West London (rest of) Sept 2007 thread

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For when the August thread runs out.

having been through several years of fertility treatment I am an expert in ovulation if you want to ask (though patently obviously only in theory which may put you off )

cov - foxie did come out with some crazy baby talk the other day but it was beaten out of her the sticks are for me

foxie yes please will take that book

But she posted this !

By foxensteinscreature on Mon 08-Oct-07 21:10:23
sfx - i just peed on stick .

I'm picking dd up on Saturday so really can't come Saturday night I'm afraid. Hope you feel better soon CoV. I couldn't believe the sun came out just when dd was having tea and bedtime was in sight yesterday!

SFX, haven't checked the sell by date on those OV predictors yet but I will. I used a website called www.mymonthlycycles.com to figure out my cycle as I had no clue about these things!

I don't think they're 100% accurate tho as dd was conceived the day before I ovulated according to the kit. Altho, that's perhaps why she turned out to be a girl as I think the female sperm live longer than the male don't they?

Foxie, I've had tenants who've done a bunk with the rent unpaid in lieu of the bond. Doesn't help much when you have to spend the majority of the bond fixing up the mess they've left tho

I really will be happy to be shot of my flat as the managing of tenants is a proper headache.

So, I bunged a bunch of washing in and now it looks like it's going to rain again.

Re: dd going away. Yes it does make it worse that she is over an hour's drive away. I don't feel especially guilty about her going but I do feel a bit lost and abandoned when she's not here. Seem to have shed the ability to do nothing and veg out these days!

KC thanks for some reason when reading about it I used to get anxious talking is better. once again into the fray I think

foxie - meant to say about dd I hope she feels better soon but given that she hit her head I would take her to GP or even the hospital if nothing else to set mind at rest. but I am paranoid.

cov - hope you feel better soon

I hope that was the last of the rain for today

CoV - Did I really post that? I must have been very tired - deffo haven't peed on any sticks since June 2006 - and even then I had forgoten to take the cover off so it came out blank even though I was ovulating

sfx - the only reliable sign of ovulation is egg white type mucous (no good counting days/temperature/pains etc as they can vary or be for other reasons)- anyway will try and remember to bring that book - actually remind me when you come here on Saturday. It was my bible for two of my conceptions - I was very anxious the third time as I had MC'd and found myself studying that book for hours - some ages are loose as I read them so often - worked though

Actually I may be PG (not really!!)HaaaaHaharrrggghhh!!

Talking of big families- anyone seen Bubble? I think she originally said she would come out to play on Saturday!

I have had no reply from nanou - anyone else heard from her?

foxie the egg white thing was our guide and I really thought we had a chance this months for a number of reasons, and it is still not out of the question - she said clinging on to a shred of hope
and MC yes ever present fear, conception is just the passport to knickers chequers anonymous club

so is it Nanou's birthday today?

sfx the month we conceived Ds2 was the month I forgot to take the cover of the predictor stick. So basically I thought I hadn't ovulated and forgot about it. Did't even bother to look for egg white.

I put that conception down to:

a - having lost weight/got mself fitter
b - no longer caring that month as I thought I hadn't ovulated

I was so convinced I hadn't ovulated I then spent the next few weeks doing all the things you ae no supposed to do while the egg imants:

trampolining
loads of excercise - running, huge long walk etc

I went for a 9 mile speed walk with my friend along the river and kept feeling dizzy and exhausted. She said "I bet you are PG". I said "nooo, nooo, noo"!

I think anxiety about the whole thing can make it less likely to happen.

My friend took 6 yrs of constant trying - she has a lovely baby daughter now, same age as DS2. Her cycles had been so irregular she had no idea when she ovulated.

If your body's cycles are regular that is a huge plus in your favour.

My cycles are like clockwork, literally I write in my diary ahead when AF is due and its always spot on! Also handy as I know when to keep dh away from me

Sfx - have my fingers crossed for you!

I'm getting a bit worried that I'm the only one who loves it when dh takes ds off to gps, I veg out to my heart's content! Of course, I do miss him but I always know what to do with myself!

I'm like that too Ros. Actually when I first read your post I wondered why you where so happy about him taking ds to the doctors (dur).

I did loose a bit of weight which helps but i find it harder exercising in winter as i like running outdoors, but it is getting darker at my preferred time

dd&dh like spending time together which I use to do my thing, they are usually out for a good 5hrs.mind you have still not spent a night away from her

I think its differnt when they are with a DP. Its something you are much more used to.

absolutely it is for me, I still will not let anyone else out with dd. my sister and niece babysit here but that's it, at a push the one with kids could go out with her but no one else.

still have to go out just wish dd was in less of a shouty mood which seems to be the thing this week

my mum is the closest to that but though my mum is brilliant I don't feel she is responsible for DS in the same way I am, so even when she babysits (about once a month) I still feel responsible IYSWIM, with a DP I'm sure you hand the responsibility over when they take DC's so you can mentally switch off from it.

I'm not complaining btw was just trying to explain why Paddle and I find it harder to switch off when DC's are not with us. It's not that you are abnormal Ros, its just that you are handing over to a DP who has an equal responsibility to you.

actually I also think it is complicated by working. I feel a responsibility to be with DS as much as possible when I'm not working. I had so many commetns before I adopted from people saying "whats the point in adopting if you are going to work?". Not that I padi that much attention but I do feel that I ned to be with him when I'm not working (and obviously want to be!)

Did people actually say that Kew?

sfx, I too have my fingers crossed and positive vibes been sent to you! My very unscientific and urban myth-y pieces of advice would be; 1) to keep warm around tummy area, 2) hold a new born baby. Sounds stupid, I know but worked for me!

yes Cov - more than once. Also got "how selfish" though not to my face but to my mum!

QC, sorry x-posted, didn't mean to ignore you.

agree Kew on both counts.

to be fair, i trust my mum completely with dd and know that she is cared for and loved just as well adn as much as when she is with me. in fact, my mum is the only person I would leave dd with overnight or at all (excepting my CM) and that includes her father! but there is still that element of being so very far away from her.

anyways, shutting up on that one now as GPs have just left to collect dd from CM and I am feeling stupidly upset at the prospect of not seeing her this evening.

am amusing myself with a visual of SFX hunting down a newborn to cuddle!

seems the "do" being cancelled is a good thing as I honestly think I am experiencing my first migraine. head is utterly thumping and i feel quite sick....

its tension headache Paddle - they can be very migraine like I used to terrible 2/3 day ones. Go get some Syndol asap and dose up (even though it is more expensive than paracetamol) it does work.

er, how do they expect you to pay the mortgage and support ds then kew?
never fails to amaze me how some people feel free to give their unasked for opinions.

if i'm 'out of context" i don't miss the dcs as much. ie; on the rare occasion dh and i have stayed overnight at a hotel.
but if i'm at home and they're away, i tell myself it's a great opportunity to get "stuff done."
intstead, i moon around looking at their empty beds, missing them desperately.

gotta say, nice to get the chance to miss them

but interesting, kew and paddle, about feeling different as not handing them over to a dp.

Kew, that's actually a fair point that I hadn't considered, you're probably right.

Paddle - hope you feel better soon. Have you taken anything for it? I hope its not been caused by Bringing up Baby!

Speaking of newborns, my next door neighbour has had her baby, a gorgeous little girl. I saw her this morning and my neighbour was commenting on how nobody ever tells you how tired you'd be!