Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone? Part 21

[Monty100]

Did anyone beat me to it??

oh lou, another ex being a sh**head, back to cutting them into bits and popping them into a carton!

scl, yes the dress looked fab and glam,

sponge, wouldn't give on the fittie maybe he'll grow on you

elastamum, yes I reckon he is checking out weather you are fit enough, I sort of had to go through that with Marathon man except I did a 10 mile cross county cycle ride. I was up to the task obviously In actual fact I am now hooked on mountain biking. Make sure hair and make up are good as you can't get away from the sportswear!

Monty27, you are sounding a bit jaded?

kdk go get it girl, turk and greek, should be an interesting combination!

hi to everyone else

Sponge, that email really made me laugh!did you reply? Please say you did!

One of mine is hooked on motorbikes, loves racing them, and hes got me quite hooked too now, tempted to do my license for it. I don't think I could have hacked it if it was proper cycling though, I haven't done that for years. Not sure if I would remember how!

As for my lovely fellas...I have my Skyman, he's my favourite, actually found him while he was fitting my sky. Although I'm counting him, nothings happening for the moment- we were seeing each other for a couple of months, but neither of us were ready for a relationship, so we knocked it back to friends with benefits for a while. But we've stopped that for a bit as there are other people on the scene, don't want anyone else to get hurt. Really do like him though, could have got serious with him in other circs.

Next up is a soldier, who I actually used to date when I was 15...my first "proper" boyfriend bless! Could like him quite a lot too if I let myself, but I'm holding back at the moment with him being a soldier, away all the time, just not sure. But we need a nickname for him!

Last up is a 21-year-old I met the other week, cute as a button,totally in awe of the fact I'm older and more experienced than him, and he just makes me smile when I think of him, he's lovely and funny. We had a cheeky snog when we met, and have been texting ever since, and have our first date tonight-no idea what we're doing yet!

God, another long post, sorry about that, I do tend to ramble! Hope everyones ok this morning? I'm sorry to hear bout the ex been an idiot Lou, it's so hard to know what to do for the best-you don't want the kids to be hurt, but why should you have to make him look like he's putting in all the effort? Maybe just leave him for a couple of weeks, see if he realises he misses them on his own?Really don't know what to do for the best, my ex is very similar to this, but I've got to the stage where I leave it to him now, it's totally his responsibilty to contact us about visitation. DD doesn't actually notice shes not seeing him much most of the time now, as sad as it is.

thanks for all the lovely comments about the dress - I was soo tired tipsy when I got in I just vegged out watching sex and the city.

I did feel very strange wearing something so swooshy and a bit vulnerable - started off wearing some nice undies then changed to Bridget Jones knickers in case there was a sudden gust of wind LOL also had to be careful getting in and out of car. So not used to wearing heels.

It was a good evening for a work related do. There were many professional cricketers there (my ds1 would have been in heaven). Food excellent, reasonable company - no talent on my table just two rather large men and another nicer guy - the women were fine.

Sat next to rather oafish and opinionated broker type who gave me his card - most unattractive.

But enjoyed swanning around in taxis and free champagne and wine. It was very corporate type of do with those types mostly present. Used to work for a large US corporate and went to a few events then. Not really expecting much talent tbh.

Ha Ha sponge - mine games wtf

Lou - your exh defies words really

Elasta - good on you for active date - I would be crap at that. I do cycle but have no stamina. Actually I can only think of one physical activity I really like and am good at dirty old woman emoticon

Welcome Clara - you sound really switched on re men/dating etc - can probably teach me a few things

At work again so haven't time to read properly.

Welcome Clara and you poor thing having the ex flitting back and forth for 4 years. So glad you have got back out there now. It takes time but we all get to the right place eventually.

Sponge lol at 'mine games and jogging on'. If he's cute though! I should shut up as cute isn't enough. Also what are the police doing about ex?

Will catch up later.

Clara this is not new sadly. He does it a lot.

Anyway I felt rough last night and didnt sleep til six. Dd1 ended up getting the boys to school for me. I slept until about half an hour ago but still feel not great. Headache etc. Dd has offered to get the boys for me too

rofl @ "jog on"

scl - bet you looke fab in that dress. i liked it for sure.

lou - whats the longest ex has gone before realising you wouldn't keep chasing him to contact dc?

clara - can soldier have a different nickname. belle already has a soldier. butyou seem to be doing well in getting back out there.

going on a hike for a first date ... well... why dont you just say your willing to try but cant guarantee you are up to his fitness. gives him an ego boost. then you can feel free to bow out at some point in the date if you find it BORING to hard.

mr rochester has most definately forgiven me last night .

ok, now I accept I am weird, a hike/walk would be a great 1st date for me

Think its been a at least a couple of months that he has left it before. Lets not forget he went to thailand for 14 months once and didnt see them

pmg. - i wouldn't mind a walk either.

lou - is he away to thai just now?

