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I'm 50 and I got this yesterday...

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nobodysdaughternow · 05/10/2023 08:31

I think it might be a raise in HCG because I'm perimenopausal?

I know it won't be leading to anything, but I just wondered if I should see my GP?

I have had a few miscarriages in the past and I'd rather know what to expect I.e early miscarriage or nuts perimenopause symptoms Grin

I did both tests yesterday evening - they are the 6 days early type.

I could smell a weird smell on myself all day which made me think I should test.

I think I need HRT, I can't go through the next few months feeling pregnant.and smelling weird.

I'm 50 and I got this yesterday...
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JadeandGreen · 10/10/2023 00:35

I am so sorry about your son.

Hope you get the result you want Flowers

momtoboys · 10/10/2023 00:43

Oh, OP. I am so sorry for what you are going through with your son. Please keep us updated. There are really wonderful supportive people on Mumsnet (and some are dreadful! 🤣)

Spencer0220 · 10/10/2023 04:41

MabelMaybe · 09/10/2023 16:20

@BBno4 your menopause is a one-off point when you haven't had a period for 12 months. When you're peri-menopausal, you still have periods and get pregnant, although your chance of a successful pregnancy reduces over time.

My friend at 43 assumed perimenopause. She wasn't.

Healthy baby girl last summer

Uggghhhh · 10/10/2023 06:24

That’s so sad about your middle son, it must be unbearable.

CantMoveCatOnMyLap · 10/10/2023 07:33

All the grandmas/ great grandmas having babies at 49/50…. In many cases there was likely a teenage daughter looking a bit plump for a while 😉

Best wishes OP, I’m glad it’s giving you a distraction at this difficult time.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 10/10/2023 07:41

Big hugs to you OP x

VerityUnreasonble · 10/10/2023 10:43

So much love to you and your family OP. Your care and grief for your son shines through your post. I am glad he has you as his Mum.

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nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 12:00

Uggghhhh · 10/10/2023 06:24

That’s so sad about your middle son, it must be unbearable.

That is how it feels, truly. I feel like I am dying too. I am extremely lucky to have two other sons to care for, but every child is a part of our fabric.

I did another CB this morning and the line is the same, maybe a bit darker. I have ordered a FRER online - they are 7ml sensitivity, CB are 10ml and the majority of other tests are 20ml.

I am (I think) 10 dpo. By my reckoning, if I do a standard, non-sensitive test by

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nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 12:04

Posted too soon - if I test at 14 dpo with a standard test (not extra sensitive) and I don't get a strong line, then I will know it's not going to take.

Weirdly, just knowing I might have this tiny flicker of life is helping me. I was feeling a huge urge to self-destruct but this gives me a reason to take care of myself, which I so needed.

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BigBillyButterBollocks · 10/10/2023 12:05

Can't you do a blood test and stop the mental torture? I don't get why your doctor didn't offer tbh.

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nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 15:26

BigBillyButterBollocks · 10/10/2023 12:05

Can't you do a blood test and stop the mental torture? I don't get why your doctor didn't offer tbh.

I hoped he'd refer me to the early pregnancy unit so I could have an assessment (blood test) but he didn't.

He had a poker face so I couldn't tell what he was thinking.

I can't advocate for myself with HCPs any more. I have lost all faith in the NHS. I begged for my ds to see a paediatrician for three plus years and got nowhere. It wouldn't have changed his illness because it's genetic and degenerative, but it would have given me longer to get a level access bedroom and bathroom before he became acutely ill.

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BigBillyButterBollocks · 10/10/2023 15:35

nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 15:26

I hoped he'd refer me to the early pregnancy unit so I could have an assessment (blood test) but he didn't.

He had a poker face so I couldn't tell what he was thinking.

I can't advocate for myself with HCPs any more. I have lost all faith in the NHS. I begged for my ds to see a paediatrician for three plus years and got nowhere. It wouldn't have changed his illness because it's genetic and degenerative, but it would have given me longer to get a level access bedroom and bathroom before he became acutely ill.

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That's a shame. It must be sos tressful for you.

Can you afford to pay for it privately?

WhichOfThePickwickTripletsDidIt · 10/10/2023 15:35

Oh OP Flowers

TokyoSushi · 10/10/2023 15:38

Sending strength OP, hope you're ok.

turtle8919 · 10/10/2023 15:57

Are you able to post a picture of your latest test? I don't mean to be cruel and dash any hopes. But those really look like Evap lines to me. Blue dye tests are notorious for them. However I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you x

CharlotteBog · 10/10/2023 16:05

turtle8919 · 10/10/2023 15:57

Are you able to post a picture of your latest test? I don't mean to be cruel and dash any hopes. But those really look like Evap lines to me. Blue dye tests are notorious for them. However I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you x

Can you get evaporation lines even within the testing time frame?

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nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 16:13

I have had a line on 4 CB years so far.
I have ordered FRERs to come by Friday.

I am genuinely ok if it's nothing. I am finding it a comforting distraction. I have had three miscarriages - I got to the 3 month scan with one only to find there was no HB. It helps keep me in check.

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nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 16:15

Also, I know it's not the point of the thread but I have felt so isolated recently that having MN company and kindness is so appreciated.

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HeadAgainstWall0923 · 10/10/2023 16:18

I’m so sorry to hear about your son OP and I hope you get the outcome you want with these lines 💐

Spencer0220 · 10/10/2023 16:21

nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 16:15

Also, I know it's not the point of the thread but I have felt so isolated recently that having MN company and kindness is so appreciated.

Big hugs

Foreveristoolong · 10/10/2023 16:27

Those CB tests are horrible. Every single one I’ve ever done has had an evap line they shouldn’t be allowed to sell them

nopenotplaying · 10/10/2023 16:38

I believe the digital clear blue are more reliable if you want to do one of them before the frer arrive x

TheShellBeach · 10/10/2023 17:54

nobodysdaughternow · 10/10/2023 16:13

I have had a line on 4 CB years so far.
I have ordered FRERs to come by Friday.

I am genuinely ok if it's nothing. I am finding it a comforting distraction. I have had three miscarriages - I got to the 3 month scan with one only to find there was no HB. It helps keep me in check.

Aw OP that happened to us, twice. It's so sad.

You seem to have your feet on the ground. All the best with whatever happens.

JuneFromBethesda · 10/10/2023 18:02

Sending love OP, whatever the outcome ❤️

Coffeeandcrocs · 10/10/2023 19:37

You can pay for a private HCG test op x