Flatness, cba ness, boredom

[Fififizz]

Just posting about this which is/has been one of my main menopause symptoms and maybe just part of ageing and the change. I just can’t be bothered with anything much the mundane life stuff especially but also the things I used to enjoy like music, fashion, food. It all seems ‘meh’ and a bit pointless. I’m on HRT but have been tweaking the regime and dose for the last 5 years and still don’t feel that great. Can anyone else relate? Any tips or solutions? I have hypothyroidism but that’s now successfully medicated. The cba ness is a drag though. Thanks

This is so true. I often spot a woman my age wearing something really interesting or quirky and Incan feel myself perk up a bit!

Sounds good!

I take progesterone as part of my HRT. It’s helped with my middle of the night panic and racing thoughts but my sleep is still not great.

I am the same @MoonWoman69 I can’t even blame my cba’ness, flatness or boredom on the menopause as like you I am well through it. I am glad you started this thread OP. I hope you don’t mind an oldie in your club. I have been feeling totally useless lately. I am trying to oversee renovations to our new house. I know they have to be done but I just don’t really care anymore. I am thinking of having ‘no problem’ tattooed on my forehead as that’s all I seem to say to arsey tradesmen to smooth things over with them. Inside my head I am screaming ‘just fuck off’! I have been diagnosed with low Vitamin D but so far no change with supplements. I get weary just trying to work out what it is I really want from the rest of my life. I try to think of others worse off than me. Thanks @BitOutOfPractice for the laugh about the Damart 😂.

Totally get that. I do a class at local Adult Ed and it is v motivating. Didn't do ANY during the summer. Am thinking of trying for the Royal Academy Summer Exhibition ( after going last year and seeing how low the standard was ), but don't know if I will be able to summon the energy...

@Delatron
Same - I can't even drink wine anymore unless I want to feel rough for a couple of days. I used to love a glass of red 🙁.

Also, I keep trying to count my blessings and feel gratitude ( which is actually helpful ), but again, cba!😂

I’m trying to come to terms with this but boy I used to love putting the world to rights over a few glasses of wine with friends.

It’s just all the things you could rely on for pleasure you can’t do anymore. I am crap at art so can’t even do painting! I think coffee is my only vice now - and I can only have one or two in the morning.

I cba to respond to this thread but forcing myself as I so relate to this.

I actually find vit D really helps. I’ve started using a spray .

When I can’t sleep I use an app called A Soft Murmur which is free . I play wave and rain sounds . It hardly ever fails. I also have an oil diffuser with coloured lights that I set to whatever colour I fancy and leave it on all night. I don’t use it as a diffuser . That helps too .

How do you find it otherwise @Delatron and @DancingNotDrowning ? I have progesterone which I only take when I’m having a hideously heavy period (at 57 😩), prescribed to take it for up to four days.

I gain about 7-8lbs in weight when I take it, literally overnight. Makes me really sluggish.

I could also have written This word for word . Not depressed but totally lacking any sparkle. I am eating well, exercising , not overweight etc but still feel flat all the time. Glad its not just me

I can relate . I would happily live my life now on the sofa in front of Netflix . I used to be so engaged and motivated but now life seems drifting by aimlessly

Oh god, yes, the cooking. I was such a keen home cook and now sometimes we have ready meals. Feels like my oomph has just… evaporated.

I’d be interested to know how old everyone is.

57 but it’s been getting worse since 50, still have periods.

Can anyone say if it gets better. Is there light at the end of the tunnel?

I was wondering that @MSLRT , or if anyone has found a ‘cure’.

My mother would say (late 80s), we just got on with it in our day, etc. My mother didn’t have to work past 40, I think I’d have more energy for life if I didn’t get up at 6am all week, home for 6:30pm.

I am 55 and (I think, but have a Mirena) am 3 months without a cycle. I relate to very nearly all of this. I have just made a terrible job decision, which has impacted on the quality of my life in a big way, but I am married to a lovely man, who is kind and gentle, so I am trying to stay on the tracks. Tis a joyless time, though.

@FaceLikeACrackedScreen I’m getting on well with it. But it seems like I had my last period in June so I do think my progesterone levels were very low. It seems to calm my mind and my mood is more stable (though that could also be my estradot patch).

I take it every night as no periods. So the 100 mg pill.

It’s so different how we all respond!. I do know lots of people don’t get on well with it. I hope everything settles down for you.

I’m 48.

My Mum had the most awful time in peri and menopause. She went through early menopause at 40. Doctors didn’t believe her and she had to fight for HRT. She was (bless her) a nightmare for years. My Dad is quite traumatised 😂.

Anyway I joke that now she has more energy than me at 73. She seemed much better from later 50s early 60s. She sleeps better etc. She is definitely motivated and is always on the go.

I think (I hope) once hormones settle down things improve. It may just take time.

Good to know!

I think things can get 'better' but it's a different kind of better. I'll never go back to nights out, shopping, making an effort, being ambitious, having boundless energy, lusty romances, flirting, luscious hair, the bloom of youth etc. I'll never have young knees or leap out of a chair without groaning but I have started to accept that I'm in a new stage of life, to appreciate the peace and quiet and lack of drama, to enjoy simple pleasures, to try and live in the here and now. It's tough but life does go on.