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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

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Monty100 · 04/05/2010 22:35

Did anyone beat me to it??

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kdk · 30/05/2010 11:09

morning - how's everyone today?

I'm chlling at the mo and wondering whether to go for a swim or not. Got to take the kids to yet another party this afternoon. Drove down to Twickenham for a party yesterday - spent over three hours in the car there and back for a game of pass the parcel and a piece of cake (kids not me ... I got a couple of sandwiches). Was going to go to my friend's in Twickenham for a coffee/play before heading back but didn't fancy getting mixed up with all the eejits leaving the rugby so headed back home.

Have had another spate of weird messages - including one from a guy claiming to be a captain in the US army ... do not know what hole these fruitcakes crawl out of but do wish they'd find someone else to pester.

For example "I read your profile and I liked what you conveyed. I would love to start communicating with you and get know you better. Are you interested? I think we have a little in common if am right.i am here and looking for someone who is ready for love, someone who is ready to allow love swallow her all over someone who believe that When you love someone, you want her to be proud of you. You want her to think that there's nothing in the world you're incapable of and the thought of disappointing her is crippling.They say, 'A picture is worth a thousand words,' but when I saw yours, I was speechless." blah blah. And another one which I deleted from yet another bible basher in the states ...

Messaged zorba again and got message back saying 'bored of emailing, send me your number please' will suggest he sends me his instead.

And waiting to see if glint replies to the email I sent him in return to his.

Should be writing essay but can't get motivated - please feel free to shout at me tell me to get on with it.

thesouthsbelle · 30/05/2010 11:45

kdk - that email sounds like a standard one he'll be cutting and pasting. can you change settings to limit those who contact you? the other bloke is a bit blunt isn't he?

we're busy bees here tidying - or at least i'm tidying and DS is pulling it all out again!!

kdk · 30/05/2010 11:50

Hi Belle, think luckily my sub runs out at end of month and for some reason I don't think I'll be renewing! Don't think you can geographically restrict - at least I've never found out how ...

And been wondering what the heck does ready to allow love swallow her all over mean anyway??

I got another one which was so badly spelled and ungrammatical I couldn't decipher it - and I'm supposed to be an adult literacy tutor ...

Guy claimed to be English but was so obviously not ... just thought it was one of the more idiotic things to lie about as bit of an easy one to spot should you be bonkers enough to arrange to meet up.

mrsmharket · 30/05/2010 15:40

i did post but it's not 'kept' for some reason

hi everyone hope you all feeling better?

found out the guy who gave me his number might have a gf and it's on his fb page not very clever of him was it?
NEXT!

kdk · 30/05/2010 16:34

think between you and me, mrsm we've really got the market in seedy men! You get the attached/married and I get the merely mad! Oh well, always another on the way ...

MrsMorgan · 30/05/2010 16:44

Thought i'd poke my head back in here if thats ok ? I know I was a bit rude to some posters on here a while back, so if it's not ok to join in then thats fine, just say.

It's just that finally after 4yrs I am getting some interest and already it appears to be going tits up lol.

mrsmharket · 30/05/2010 16:46

true kdk, though mr boots took quite a while to mention the boots yesterday
oops gotta go, time ran out again. have good evening everyone
lou - what's bfn?!!!

kdk · 30/05/2010 17:03

bye for now? could be wrong because I am not too good at acronyms

lou33 · 30/05/2010 18:40

Yes it is bye for now :-)

Remotew · 30/05/2010 21:20

MrsMorgan, I don't remember you so you didn't upset me.

Hope everyone is OK. Life isn't worth living! Help, still going through nicotine withdrawal. Is it worth it, I probably won't even give up? GRRR

kdk · 30/05/2010 21:26

Eve, stick with it. If I can do it, anyone can .... how long have you not smoked for? Try drinking a large glass of cold water/carrot sticks/plain chewing gum/going for a walk ... all supposed to help ...

Monty100 · 30/05/2010 21:27

Hello everybody

MrsMorgan, I remember your name but can't remember you being rude. If you thought you were being rude then you'll have learn to be rude properly.

Eve - respect to you. Try and get through this bit they say it's the worst and you've come so far. You need a bit of support from Juice.
(total hypocrite here by the way).

I had the mother of all hangovers today . I stuck to beers but obviously had too many. I'm losing my ability to drink! . I have got nowhere with my mucho domestico .

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Betty79 · 30/05/2010 21:28

Where is everyone hiding this weekend?

Mrsmorgan-welcome back, I dont remember what happened before? but im sue it's all fine. So whats been happening in the dating world for you?

belle-sounds like you had a good weekend

kdk-lol you do get some messages!

mrsm-surely that bloke would have known if u were a fb friend that you would see mind you I once added someone from zoosk on fb, to find out he had just announced his engagement on fb! Needless to say I deleted him as a friend straight away!

As for me, still all with boilerman. Spent last night with takeaway watching tv, and it's so easy with him!

Betty79 · 30/05/2010 21:30

crossed posts,

eve-stick with it you CAN do it!!

monty-lol @ hangover from hell, did you have a good night?

Monty100 · 30/05/2010 21:42

Betty - yes thanks it was good craic lol. You had a very cosy night on the marital sofa lol.

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Remotew · 30/05/2010 22:09

Thanks guys with the encouragement. It's early days stopped on Thursday but made it twice as bad as I had a couple on Friday night. I've given up so many times just to go back, once was for 10 months!

Monty ouch! trust you will feel better soon. Waving to everyone else. Betty and all hope you have had a good weekend, very jealous of the ones feeling loved up. I still miss he who shouldn't be mentioned in a perverted way! Strange life.

sincitylover · 30/05/2010 22:09

Hello all

well we had a mammoth day out - left house at 8 to drive to Surrey for ds1 cricket match then drove back into London to Lords and went to watch the cricket at Lords. Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be and got back about 8pm tonight.

