WEST LONDON MEET-UP THREAD - JANUARY 2007 - from Acton to Sunbury everybody welcome

[MrsBigD]

Time for a new general chat thread

HAPPY NEW YEAR

sfx - give paddle or I a shout if you are around today and want to meet up, as your DH is working

morning

dunno how good company i would be today to be honest - definately got the blues!

mrsb, when's a good time to call you today - i know you're busy! need to organise a day/time for that portrait. Ma's birthday is 1st Feb - eek!

thanks for the advice on depression. i know it's only been 2.5 weeks really but it was more what his dr said in relation to the balance in our relationship of carer and needy and the needy person feeling smothered so withdrawing.

that has actually made me feel like complete shit............

Paddle I don't think you are smothering him at all, although I do think he is withdrawing from any stuff he can't cope with atm. It must be a very difficult balance to strike: being there but not being there so to speak.

Also he has a young child as well, so can't completely withdraw. The drugs are still in there early days aren't they, so it will get better...

I remember massive feelings of rejection from our Mum when she was depressed; she used to push us away all the time and clearly didn't want us around her at times. She still does that in fact and its completely unpredictable. One day its all loving and normal - next she treats people as though they have the plague or something and its very upsetting and hurtful. In fact learning a teeny bit from you about your DH's illness has helped me understand my Mum a bit more TBH. Sorry, that's totally selfish isn't it.

It might do you good to get out later and see other people, so give us a shout if you fancy it. A couple of hours not thinking about DH must be good for you

morning

oh paddle just because he feels that way does mean that is how it really is, it is his perspective. the thing is his issues must be long standing and he did fall into a dynamic with you which he was comfortable with. maybe you did too and now it is an issue for him because he is working through his stuff.
please don't isolate yourself just because you feel sad unless, of course you really want to be alone.
and like foxie says let the drugs kick in at least it is easier to talk then. sorry it really is such hard going

thanks foxie.

it's not selfish, i'm glad that you're able to get some understanding about your mum from this and hearing about other peoples' experiences help me to keep things in perspective. i appreciate it when people share their experiences with me.

it's hard not to take anything too personally in this situation so a comment like that can go straight to the heart.

i agree, i don't think i am smothering him at all. if i was i'd be driving over there and camping out till he bloody spoke to me LOL! maybe i do when he is here tho.

i alwasy thought needy people were demanding and clingy, not mono-syllabic and living with there mummy LOL

the book is proving a real insight i have to say and i recognise certain behaviours we both exhibit for sure.

on the up side, dd slept 7 - 7 and is currently getting down to some funky tunes on the radio in the kitchen.

god love her!

will deffo take a stroll over to Richmond later, will see how the rest of the day pans out.

btw, really sorry to hear about your mortgage woes. did you want my "pet" IFA's number? worrying about dh's job too, hope things work out better on that front.

sfx, thanks

i really need to be more organised about weekends - i should know by now that they are the hardest!

will expend some effort today on making some plans for tomorrow!

on a lighter note check this out

was somewhat intrigued by what a beauty horoscope might betoday thou must wear red lippy...and you shall meet the man of your dreams

btw my dd told me she had had enough yesterday while i was trying to brush her hair

pmsl, apparently i need to spend more time on fewer tasks in the make up stakes!

so that means I should spend even more time NOT putting anything on my face but moisturisor LOL.

dd is very expressive despite only having a couple of words - i am somewhat apprehensive of the day when she will be able to really verbalise!

i can hear it now "NOW MUMMY!" "I WANT IT" "DO IT" "GIMME GIMME"

Apparently, I'm very shy today according to my horoscope. Not sure if that's quite right. I don't think I'm ever shy

LOL! at the horoscopes

Paddle will text you about meeting later

SFX I'm home till about 14:35 then have to go to kiddies party. Should be back by 17:30. Feel free to call whenever ;)

My beauty horoscope :
You're more than meets the eye and your outfit should be too. A flirty cami under your sweater or some deliciously scented body lotion, for example, will make you feel extra put together, even if no one can tell why.

Sorry no time for flity cami's LOL

BTW can somebody tell me which sign 7 September is? shame on me no idea what ds is LOL

Virgo - I'm one too!

Apparently I'm in an indecisive mood today!!

We're off to look at some wallbeds in Chiswick (dh's idea, I didn't think anyone still had wallbeds!).

Paddle - sorry to hear things have gone bad again, you know I'm around if you need anything.

Hope everyone else has a good day and catch up with you later!

mrsBig i think it was pc who wanted to talk to you about something or other but of course we can always chat

dd down for nap so i am going to try and start the essay thing it only has to be sent first thing on monday

my crappy freezer, the door seems to have been left open and i found some thawed stuff, gutted the thing was full don't have the heart to look further

Love the horoscopes! Checked out DD's, apparentely she's not to be wilful nor stubborn (I wish!)

No rest for the wicked. Got DH's family coming round for dinner later so have to go and do some cleaning. Also promised to bake a cake so will have to drag out my trusty Delia cookbook.

Btw, what's a wallbed?

Sfx, poor you! Its a right pain when that happens.

it appears not to be as bad as i first feared

snowmum is your LO a gemini/ thought it said something similar for mine bday 2/06

It's one of those beds that are stored upright like a cupboard and then pulled down when needed. Very expensive though as we found out today!

Nanou

Thanks for your hospitality earlier, DS and DD had a great time. When we got home I made them a healthy plate of chips, followed by the remainder of the cakes!!

They're both going on a diet tomorrow

Paddle - we missed you today [big hugs]. Am around tomorrow if you fancy a cuppa

BTW has everyone now seen that Sue is hoping to return on Saturday 20? - next week!!

Pudding, oooooh! I didn't realise those beds were still being made, thought it was a 60's thing. D'oh!

Sfx, yes my DD is a gemini born 08/06.

Puds I didn't know those beds still existed either. I'm old enough to remember the adverts for them when they first came out - they were associated with trendy young batchelor appartments

How much do they cost - you said they are expensive?

hello

when i think of those beds i can only think of the potential for comedy, a good old french farce or some such.
it must be expensive all the detail and engineering to make it safe.

hope you all well
dh will be out with dd for most of the day, whenever he wakes up that is, and makes himself human again (might be lunchtime by then) i have to do study stuff

Hello everyone,

I'm on a cooking marathon today, cooking all the meals we're going to have over the week so I don't have to cook when I come back from work.

That's the idea anyway. I might have to rethink my strategy as I'm finding my pans aren't large enough to cook large portions of food. We'll see.

It's a beautiful day outside today so I think I'll be going clothes shopping later. Is anyone doing anything fun?

Big hugs to PC ]]]]]].

I'm going to make some of that lentil puree your dd likes. Will just tell ds1 its soup so he doesn't feel like a baby