I have to say going hiking on a 1st date woul be my worste mightmare lol but then I'm not very outoorsy. But I'm sure you will have fun if thats what you enjoy!

juice-glad mr rochester forgave you

Lou-Grr to ex not calling the kids

I've just been shopping on my first day off, planning to take kis to liverpool museum tommorow I think, might even brave it and take them on the train!

Yes juice he went a few weeks ago. I had to email him and ask him to let the kids know he was ok because of the rioting. He sent a brief reply saying he was fine and would call them on the following monday. That was the monday before last and of course he didnt bother. Not sure when he is back either

Evening everyone, yeh I finished work today and am off on hols for half term on Friday - yippee!!!

Can anyone answer a pof question? Why when you're logged in and search does it not find someone, but when you're not logged in and do the same search it finds them?? Does that mean they're hidden or something??? If that makes any sense at all!

sm-If they are hidden you wouldnt be able to find them in a search whether you were logged in or not I think. Who is it you've tested it on lol?

dunno sm1, why do you need to check? sure you are not worrying too much? (hands wine glass/spliff/pile of ironing)
This thread keeps jumping out of order
kdk it isn't tactile that would worry me it is 'refined' lol
hiking date would be a nightmare for me. The blokes I know who are keen on the Peaks dress the part, think cheap fleeces, cagoules, and have stomaches like marshmallows, so it can't be all THAT healthy
monty I still don't know what course to take nnext year right now i am revising for my GCSE lol
hello and welcome clara/claire
waves

Any ideas for another nickname for the soldier? And is anyone willing to give me a recap of whos dating who so I can pretend I'm on track? Whats everyone up to for the bank holiday? I also break off for the half term this weekend, a week without work, woohoo! Just gotta keep DD occupied for a week

Clara-What are his interests? that might give u something for a nickname? I woul try to give you a re-cap but I'm a bit lost myself!

i can never keep up with who is doing what either

fwiw i have been with my lovely fella since mid december, and we met online, though it wasnt a dating site, although i assume a lot of people would use it as a way of dating

anyway he is the best man i ever met

betty is dating boilerman
asbm lou and monty join us from the land of marital sofa (you know, with dps and all). Betty is odds on to join them
juicy, it's mr rochester right now but i'm thinking he shouldn't relax
eve kdk scl and i are kind of jaded optimists
pc and ec seem to have dates on the horizon
sc1 is dating but anxious
mrsh seems to have hung up her dating boots for now (sorry mrs h couldn't resist)
I've probably missed a few, sorry. Juicy is queen of updates.

Evening all

SM, bit confused - are you saying you can find someone in a search when you aren't logged in, but can't find them when you are logged in? If so, only explanation I can think of is that the person in question has blocked you (not you in particular I mean ... just that they've blocked a particular person). Does that help?

Hi Clara - sounds like you've got plenty to keep you busy!

I'm a cynical singleton who's generally quite happy on the shelf - and definitely much prefers it to most of what's on offer to the over-40 year old single mother in London though do go on the odd date if the inclination takes me.

Speaking of which have had email back from Sculptor - his message said 'Nice to hear from you! My messages just said, "you look nice, how are you?"

Im in Tower Bridge, You?
You like Marmite, thats ok, just dont kiss me after eating it, lol!
Be nice to talk?'

So will probably message him back and maybe give him my phone number. What do you reckon? Or should I just carry on messaging for a while? Just realised that his photos are a few years old as well ....

Not heard back from glint - but it took me a while to mail him so he may be taking his time in return.

Off to make a salad nicoise, catch you all later.

kdk would message but not give out your no til he asks sorry make that begs for it!
scl the night sounded good except for the tory boy and did lol @ your comfy pants!!

Do not give out your number until you have spoken to him long enough to know he wont abuse it

Welcome Clara - I'm the anxious dater!

Ninah - I've just poured a drink! I need to Chill girl chill!

Betty - you know who I'm testing, lol!

Kdk - its weird, you can find him on a search when you're not logged on, but if I log on and (a mate of mine has tested it and it happens to her too, so he can't have blocked) he's not on the list.

Anyway, whatever! I'm going to enjoy my beer and pack my case in a bit. I've been really good and kept my phone out of the way today too!

sm-so have u heard from blue?

kdk-def make him wait a bit longer for your number

I've been invited to a bbq sat at my mates and she's tol me to bring boilerman, ha alreay planned to spend day together so might do but am a bit scared of my mates grilling him lol

hiya all. is there something in the air?
why do marreid men seem to sniff me out.

actually no don't answer that .

have just had another message from nutter in (I think) michigan - I think he contacted pirate as well .... bloody bible basher who describes himself as god-fearing and willing to relocate for the right woman! Oh, be still my beating heart! Do you think I should write back and tell him I'm a satanist and want to move myself and the kids to the states?

Also had yet another message from some d*ckhead who has sent me about 8 previous messages, all of which I've ignored - does he get the albeit silent message. Wouldn't mind, but they are getting a bit much ie 'Get the kettle on, I'll be around in 10'.... think I may have to complain as I don't think there is a block facility.

And have decided you are right and will message sculptor back and not give him my number just yet ...