Going to have a nice lie in and relaxing day tomorrow.

Not much else to report - hope to be back on mn longer tomorrow.

elastamum · 30/05/2010 22:18

Hi All! Well I am here! Back from my work trip late last night and still catching up on work as the kids are away

No dates here this weekend. Am chatting to a couple on line so will see where it gets to.

Am off up into the peaks tomorrow with a girlfriend for a walk before the kids are back on Tuesday. Really looking forward to getting out there, finges crossed for good weather

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 31/05/2010 09:25

hi all,

i've had a hectic wkd.

big night out with girls on sat. pretty much spent the whole rest of the wkd with rochester.

there is talk of a holiday with all kids.. infact.. there's more than talk, organisation has begun.

belle - glad you had the big convo. .. as for ds... i think you might need to properly introduce ds if you have already been rumbled and soldier is to be a regular overnight visitor.

eve - i still want a cigarette every single day.when i quit before for a few years length.. i still wanted a ciggy.. every day. it never leaves you. but i do find i found it easier but avoiding situations where i thought about it.

if you have a morning routine of coffee/ciggy.. change it to a chamomile tea.

remove every single thing that reminds you of smoking.. bin every ashtray, lighter, etc out of the house. you dont need to be reminded of a ciggy everytime you go into a cupboard for something else and see an ashtray or stray lighter.

tell smoking friends not to give you ciggy's no matter how much you ask. and even ask them not to smoke infront of you till you feel strong enough not to be tempted.

i find quitting easier without nicotine substitues. its like ripping plaster off. harder at first. but i find the patches / pills are another reminder of smoking.. i aim to try not to think about it as well as not to do it. makes it easier.

monty - how was your night out?

kdk - did you give him your number?

betty - at boilerman. have either of you met eithers dc?

hows everyone else?

i'll try keep up. but hectic week again.

clarabella23 · 31/05/2010 10:36

Morning everyone! Hope everyones feeling better than friday night?

Juice- is that a holiday with Rochester and all the kids your thinking of?Big step!Things must be really promising if its like that already!

KDK- give him your number and get chatting! I never feel like I can get to know someone over email, it feels stilted to me, I much prefer to text or talk on the phone.

Friday night outing was a mixed night. Had a really fab night with the girls, had a cheeky snog and got a couple of numbers. But the ex was trying to ring and text all night, first trying to get back with me, when that didn't work he moved to 4 hours of abusive name calling texts. Also saw the skyman out with a girl hes been dating chatted to him and had a hug, will prob see him this week as friends, but it made me sad. That and the abuse from the ex meant i went home and had a good cry

But been chatting to me squaddie- gonna go with that since soldier is taken!-getting on really well. I just freak out I think because hes not here, and I'm being a bit of an attention seeker at the minute! I'm starting to think I should knock the others on the head for a bit, and see how it goes with him. He's much more on my wavelength-i.e. accepts my crazy-than the rest of them, and there are lots of sparks there. Just doesn't feel as relaxed as with skyman...but maybe thats not a bad thing, just different? I just don't know!!!

Remotew · 31/05/2010 10:53

Clara, I would knock the abuse on the head. Tell him you won't read anymore texts and for him to ring instead only when he can be polite.

Squaddie sounds promising.

Juice, where are you planning to go? I won't use NRT to give up either. Once the withdrawal is over which is soon then it's just making sure you don't puff on one again. I feel so much better already and tbh I havent been budgeting well recently and 10 a day is costing nearly £3 so I've plenty of reasons to keep off them.

Nice day today will get dressed and do some gardening/sunbathing then may go out somewhere.

Enjoy the bank holiday all.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 31/05/2010 11:01

clara - dare i say if you are feeling a bit attention seeking at the moment that you should definate do whatever dating you do very very slowly.

is there any reason you feel attention seeking?

why are you in contact with abusive ex?

change your phone number. if u have dc together contact can be done over the landline so no abusive texts (and you can screen the calls if not in mood).. email... or simply have set times and dates and stick to them.

and yes... holiday with all kids.

DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 31/05/2010 11:03

eve - to visit his relatives and my friend who are down south within an hour of each other. couple of days at each house.

Betty79 · 31/05/2010 14:58

Juice-Does rochester have kids too then? I must have missed that? Sounds like things are going well

As for me or boilerman meeting dc's I met his dd last weekend when he had her and I stayed over wasnt really planned and I felt guilty afterwards which is why I didnt mention it here, she's 2 and very cute and he is lovely with her Aparently she was asking where I was yesterday too lol He hasnt met mine yet but I think he will soon.

clara-sounds like you had an eventful night out, I would knock the texts from ex on the head too. I have a friend who's ex is like that

thesouthsbelle · 31/05/2010 15:14

big waves..... happy happy happy over here, the south coast is shining. we've been for a fantastic walk on the beach had an ice cream.... went out last night with soldier again for a chinese/drinks. meeting again tomorrow for a picnic & stroll in the new forest. loving the quiet chilled out life at the mo. fingers crossed it stays. bit upset thou in some ways as he's not off to the USA now for 2 months (still going in sept thou) so gutted I don't get to look after the car - which i'm dying to get behind the wheel of - boy racer one & he drives it like a girl! but dead chuffed he'll be around.

juicy - glad things are going well for you and rochester - brave brave lady thou with all the kids.

clara - agree with juicy - take it slowly whatever you do, how long have you been dingle/dating?

(jsut gonna flip the thread then finish catching up)

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