*****@@*****BERRIE, BINKLE, OGGS, LYRA AND ZEB - THE ALL NEW SOON-TO-BE-REALISED LONDON THEATRE MEET-UP THREAD*****@@*****

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Here we are!!

She knows that mummy takes grandma to the hospital but that has become such a regular thing (weekly)that I think it has just become something that we do with no real relevance attached to it IYSWIM. She doesnt know why we go - even that mum is ill, its just something we do.

I have been spying on her today at lunchtime in the playground Parked up in the cul-de-sac next to the school so she wouldnt see - she seemed fine at lunchtime with her friends - not sat on the 'sad bench' thankfully (they are supposed to sit on there if no-one will play and the rest of the children are supposed to make an effort to include children sat on the sad bench)

Am suprised I didnt get arrested - was being regarded as if I was some kind of stalker - which I was I suppose But you know how you just need to see for yourself?

thanks so much for bumping my thread up Oggs and Lyra

Feeling a bit more positive about stuff now - did bit of kickboxing at the gym and got some of the tension out - have been desperately trying but am fighting a losing battle to un-earth my collarbones before our meet-up but there you go! Will have to use my st. tropez training to shade them in

and thank you Oggs, for the links

I'm loving the new title.

Hey Binkle, I'm sorry you're having such a tough time of it. I don't have any experience of this, so all I can offer is a big hug and I'm sure it's just a phase, isn't it? Poor lamb.

Berrie, it's bad news about your back. Again, all I can recommend is DH's solution for his, which is basically a bucket of brandy and far too many cigars, topped off with nurofen. I'm not sure it works, but he's unconscious so is beyond caring, and I just plan how I'll spend my rich Merry Widow-hood with dark tousle-haired toyboys.

Back on the subject of our Big Night. £8.50's nothing - check out the price of cocktails at the American Bar of the Savoy. Don't worry, there's a few dodgy pubs and bars around there as well, like Lyra says.

Just for interest, I wondered if anyone else had done the Myers Briggs personality test? I was looking at this again last week because of the job interview (I did it a few years ago), and thought we could sort out the pyschopaths amongst us before we get together! There's a quick one here or a more detailed one with a much better description here.
I'm an INFJ, which means I'm apparently a 'gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individual'. Get me . For some reason, my bet is I may not be alone here.

I'm an INTP, apparently, but I'm not sure it's entirely accurate as I was not confident about one answer.

ESTP...which really is not how I see myself at all but in a profesional context I guess I am....Mmm need to give this some thought....interesting Zeb.

People of this type tend to be: active, adventurous, and impulsive; talkative and curious; casual, adaptive, and free spirited; logical and calm but capable of great humor, fun, and charm; observant and totally present in the moment, literal and practical.

The most important thing to ESTPs is the freedom to have fun and to fully experience life in the here and now.

I am certainly not like this socially at all but I am at work

I'm reserved socially.

In the classroom and amongst colleagues I am comfortable enough to be...er...silly?

The worst adjectives for me there are adventurerous, talkative and curious...not me at all.
Sorry thinking aloud...very dull for you

I'm ENFP - I'd say it is pretty accurate apart from the fact that I rarely run late - punctuality is really important to me.

I am an extrovert, intuitive, feeling perceiver who has had a couple of wines with her dinner as is seriously looking forward to meeting you all!! (quite giddy as you can probably tell! Seeing dd all happy at lunch has given me such a boost - I feel really happy now )

Oh, that's good Binkle. I'm glad you and dd are feeling better.

I hate being late too Binkle which is good news for the week after next!

cant believe this time in two weeks we will be half way through the show

Yikes!

I'm an ISFP apparently... (Introvert, Sensor, Feeler, Perceiver)
"People of this type tend to be: kind, humble, and highly empathetic; thoughtful, faithful, and affectionate with those they know well; sensitive to criticism and easily hurt; quiet, soft-spoken, and gentle; adaptable, responsive, and curious; realistic and down to earth.

The most important thing to ISFPs is feeling peaceful and harmonious with the people and places that matter most to them."

A bit drippy then...

