Oh, ilovecherries having someone to chat to about it, really helped me. A dear, good friend went through the process around the same time as me. We were physically very different, suiting opposite colours and styles. it really helped to understand the advice we were each given, by imaging the same thing on a different body, to see how it would help, or hinder.
For example, she was very tall, I am notably not. She was advised (in style) to wear bright, high contrast colours, while my best colours are all muted.
There is a 'house of colour autumn' facebook group, and an official 'house of colour' group, which might be some help. So sorry you haven't had a great experience so far...lets hope we can get some ideas for support. I tended to forget about it all, when i couldn't fit into any nice clothes, and have found my interest come surging back again as i have rediscovered my figure.
Many thanks, everyone in. Bootcamps past, present & future.