Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

betty - 1 dd, only slightly older than my ds

betty - glad you & boilerman are going well. it's good to hear of these dads being good with their kids tbh - gives me faith that not all dads are like our ex's.

eve - did you get out for sun bathing?

clara - not sure of your back story with ex - but i'd second stopping him having your 'main' number - DS has his own little phone is dad rings/texts on. I don't mind XH ringing mine but might be worth it for you to only have it on for set hours or something - ie give the number to your ex and say it will be on from say 3 pm until 7pm when the kids are in bed every day if you want to call them - doesn't have to be posh just a £5 jobby. that way you can relax when out. tbh he was prob abusive as he didn't get the required result - ie getting you back, so thought he'd opt to wreck your night instead - charming bloke! oh and as we always say - instincts are there to be trusted. where is squaddie at the mo then if you say he's away - they're not all bad - just about 85% of them! lol.

pmg - how's you? hope you've had no trouble from ex, is all well with marathon man still?

elast/eve/lou/pirate.. big waves to you all hope you're out having fun.

mrsmorgan - no haven't offended me either - althou we don't hold grudges here - how are you getting on?

mrsm - any news your end?

well i'd better run along & get DS sorted in his bath, & think about doing a spot of tea for him. am creme crackered.

Thanks everyone. Ex was actually sent to prison for a while last year for fighting, so I have told him that any more texts I get will be going straight to his probation officer, which would mean him getting in big trouble, possibly sent down again. I was debating changing my number, but I've had this one for about 4 years, so I was hoping it wasnt going to become necessary. Hopefully, he'll realise i'm serious-which I am, I've got no qualms getting him sent back down if he continues with it-and I won't hear from him again. He is DDs dad, but has seen her once since mothers day, so not really in touch.

I'm feeling like an attention seeker at the minute simply because I've been that down for the past few years, and I'm finally starting to feel like me again! I've suddenly got my confidence back, and have thoroghly enjoying going out with my friends and been a brazen trollop chatting up random fellas...don't really go further than a chat and the occasional cheeky snog but it's done wonders for my confidence levels!

Belle- I've been single for four years, only started dating again at the start of this year. Felt waayyy to rubbish about myself before that! I'm glad your soldiers gonna be around, it sounds like its going well!me squaddies down south at the minute, he got back from his last tour in feb, and should be coming back up near home soon, which is good!

Juice- meeting the relatives too? sounds like you've really clicked with him for it to be moving like this, it's lovely to see that happening.

Betty- sounds like you were a hit with the DD! Have you introduced dcs to anyone before? I never have with my DD-simply hasnt been anyone around to meet her!-and I always wonder at what stage to introduce people, and she asks me questions too, and I wonder how much to explain.

Do you think fellas think all this through as much as us???

Hi all

God, getting so confusing round here I am having trouble keeping up - think we need juice and one of her quick reminders again!

To those who asked, have messaged Zorba and asked him to send me his number - thought about sending mine and then thought I would hate to have to change my number as have had same one for nearly 10 years and can't face trying to remember a new one at my advanced years! If he ain't happy with that too bad!

Have also had message back from glint (who also has twins only much older - as well as two girls ...) - sounds nice and asked if we could meet up - well, tbh, he said he didn't often venture into north london but would be prepared to to meet me. Said I'd like to but will have to take a raincheck atm as have assignment deadline to miss ...

My dts are going to day camp tomorrow so I can go to the dentist and get some work done - though if dentist has to do root canal may have to retire to bed and cry!

And @ clarabelle, sometimes I don't think men think at all!

Some of the dads I have dated in the past do seem to have thought it through re when to introduce the DC's difference is that they don't always have to as part-time parents whereas in my case I didn't have much free time.

I agree eve I think some men do think about it, mind u my ex didnt when he took his new gf away for the weekend with the dc's the first weekend he ever had them on his own

I think maybe they dont over think it like us women do sometimes, it's a hard subject knowing when to introduce dc's I think there are a lot of factors that make it an indivual thing.

Hi All,

Have had a lovely day today waliking in the peaks.

Am swapping messages with a nice sounding man. Will call him flight as he is into flying his plane He lives nearby and judging by what he said in his messages he drives past my house every day though he doesnt know it! Travelling man has disapeared of the scene again, am going to let that one go I think as it looks likely to go nowhere fast.

Still, it has been a lovely day and I am doing mumsnet working at my laptop with a glass of wine

Elastamum, sounding good, in fact everyone seems to be doing well atm must be something in the air. I'm getting inspiration and am thinking about dipping my toe back in the dating pool.

Been sorting out the jungle outside in preparation for DD's birthday party. We are seeing SATC on Wednesday, followed by a meal at a restaurant, then cake at home. Then I am off for the rest of the week and we need to go shopping for her teen house party on Thursday night. I've dug out some coloured bulbs for the garden. I'm getting excited for her now.

