems I have scared a whole generation of mc-ing ladies with my freaky molar thread...sorry about that...rest assured creamcracker it is very rare (and therefore I am very special.)

Thanks for the welcomes, all.

Freelance - I have to send my pee off in the post once a month in a radioactive envelope to Charing X Hospital (oh, the glamour). My last sample is 6 months from ERPC, so that makes 29 July. If my HCG levels are still normal, they release me back into the wild to rut with intent to my heart's content. Most people don't actually wait that long as the risk of reoccurence is so small but I am a chicken; it is something I internally wrestle with a lot so prepare for me to bore on about it incessantly for the next three months. Do you know how long it will be before your appointment?

Okay, I promise not to pee in the pool (although last time I got seriously drunk on holiday pre-DS I did have to pee behind a parked car. And it was somewhere quite classy so I carry the shame with me always)

Mopey no I'm not a Pixie-ist - I love Pixie's and my fantasy has just been shattered.

Really although I'm not a real creamcracker I am indeed Crackers!

pnj Oh it might be, honey. Are you doing okay?

Arti Do you ever wonder how you have got to the stage where you would a. Be posting your wee? and b. Sending it in a radioactive envelope? What is the postage on your average sized wee sample in a radioactive envelope these days? I must look it up on the Royal Mail website.