Binkle, so glad you're feeling a bit better about dd. We went through a stage w/ dd when she seemed soo unhappy at school and came home with stories of being left out, ignored, teased etc. We discussed it with staff and also saw for ourselves that actually she gave as good as she got, and spent playtimes tearing around with all the others (all 7 of them ).
I do wonder how different things would be if she had a brother or sister...

tbh Oggs, I do think about her being an only child a lot too. She clearly sees us and her as a little unit that must stick together at all costs.

Dh is constantly nagging about having another (completely ignoring the fact that I have already had two mc's since having dd ) I'm not emotional about the mc's but perhaps physically I am only supposed to have one so I can do without the pressure. Also, she is who she is already so having a sibling at this stage

I think would be great for the new one with a big sister but wouldnt really help her - in fact I would be concerned that she would probably give herself someone else to worry over without experiencing the benefits of having a younger sibling IYSWIM.

Truthfully, I cant work out for myself what the benefits to her are as I am the youngest and was a right PITA by all accounts if my sister/brothers are to be believed...cant believe it myself

where is everyone tonight? I feel all giddy and chatty and I've got no-one to talk to

Ooo sorry you didn't have anyone to talk to Binkle.
Hope you don't think I'm going to be like that description...might do the longer one to compare

Morning Berrie, oh was slightly drunk last night - resorted to haranguing my friends by text when no-one would play with me here

Found at this morning that I agreed to go on a ski-ing holiday last night (I dont do ski-ing - did it once, never again!!)

The wine led to champagne (not in the bath lol) and that in turn has led to me feeling very hot, headachey and sorry for myself this morning - but at least dd went into school fine so every cloud....etc

Oh dear, what a bunch of winos we are!

Well I am stuck on the sofa, have just changed dd's nappy on my stomach! I am just relieved that I don't have to go anywhere today. The kids can stay in their PJ's all day as far as I am concerned. I am feeling very sorry for myself tbh. Dh wants me to ring the local osteopath but am a bit too depressed to be so proactive I'm afraid. I am feeling peeved that no one is offering to come and help...they always say afterwards, oh you should have asked...and I know I should just ring but I can't help feeling that, as they know I am struggling, they should just offer...it's easy to say I should ask afterwards. My Dad rang yesterday and I was about to go and get DS from Preschool. He said you should have rung me, I'd have gone but then didn't offer to come and help that afternoon or ask if there was anything he could do today. My Mum will probably ring this afternoon but by then I'll have struggled throught the morning and making lunch and it'll only be an hour or 2 before DH comes home...I'm being sulky aren't I...rant over

Berrie, ring your mum and ask for help. There's no point struggling on your own when help is available. They probably just haven't thought to offer.
Go on, do it now. That's an order

She won't be up until after 11, there's no point.
I know you're right but any sign of reluctance when I ask from my Mum or Dad would really upset me when I'm feeling so low. I don't want to risk this low patch spiralling even further down. I'd start obsessing in the middle of the night that they didn't help because they don't love me and they don't love me because I'm such a horrible person...blah, blah blah... I know it's just silly but that doesn't seem to help. Still it might be preferable to the dreams This is a fairly recent development for me, violent, distressing sometimes gory dreams. Last night I was finding dead bodies on the beach, then some children I was looking after fell down a mountain, then I ran over a motorcyclist.

I think the latter came from rolling down the hill in the car towards the neighbours car last night. For a moment I panicked and couldn't work out what to do...I yanked on the handbrake with mm's to spare. I am not going to have that new pill until tonight...it seemed to make me a bit fuzzy...that's my excuse anyway.

Apologies for all the self pity. I am not like this all the time.

Big hugs to you Berrie. I wish I could do something to help. I really hope you're going to be ok for our meet-up. It wouldn't be the same if you missed it.
Funny you should mention odd dreams. I dreamt I was trying to conceal a dead body the other night. Weird.

Thanks Lyra. I'm ok.

Mum just rang...see she's just got up! She's coming to make the kids lunch.

Oggs, thanks for the disc! Tee Hee, I like the cover. I'm having a good day for parcels today. Your disc, I got some fruit bushes for the allotment and my mobile should come today too tee hee. I have been surfing for a new handbag but that is very very naughty as we are well into the overdraft so I've stopped. (The mobile was partly Christmas present money and partly me buying it because dh can't take a big big hint.)