Hi Eve,

I have noticed there do seem to be a few more interesting men out there, must be the weather! I try not to take it all too seriously or too personally and thus far it has been fun

well I've just had a load of texts from boilerman, and he's done the 'so are we a couple' now talk lol very sweet, so looks like I can call him bf now

elasta-sounds promising with flight, and glad you had a nice day

eve-def think u need to dip your toe again, are u going to try internet dating?

Ohhh a proper BF Betty. How exciting, good for you

yay betty.

clara - I think women tend to over analyse it all to a degree, the whole dating thing - as I once read men don't care if you add 2 xx's or 3 where as a woman will be thinking OMG he's only done one x what's wrong. etc etc. I think some men do think about introducing the kids as well - XH did - but I don't know if that was him or me as at the time I was a right cow (was OW) and I was determined she wouldn't meet my son & play happy families with my boy & my husband!

kdk/eve/elast mum good luck.

well picnic in the forest with soldier has been rained off - bad times, so currently thinking about what else to do - hmm I wonder! any ideas?

Eve- get out there and wow all those fellas with how fab you are!

South-no picnic, and a soldier in the house...what on earth will you do???

betty-yay!!

This one will blow your mind...squaddie doesnt even (or very rarely) put kisses on the end of his texts!!I didnt think that was even legal anymore!!I text him yesterday and didnt get a reply...so I guess I should just put down my phone and let him come to me. I hate doing that. It makes me want to text and say why aren't you talking to me?!!!BUt hes a fella and probably hasnt even realised he hasnt text me back. I hope. Either that or I'm back on the prowl again!!

Hope everyones ok this morning ands enjoying half term with the kiddiewinkles

Woohoo well done betty!

Dp never ever puts Kisses at the end of a text, and I have got out of the habit of it now because of that.

I dont read anything into it tho. He tells me he loves me enough through the day and we speak umpteen times.

I should get out of bed really I have a physio due at my house in an hour

morning all,

definately seems to be something in the air with the thread.

its raining here again though

lovely news betty, and sounds like you had a great start with dd too, def I think the situation is easier with younger dc
congratulations!
and belle, sounds like you are sofa bound too lol
and juicy v loved up, it's great to hear all these positives on thread atm
just got back from a weekend of partying and camping, it was mega, so all good here too

Raining here too

Do I spy a relationship status change on fb?

:-)

I noticed that too Lou!

Pissing down here, have been to dentist and had four injections in my gob and feeling crap - should be writing essay but feel too ill so off to bed in a minute.

Had message back from Glint (he replied after a couple of hours, bless) enclosing his phone number. Also had message back from Zorba saying that every time he's given his number out, he's never had anyone give him a call and promising that if I give him mine, he will delete it if he ever gets a hint that I don't want his calls/am not interested ... so what do you think? Give him my number and hope for the best?

To be honest, at moment feeling too rotten to bother with anyone ... and too inundated with deadlines anyway but ...

And on Friday am going to a singles stand-up comedy evening - well, anything is better than speed-dating.

Hope everyone is well - and think the smugs are going to need a bigger sofa soon!

I wouldnt give it to him Kdk, his reasoning sounds a bit weak and you dont know him well enough to gauge if he would delete your number or not

kdk - eh? he wont give you his number after you saying your concerned in giving yours out.. that doesn't sit well with me tbh ...there's just something about his reasoning is off i think.

but.. then again.. if you like him then go for it. you dont seem to have much choice if you want to continue contacting him outwith email if he wont give his number.

betty - will we go shop for a new sofa? i keep falling off the edge of this one as i try and balance on your lap where you squeezed on yesterday beside monty.

gonna keep it brief, dd still ill. going to hosp 2morro for 2 appts.

i have had some sort of smack in the face full on attention from someone unavailable. someone i have only ever classed as a friend. Luckily I put a stop to it yesterday, nothing has happened, but tho it hurt, i was brave and said . 'enough'

wish i could talk about it more but i'm too paranoid!

so as of today i am trying to get my head round where all those feeling from him and for him came from.

hi all, well we ended up in town having a few coffees and lunch out, embarrassed the HELL out of him as well by buying a build a bear teddy and pointing/making it quite clear it was for him. hahaha. sooo wicked!

kdk - honestly sounds like a player, I wouldn't bother giving my number out - there's a reason you said no to start with.

pirate - good luck with DD.

juicy - loving the maths book thing.

ninah - I may perch on the end of it.

hopefully this is a good thread for a lot of us. bout time we all found a nice chappy.

just doing DS the wraps for tea I think that we'd made last night for the picnic today. Roll on 7pm thou as I'm royally knackered. what are you guys all up to tonight?

evening, i am making a chicken pie with the leftovers from the roast on sunday

juice, that email was really funny

oh lou would like your recipe for that one. Think my dcs would prefer that to the curry I usually make with leftover.

Currently very gloomy and rainy weather here. Dcs watching 2012. Which is doom laden but they seem to enjoy it.

We are having sausage and mash tonite. Once I have peeled potatoes.

Think you will all be needing a corner sofa from DFS to sit on

I honestly don't think I will be joining you anytime soon but I am not unhappy about that.

Kdk let him give you his number, then you retain control.

Waves to everyone else.