Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

morning all.

gosh. there's lots of dates going on now. i have to admit i'm confused with missing fri/sat with uni and friends over.

can someone fill be in with a highlight of who's going where and whats happening.

eve - well done on dd. will head off for proper look when i get a good look at fb.

lining he wins me doin the same in his strip - which is great cos I have a 2 bed bungalow and he currently has a room which is prob 4ft wide by 6ft long! happy days lol.

eve - hope you're ok, can't believe someone would do that - and assume the right channels have been used. hope DD is ok as well. well done her thou.

elast mum - go you!! 3 dates.

juicy - yeah am warming to him, will be a bit odd thou with next to no contact this week while he plays war on his battleship. few red flags there thou, but he seems to know when to leave me to it and when not.

sali - agree lou's bagged the last one.

monty/eve/ninah/ betty big waves.....

anyhow better run am cake baking today. yay! lol.

Hi everyone, I'm shattered today - was out with the girlies until the early hours and then up and just past the early hours with DS. I'm too old for this!

Eve - you're sounding positive, sounds like all be over soon x

Belle - what flags have you with soldier?

Elastamum - wow! If you need a database setting up let me know (I have one to stop me getting confused!)

Juice - how many texts would motorola send you in a day?? Mr Blue is constantly texting me and I'm getting a bit now. Or is it a forces thing 'cos they're not here??

juicy you ARE the fit summary! all I have gleaned so far is kdk's date was OK no spark and eve's daughter walked further than i have ever done in my entire life ... well done!
as for dates you seem to be doing pretty well yourself is that orwell as in george and eastwood as in clint
one for the body one for the brain?
hello to everyone
is free listing weekend on ebay btw

grr at all you lot with your baking skills. I cannot do cake making at all and my pastry is even worse!

Am currently lying on the sofa in invalid mode - have a suspected gum infection which is making the whole left hand side of my face hurt. have no more ibuprofen so will have to do the 25 minute walk to the shops in a bit

Eve -thats an incredible achievement by your DD. Very well done to her - and you must be ever so proud, I know I would be How is she feeling today? Or is she still not up yet?

Belle - sounds like you have the better side of the bet! and that you're quite keen on this one....

kdk - whats the back story with this potential man then? we need all the info to decide if he's suitable!

juice - how's the deluge of messages from pof? I did get winked at by a rather nice man from Aberdeen (not sure if that's your neck of the woods) on match the other day, however I felt 400+ mile distance between us would be something of an issue....

lou- hope DD and DS feeling better today, lots of sore throats at work atm so wonder if there is something going round....

silver - i think there may be some good men left somewhere, however it's finding them that is the hard bit! and agree with whoever said lou got the last one - we have asked her whether she should clone him for us but no luck

betty - are you seeing boilerman today? hope all goes well if so

monty- the stuff about professional men not looking twice?...goes back to my uni days, when I was told (by my friends) that I didnt have the right look - or indeed the right background (comp school, council house upbringing etc), which was why I couldnt get a boyfriend Sounds mean, but it's true and its been the same ever since. I dont dress, look, speak or act like your average lawyer. Hence professional men dont want me, and the ones who like the way I look are usually not clever enough for me or intimidated by me/my job, or both. Sigh

sponge at your friends saying that.

your background and upbringing have nothing whatsoever to do with the type of men you can attract.

nothing

ninah - yes.. one for the mind, and one for the body (doesn't look like clint, he's a bit old for me i'm afraid )

i'm avoiding pof. trying to clean and study today.

aberdeen is about 1hr drive from mine.

sm - yes. its a forces thing. dont worry about it though.. he'll be doing something soon enough and you have no contact at all.just now if they aren't doing much, they are just lazing around generally, sometimes they aren't even allowed off base. which must be pretty mind numbing so they tend to be on phones a fair bit. when on exercise there will be no contact for whole weeks. or just the odd random single text a day. well in my experience. belle can fill you in on this too.

Thanks Juice - wondered (hoping) it was a boredom thing and not a stalking thing! My mind was starting to go into overdrive about it! I'll carry on texting him back then and not panic that there'll be a mad stalking controlling bloke at my door holding stockings and high heels!!

hi all

@ sponge - I do get some of what you say but think you're putting yourself down/letting what friends said from years ago hold you back. You're a gorgeous intelligent funny woman and if men can't see that, whatever their background/professional status than it says more about them than it does you ....

OK, backstory about Mr Oh my god, did I get it wrong all those years ago ...

We first met as friends when I was at poly a million years ago. TBH, I fancied him and he me, but we were always with other people. Got together when I was 22, were together till 25 when we split because I left London to study journalism - and he left me for another woman. By an odd twist of fate she lives 10 minutes away from my childhood home.

We didn't really see each other much till I moved back to London and bought a flat nearby. By this time, he and F had two kids ... To cut a long story short - and I'm not proud of it (although she nicked him off me, I nicked him back ...), we ended up having an affair which ended with him leaving her for a while expecting to move in with me - but I told him to get lost as felt guilty about him leaving his kids.

