@IWillWearTheGreenWillow - here goes!
Firstly, stopping eating bread / grains has totally removed my digestive issues. DH has been ribbing me about my terrible flatulence for 22 years now, and it's just vanished! This is a major win for me and a very good reason to continue on this WOE. I did a test yesterday, and seeds also set me off - but will it actually be a healthy diet if I cut them out too?
I'm not sure why you think not eating seeds or grains would be unhealthy - especially if, by not eating them, you have cured your digestive ills! Too many of us assume that bread etc is good for us when the reality is often quite the opposite. I'm so glad that you're benefiting from this way of eating (and by the sounds of it, your husband is too!). A lot of people who start low carbing with the aim of losing weight, find that there are other - perhaps more significant - benefits. For me, it was the realisation that I was no longer suffering from IBS.
However, I'm getting in a tangle with what I am eating. I'm concerned by the volume of meat I'm eating, but doing the veggie version is unlikely to be successful because I can't eat eggs or avocado.
What is your concern about the meat that you're eating? There's nothing wrong with eating meat, from a health perspective. If your concerns are environmental, that's obviously a different matter! Do you eat fish?
There are also lots of vegetarian options you could be eating - go and check out the vegetarian recipe thread that's stickied at the top of the Bootcamp Topic. (Sometimes it loses its sticky, or is stickied at the top of page 2, so you may have to hunt a bit for it)
I'm trying to follow @BIWitch's advice to cut dairy, but also taking out cream, milk, cheese, yoghurt and cream cheese is leaving me feeling a bit short of options
Perhaps cutting down rather than out would be a better strategy? I'd certainly be looking to cut the milk and cream out if I were you - but keeping cheese and yoghurt does give you a bit more flexibility, and certainly cheese can make vegetarian eating easier as well.
I love pate, but I'm not convinced it's not processed crap, (ditto cured meats like salami) and I'm not in a position to make my own (need to cross reference with practicality)
If you're buying a good quality pate there's no reason to believe it's crap! Just check the ingredients - and along with good cured meats, there's nothing wrong with these from time to time.
I'm very glad to hear that you're able to swerve cake, and also that you're recognising that alcohol definitely has more of an effect when you're low carbing!
Overall, the thing I'd say to you is to try and relax a bit more - you're already experiencing positive benefits, which is huge. Just see how things go and then it's all about tweaking the diet to make it work for you.
The other piece of advice I'd give you is to make sure you read the resources on the spreadsheet - reading more about the science behind low carbing is not only enlightening but also very reassuring.
I hope I've understood your post and answered fully, but if not just shout!!!