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WEST LONDON MEET-UP THREAD - OCTOBER 2006 - EALING, ACTON, CHISWICK, KEW, RICHMOND, ISLEWORTH, KINGSTON ETC

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MrsBigD · 02/10/2006 11:03

Here's the general chit-chat thread for October

Synopsis please on what I've missed last week! Too pre-occupied for various reasons to wade through all threads. Thanks

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suejoneziscalmernow · 03/10/2006 23:33

Couldn't you work from home a bit - at least avoids the travelling and allow you to take frequent rests. Understand that you want to go to DS's assembly but take it easy!

fatfox · 04/10/2006 07:16

Sue Hi

Have to go in tomorrow as various documents need to be physically sent with the bid, but may just go in for the time it takes to do that. can probably do some stuff on the phone today with the bid writer.

Guilt tripped DH into staying off today to help me get the kids up and out this morning.

Am feeling slightly more sane this morning after a good night's sleep

pudding77 · 04/10/2006 08:58

[hugs] to ff - hope you're feeling better

Uwila · 04/10/2006 09:18

Glad you are feeling a bit better today. And glad DH is helping. Let us know if you have any news on seeing a real doctor. (as opposed to 12 year old nitwit)

Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 09:43

hi everybody! fatfox take it easy!!!! glad dh is helping too . and positive vibes to mrsbigd... keep your head up have a good day all.

lemonaid · 04/10/2006 09:49

I think sometimes doctors think that just saying "don't worry" will stop you worrying, whereas in fact a bit of more detailed "This is what it isn't and why, these are the things that it might be, and this is what you should do under various circumstances" would be a lot more reassuring.

OK, ff - one bid document and one assembly, but other than that put your feet up and get some rest.

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 10:55

FF hope you're ok
How about you, SJ and me get together and have a good crying session?
Won't bore you on here with my domestic issues, but I think I've got 3 kids and dh is the youngest!!! He's threatened to move out as we dont' seem to be able to talk (erhem if he'd bloody open his gob we could) and I'm in a mind to let him go! And all that over a silly little thing... oh and now he's begrudging because I was away for his birthday and our anniversary... ffs I had asked him about 1 gazillion times whether it's ok. I thought it's a woman's job to drag up old unrelated things in an argument!

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Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 11:05

oh no mrsbigd ..... hugs your way and lots of them

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:23

any suggestions from anybody on how to proceed with a 38 year old toddler?

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Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 11:39

hide the toys (photo equipment related stuff....) til he says "sorry"

suejoneziscalmernow · 04/10/2006 11:45

Sticker chart?

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:46

so tempted to send him the following

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'This has to stop - this is making both of us ill

the way I see it there are 2 options

  1. We both grow up, stop sulking and get on with it; or

  2. We carry on as is, with neither of us giving in, and cause the slow death of our relationship'

A tat immature eh?

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suejoneziscalmernow · 04/10/2006 11:47

oh and him moving out would really help to to communicate beter wouldn't it . That does sound rather immature (and judgemental on my part, oops).

I'm around all weekend for crying sessions - open door policy Chez Jonez or M&S/Starbucks if preferred.

suejoneziscalmernow · 04/10/2006 11:48

the immature bit being his suggestion not your's btw!

Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 11:48

how would he feel about counselling? mine would bluntly refuse but i know of male friends who went counselling with their partners. and it worked!

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:49

thanks for the offer SJ but I'm (well actually we all are ) scheduled to fly to Munich for my brother's wedding! so looks like I'll be struggling to get there with both kids in tow

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suejoneziscalmernow · 04/10/2006 11:50

I would counsel him with a big stick if you would like to send him my way. I know, I know, iolence never solves anything but a bit of female solidarity would make you feel better...

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:50

Nanou1 I can't even get him to the GP when he's close to pneumonia...

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:51

so what's the verdict on my 2-liner? A bit to melodramatic?

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MrsBigD · 04/10/2006 11:54

SJ thanks for the female solidarity. Maybe that is what he needs to get it into his thick skull that the way he's reacting is a tad over the top

Hmmm just thinking whether he'll scour mn for me today knowing that I'm ticked off??? ah what the heck

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suejoneziscalmernow · 04/10/2006 12:04

I would leave out the grow up bit - it does sound childish (why does saying grow up sound childish? But IME it usually does). Instead in the get on with it option, I would suggest you get on with it until you both have some distance from whatever set of the current crisis and that you then agree a way ahead, almost agree Rules eg if he minds about you doing something that he tells you so you can discuss what to do - doesn't mean you can't ever do things he doesn't want you to but at least you know and can discuss options.

Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 12:07

melodramatic is for him to talk about leaving - sorry threathen... desesperate situations need desesperate actions.... if he talk about leaving then i would suggest counselling to save the marriage fast... unless it's a bad pmt of course... maybe he does not feel needed or a man even who knows... i'd be in such a state if i were you that's for sure. hugs your way...

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Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 12:12

if he is your average bloke (no offence mrbigd) then he hates problems and confrontations... so things will build up and then explode over something silly... i'd get him to talk, listening to him will ease things better than "belittle" him (that's probably how he would feel if he is told to grow up). difficult to explain over MN really... am i making sense?

Nanou1 · 04/10/2006 12:16

just saw your note mrsbigd... yep typical bloke! mine was all quiet etc when out of a job and yet chatty when we had guests or phonecalls. used to really drive me nuts...

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