We've stayed friends over the years - and I even get on with F although they've been split for about a year now. I suppose I've always known that he's got strong feelings for me - just not sure whether getting back together with him would be a retrograde step caused more by being fed up with the whole dating lark/a feeling that I"m not likely to ever meet anyone I fancy ever again ... although I do like him and, particularly when I've had a few drinks!, fancy him.

Apologies for length of this post, but you did all ask!

PS Juicy - is that why they're a bit full on with everything 'cos they're not around much?

KDK - I met my first boyfriend while I was out last night! We had a lengthy conversation, he's never got married, spent the day drumming when I got married . We had a bit of a laugh about the old days but I don't think people really change and it wasn't right then, ie, he played around, so reckon he'd do it again. IMO I never go back!

kdk - will you be able to trust him?

sm - i think it's their job thats makes them full on. they are very aware that every tour could end badly for them. it's not something they talk about.(forces has only mentionned it once to me)they have an opinion that life is short so live it to fullest as far as i can see. but really belle has more experience with this. she was married to a forces bloke. also.. i think theyre's another of the ladies on this thread was too.

yep twas me juice,my exh is forces too its a completely different way of life for them!

Oh gosh everyone can I join in?

Just ended a 5 month relationship and already feeling sorry for myself! Talk about feeling back on the shelf! :D

oh and regarding forces blokes being full on, exh was definately!

Oh yeah, I trust him. Reason he left me was due to my lack of commitment not his - he wanted nothing more than to settle down and have kids and I wanted anything but - eventually changed my mind about kids but still not too sure about settling down!

Hi single mum, Now not thought of a data base but it might be an idea - also think i might stop chatting to quite so many blokes as it is starting to confuse even me! Especially as blokes of a certain age all seem to be called John or Chris or such like so 2 of them even have the same name??

Anyway, nothing much happening this week as am leaving to go to work this evening and not back until mid week - unless I can organise a date in london from the chat who works down there

opps i meant chap!

Hi everybody and welcome to Asilva and Luna, you going to get back out there?? You know what they say if you fall of a horse you gotta get straight back on . Hope you're not feeling too bad though.

Eve - how's dd today? You ok?

Betty - are you seeing Boilerman today?

Kdk - you fancy him, he fancies you, both single, what you waiting for??

Sponge - I know what you mean now. Not fitting into either category. I'm a bit the same myself tbh although nowhere near as highly qualified as you . All the men I've had ltr's with have been self employed funny enough, neither one nor the other as well. They seem to be what attracts me. Would never pull a lawyer or anything me, not when I drink pints in the pub lol! But I agree with Kdk, and if they don't like down to earths that their lookout.

Hi Ninah, Belle and everyone.

Hi Hatesponge,

Re professional men, I do know how you feel as I also , as I have had some pretty high powered jobs and am very self sufficient. I am also a comp school girl which surprises quite a lot of them.

The way I see it is if the spark isnt there both ways then they are just not the bloke for me so I just smile sweetly and move on!

I decided a while back that I really am done with spending my life blowing sunshine up some blokes arse to make them feel good!

If thats what is required I'm not your girl. I already have 2 kids and 3 dogs to look after dont need a 3rd child. Not met THE man yet (maybe never will) but the quest goes on - bit like the crusades with a bit less bloodshed!!!!

I think my reluctance stems from the fact that I know that had my marriage or previous relationship to my marriage worked out I wouldn't even be thinking about, lets call him ... Arty - and that I'm only thinking about it now because of the absolute dearth of anyone else! Doesn't really seem a fair basis for a relationship if you see what I mean. I mean, I'd be devastated to know that that was why someone was with me ...

Ohh kdk, be careful with that one, if it didnt work our before it wont again.

I had an on off relationship for years in my 30's with an ex Bf. It was very easy but just fizzled out straight away when one of us - cant remeber who - met someone else. Truth was it was a bit of an easy stopgap but neither of us was really committed

kdk - but sometimes thats how things happen in life. one event leads to another. your whole life is x happened of y.

its years down the life.

your both different people in a sense.

go for a date.

see how the land lies.

there are many people who meet again further down the line and find the timiing is better and its works great.

dont pass it up. you might look back and wonder "what if"

betty - ... knew there was someone.

hi Monty! Yeah back on it, to be honest I ended the last one due to the fact in 5 months it was going backwards and not forwards, so I don't feel like there's been something to get my head around, iyswim. Has been a tiny bit of a shock as right at the start I truly did think it would go somewhere, and I'm usually fairly sceptical! Oh well!

Not entirely sure how to go about it if I'm honest, met him on a chance Christmas night out and as I go out very rarely might be this Christmas before I do so again...

Think I'm fitting in with you in the not so highly qualified category too... drinks down the pub would be my style if I went out

Luna - . Have you tried on line?

I am back with dp (at the moment!!) but the ladies on here will give all the guidance you need.

Welcome Luna

elasta - last 2 blokes I went out with had the same name - found it easier!!!